Does this sound like herpes?

I became aware that an ex partner (an affair) of mine had a girlfriend who was taking valtrex for herpes. She said she never had an outbreak but her blood tested her postive. I went to see the doctor after I found this out, I have never had an outbreak or anything. I was given a blood test and it came back ambiguious but my doctor said that it can not be distinguished between which one I have {herpes 1 or 2} or if I will ever have an outbreak. She said that herpes is a virus and I may have only been exposed to a small percentage. I have had no discomfort or sores. It has been 8 weeks since I was with this man. Yesterday at the top of my butt crack I had an irritation. I have ezxema so I ignored the discomfort. I reached back and felt it and it felt like bumps. I looked in a mirror and it was a little red with irritation. The bumps and irritation is just at the top of my butt crack. I pushed my finger down on them and i think they were puss bumps because they popped. It is not sore and they have not come back. They did not leave open wounds. I put some antibiotic on it and a bandaid. I have been doing a lot of research on this since the occurence and I believe herpes will bleed and leave an open wound. My irritation also did not bleed. Someone please help me. I know a herpes outbreak normally happens between 2-20 days so what is going on? Is it possible, I did not wipe good enough and had an irritation from not being super clean?

In addition, I did have sex with someone else my fiance four days ago, which was 7.5 weeks after I cheated. I told him about it and we took a break. This was the first time we were together again after I cheated. My fiance and I were having sex and he pulled out and came on my stomach. No cum even touched my back and or ass. I am so confused about this spot. Someone please help!!!!!!! One more Q: does herpes come from the transfer of fluids?