Before I answer this, why are you having sex with another person without discussing STDs. Better yet, why haven't you both got tested prior to having sex? I was infected by a doctor who insisted he had no STDs-- lie, lie, lie. We knew each four months before entering an relationship. He was too ashamed to tell me. Are you aware that recent studies indicate certain strains of HPV cause throat cancer in men from oral sex?
If she has HSV-1 herpes, yes you can get oral herpes. If she has HSV-2 herpes, no you can't. However, you can get herpes from skin to skin contact in the genital area, thighs and buttocks without sexual intercourse.
Check out this website: http://consults.blogs.nytimes.com/2010/06/18/giving-your-partner-herpes/. Also, a condom is only 30% effective.
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