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Friday, November 13, 2009 24 year old woman, Community Member, asks

Q: I have HSV-2, and i'm scare to dead to have sex again.

I'm going to see my boyfriend for xmas,he does not have herpes but i do.I'm scared of passing it to him..and also the last time i have intercourse(long time ago), i felt it burns like hell because of the herpes outbreak,and i did not know i had it by that time(i thougth it was just a yeast infection)..the thing is that i know my boyfriend loves me and accept me with this issue,but I do not want him to get it and i don't feel 100% outbreak free yet,don't know why.

I really miss having a normal sexual life..but know i do not know if the outbreak is gone or what?I'm in the treatment for almost two months now and don't have any bumps or anything but it still looks little bit red...I'm so insecure,know i don't know what is normal or not normal anymore,I need help!!! please!!!..i want to be happy again and make my wonderfull boyfriend happy too.

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wellness, Community Member
11/14/09 10:37am

HSV-2, like HSV-1 (the cold sore virus), is highly contagious. This is why sex, etc., before marriage does not make any sense. See HSV-2, HSV-1, and cold sores for more info.

wellness, Community Member
11/14/09 10:44am

HSV-2, like HSV-1 (the cold sore virus), is highly contagious. This is why sex, etc., before marriage does not make any sense. See for more info.

Flash, Community Member
2/26/10 10:36pm

I have  HSV-2 also. I can relate to your problem. I got herpes from my ex-fiancee that cheated on me. Now I have a new boyfriend. I am also scared about spreading the disease to him. My advice is ask you gyno. Call her and tell her your concerns. I call my gyno all the time and ask what is normal for people with our condition. I also want you to know you should not feel bad about yourself.  Genital Herpes affects about 25% of Americans. This means 1 in 4 people have it, with total numbers of carriers of the Genital Herpes virus exceeding 50 million people in America alone ( You are not alone. Also 70-80% of people experience Oral Herpes (cold sores).( Most people that have oral herpes got in when they were baby from adults kissing them. So don't get upset your not alone.

24 year old woman, Community Member
2/27/10 9:53pm

Thanks very much!!..i apreciate your coments...I'm trying very hard not to let this thing get in to my way...I have so many plans for me and with my boyfriend...i told him about my problem and he was very understanding and is giving me all his suport and love...that is very important, because the more stress and concerns you have the more outbreaks you get.


Thanks again, and hope you are doing good..

whenever you need to talk to somebody just send me a message.. :-)

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By 24 year old woman, Community Member— Last Modified: 12/25/10, First Published: 11/13/09