I can't believe the person who loves you would treat you that way.  I want to start by saying that you deserve better than that, regardless of what you have or don't have no person should feel like they're a monster within their own home.  You can't give someone herpes by shaking their hand or touching them and if he loves you he should educate himself and stop doing demeaning things to you.  I've been on Valtrex for over two years and have only had one outbreak (when I ran out of my medicine for a month) since it had time to get in my system.  The drug is expensive but their are programs that will pay for your medication, I get mine for free everytime and it has made my life much easier when dealing with herpes.  The worst thing you can do is isolate yourself, that causes depression, depression causes stress and stress causes outbreaks.  Millions of people live with herpes and have perfectly normal lives.  In Europe herpes isn't even called herpes by most people because so many people have it.  We are not monsters, if anything we have lived and learned and been through tough times that I for one am proud to say have made me a stronger person.  The guy I got it from lied about it and I truly feel like herpes made me stop dating all the losers that were liars, emotionally abusive, bums that wouldn't work and now I date people with goals and jobs that take me out on a regular basis.  I hate that you're going through all this, I know its hard, and its harder for you with no support at home but you have to do what makes you happy, whether thats trying to educate your husband or dealing with his ignorance to the STD is up to you.  Just remember that no matter what herpes is not who you are, it's something you have and you're still the same person he married, you've done nothing wrong.  You also may want to tell him that some people never have an outbreak that they're just carriers of the disease and he may have it as well, regardless he has no right to judge you that way.  I hope everything works out for you, life is to short to live in isolation.

I am so sorry that your husband is treating you like that. You are not a monster. HVS is very common - 1 in 5 people in the US (1 in 3 women, 1 in 4 men) have it.  I know it's very difficult to deal with this diagnosis. I contracted it in 92 and I am still struggling to accept it since it reminds me of how and who I got it from (abusive ex-boyfriend who used to rape me). I wish no one had to suffer like this...

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