Thank you very much for this information. I feel a little bit better. I still have my main concern is talking to my partner about my situation, I feel like no one is ever going to want to be with me again.

I am scared if the guy I really do care about excepts this all, then what to do we do from there. Part of realtionships is sexual. Will he be able to preform oral sex on me? Or is this not safe what so ever?

I am concerned what to do when it comes time for my to want to have children. Will I pass it to him and potentially my child?

Thanks

Again, check out this website: http://consults.blogs.nytimes.com/2010/06/18/giving-your-partner-herpes/. I think you will find it very helpful. Unfortunately, herpes comes with life-long issues. You have to tell your partner that you have herpes and let him review this website. He must become full informed ot what the risks of getting herpes: you shouldn't be deciding what sexual practises are safe or risky-- it's up to him and him alone to decide. Fortunately (if you want to call it that) I was infected by a partner (who denied having any STDs) later in life so I wasn't confronted with the obstacles that you are facing. I think you have to be realistic that some persons will be uncomfortable with having sexual relations with an infected partner and not take it personally. Besides, what's worse having herpes or giving it someone else? Without honesty, there is no trust. Without trust, there is no relationship. Herpes is an opportunity to learn how to speak one's truth. Good luck to you.