Maybe you all should look in to getting some sex toys. I mean maybe he would get pleasure watching you please yourself or actually using the toys on you. I have heard of something called dental dams for oral sex but dont know the details of them. It great that he doesnt want to put you at risk but let him know that sex with anyont is a risk because you have some idiots out there that will sleep around knowing theyhave a disease UNPROTECTED and just dont care! I applaud him!!!!!! Or maybe you all could get some porn and watch it together while you give him a hand job. As im typing this I cant beleive Im giving someone advice on how to have sex with someone who has herpes. I have had it since June and havent had sex with a guy in almost a year. Telling men about my condition turns them away! I mean all of them! So I Applaud you as well nicole3190!!!!! How long have you all been together and how long has he had it. Send me a message. I like to hear different scenerios of this thing and how the person that doesnt have it deals with it. read my posts.