My fiance has the HSV-2 and we are planning to get married.We are looking forward to have kids oneday,and we are afraid of that virus casue problems later on the kids.
we are both 27 yrs old.
Looking forward to hear from you soon.
When you are ready to have kids let your the OB know. They will take precautions during the birth of your child. Heck, go talk to one now, both of you, and ask your questions.
Also, know that I (the woman) have hsv2 and my husband does not and we have been married for 20 years now. None of my children have it and I had all vaginal births.
It is not as horrible as you think. Once my husband accepted me with hsv2 I hardly ever get an outbreak. Frankly, I only get them when my mother-in-law shows up. lol This is workable, and won't stop either of you from doing anything or having children.
Thank you I have a question I am in love with a wonderful lady who has had the HSV-2 virus since she was 16, she is now 40. she has 3 kids all born vaginal births married to hubby for 16yrs and none of them have virus. we have never made love, had oral sex please help me get over my fears. can I give her oral sex? must I wear a condom the rest of my life? she doesnt take meds....only vitamins? it broke my heart to learn this about her
like the 1st comment i have met someone i really like who thinks they may have herpes, she is getting tested as we speak but while we are waiting for results i got curious and wanted to know everything. i want to accept my partner and be by their side.
you have said that you have herpes and have sex with your parnter without protection have he has not caught it off you. is this simply because you do not have sex during an outbreak?
does that mean we can have sex without protection when there is no outbreak and if the medication or treatment is followed?
also what precausions did you take to give birth naturally and not infect your children?
hope you can help... thanks
How did you tell your guy you had hsv-2... and how long did you wait to tell him. I have recently met the man of my dreams and I just don't know how to tell him. I am so afraid of him not accepting me.
Wow, this is the biggest thing about having H ... the talk...
After about 3 months of dating, what I did was gather all the pamplets I could w/ information on hsv2. I had him over for dinner then told him we needed to talk. I told him I have herpes simplex #2, offered the pamplets to him, and asked if he had any questions that I would be happy to answer them.
He simply said he trusted me, and didn't even look at the materials. He didn't change his behavior towards me. Everything just kept on progressing. That's how I knew he was okay with it.
Other men I told prior to him reacted differently. And there is no way to tell how someone will react. Some not well, others it makes no difference, creates no distance. This is the hardest part about having H, "the talk". Sometimes you get a big surprise, and they tell you they have it too.
Many of us talk to each other, as you are, and look for support and encouragement. In the end, you won't know the kind of man he is until you tell him.
In the scheme of things herpes is a small thing, overblown, and more taboo than fact. Cancer is far worse, blindness, liver disease, diabetes. Something is coming for all us eventually. How a man (or woman) handles the small stuff will tell you alot about them, and in the end, however it goes, believe it is for the best.
I wish you luck babe. I'm rooting for you.
I just found this thread; it appears to be on the older side, so I'm not sure if I'll get any responses or not, but I'll toss out my questions anyhow.
I too am engaged to a woman who has hsv-2. I'm trying to be supportive as much as possible, but I understand that I've got a couple things working against me:
1) This is all very new to HER too, so she doesn't have all the answers herself.
2) Understandably she's not completely comfortable talking about it in great detail just yet.
This being the case I'll ask the couple of main questions that I have.
First of all, as we're going to be married, and monogamos, I'm wondering how careful I need to be. From what I know of HSV-2, it doesn't cause any "serious" health problems, and gets milder with time. How much of a risk really is there? Do I need to be using condoms, or is there any reason I shouldn't just enjoy a normal sex life with her, and basically not care if I catch it or not.
Secondly, when she's having an outbreak, what can I do to help/make her more comfortable/make things easier for her?
I know my fiancee just came right out with it. Told me she had it, and was willing to answer any questions. (as I've said in my previous message, there were things she didn't have the answers to, but it went pretty smoothly, because things were open, honest, cards on the table. As has been mentioned, there are going to be guys who'll just go with it, be accepting, and not worry, others will run for the door. In the latter case, just figure that it's best to find out in a case like this, rather than at a time when you really need him. It's sad, but it's times like these that will show who your real friends are.
After she told me, I went and looked up as much information as I could find about the condition. Not because of any distrust or anything, but because I wanted to learn all I could, so that I could be as supportive as possible. Knowledge is power.
how did you meet your husband? i am concerned on my future. you sound very happy and thats wonderful! how were you able to overcome it?