I am seeing a man and I see myself falling for him more everyday. He has Genital herpes, It doesn't bother me or offend me at all. I treat him like I want to be treated. I myself don't have Herpes. Since I am falling for him, I started researching this and I would like more info on how to protect myself from getting herpes...I know to use condoms'. Washing hands.. No contact at all where the Virus is unless we use protection..Will there ever be a time where I can give him Oral? I am not going to stop seeing him just because of his situation, he is a great guy and can't help that he got this Virus. He is honest, he didn't have to tell me, but he did...He has done his research. Now I am doing mine. Maybe one of these days Him and I can do this researching together...Please help me get all the info I need to better and help our relationship. Thank you
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Q: I am seeing a man that has genital herpes, and I don't have herpes please help!
Well the first question for him is do you take valtrex? 1000mg a day helps reduce the risk of giving it to you, a condom does too. You can get it anytime with or without an outbreak that does not matter. The mouth too is my experience but when the partner takes higher dose of valtrex and a rubber probally not get it, my sis can tell you I am right that advise worked for her and she went with the guy for 3 yrs. who had herpes she never caught it.
You can give him oral when theres not an outbreak but if your not comfortable about it then use a condom
I have herpes and I have been married for ten years. I take valtrex and I don't use protection when having sex with my wife. During an outbreak I dont have sex period.
She has not contracted herpes. education is the key.
I TOO AM IN YOUR SAME SHOES. I WAS SCARED & STILL AM THAT IS SOMETHING THAT YOU DON'T WANT TO LIVE WITH. AND YET LIKE YOU SAID IT IS NOT THEIR FAULT THAT THEY GOT THIS. MY BF ALSO IS A GREAT GUY WHICH IS ONE OF THE REASONS WHY I'M ON HERE TOO LOOKING FOR ANSWERS. THE ONLY THING THAT I'VE HEARD IS USE CONDOMS AND MEDICINE THAT , THAT SLIMS THE CHANCES OF GETTING IT. ALL THOUGH I HAVE DONE IT WITHOUT ANY PROTECTION THINKING THAT THE ONLY WAY IT WAS SPREAD WAS IF THEY HAD AN OUTBREAK YET I WAS MIS INFORMED. THERE IS 70% OF NEW CASES THAT WERE CONTRACTED WITH IT WITHOUT ANY SYMPTOMS. YET I HAVE NOT HAD ANY SYPTOMS OF IT & DON'T THINK I HAVE IT. YET AM TOO WANTING TO KNOW IF THERE IS ANYWAY YOU CAN GIVE ORAL SEX WITHOUT GETTING IT OR HAVE UNPROTECTED SEX BECAUSE IN TIME AS THE RELATIONSHIP GETS MORE SERIOUS MIGHT WANT SOME KIDS. SO MAYBE WE CAN HELP EACH OTHER WITH INFORMATION THAT WE HEAR. THAT CAN BE HELPFUL TO US BOTH. AT LEAST I KNOW THAT I AM NOT ALONE.
I just recently contracted this disease. I am never going to have sex again. I do not want to take the risk of infecting someone else. I did not even have sex when I got this disease. All that happened was that he forced his herpes stick on me, and rubbed it on my bikini line, the exact place where I now have the herpes. At the time, I told him "no", I did not want to have sex and pushed him off of me. He basically and knowingly forced his herpes on me. I was just letting him stay with me for a short time, told him we could just be friends. When he left, he informed me that he did not like me and that he wanted to hurt someone the way that he felt he had been hurt... I guess we know what that means. I have been so careful over the years and did not even have the type of herpes that everyone else has. Now I am stuck with this life long dreadful disease, all because someone was trying to get back at someone else, and forced it upon me without even having sex!!!!!!!
You have every right to SUE this person!Here is an article about someone suing another person for 20 million dollars for giving them herpes.
http://abcnews.go.com/US/hollywood-herpes-lawsuit-alleges-list-celebrity-gave-std/story?id=13595476
The plaintiff is suing for sexual battery; intentional infliction of emotional distress; negligent infliction of emotional distress; and fraud in the misrepresentation against the defendant.
Read Christopher Scipio's book. Its called Making peace with herpes. In his book he will hightlight in detail, how to protect yourself. Be safe please.... If you read his book, it will be the best thing u ever did to protect yourself.
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Read Christopher scipio's book " Making peace with herpes", it will be the best thing u ever did to learn how to protect yourself. He will hightlight in detail in there how to protect yourself, by using dental dams, finger condoms etc..