You still have an obligation to tell the other person.

I think about the guy who gave me herpes - he never once mentioned that he had it the entire time he and I were involved. I wonder sometimes whether he knew. There were two guys I slept with before I was diagnosed. Patrick was the first guy, and we had unprotected sex multiple times. I was naive and trusting. The other guy I slept with once, and he had a condom. I blame Patrick. Every time I date someone new, and it gets to the point where intercourse becomes a possibility, I hate Patrick.

Even if you never show symptoms chances are - according to those hateful Valtrex commercials - that you will be spreading. This is especially true of men. The last statistic I heard was that 1 in 4 women had herpes and 1 in 8 men. Herpes just transmit more easily from men to women. Or maybe men sleep around more. I don't know the exact reasons for it... but we owe our lovers the consideration my first boyfriend never showed me.