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Q: If I had unprotected sex with someone who has herpes - does that mean that I will for sure get herpe

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Melody, Community Member
6/10/08 10:09am

No, it is not for sure...just ask my husband of 9+ years...he's still virus free and we have an active sex life. But.....you need to get checked about a month or so after you were exposed. Was your partner having an outbreak at the time of your encounter?  If so, your risk of infection is much greater. If they were not having an outbreak, you are not likely to be infected..but it's not impossible.  There is something called the shedding phase that dr.s say can be a time when the virus is transmitted between partners. I don't understand that phase much, but I think that they really don't know all there is to know about the virus.  Bottom line...get a blood test to determine if your body has developed antibodies against the virus...this indicates that you have been infected by the virus.

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liz, Community Member
3/18/12 6:27pm

no they have had it for 9 months and have only had 1 breakout. we had unprotected sex yesterday and now im nervous to know what the chances are that i now have it

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Melody, Community Member
3/18/12 6:53pm

If there were no sores present, then you should be okay. If you stress about it, then every little thing will make you paranoid that you contracted it. Just relax and go about your business. Next time, always use protection so that you don't have to fret over it. Email me back if you need more help. mlmcdermott@windstream.net

 
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mike, Community Member
4/18/12 5:27am

look my name is michael.. nd about a month ago. i had unprotected sex wit a girl who has herpes, wich i didnt know.. now i cant even sleep in the nights thinking if i got it, i feel like my life is going down the sink.. i have a lil daughter nd im afraid i might pass it to her by juss kissin her, i also had sex wit my girlfriend and thts what scares me the most because if i have it, theres nothing i culd do.. but it juss wuldnt be fair wit her... its been over a month aready nd i feel no sypmtoms what so ever, but yet im more paranoid than never because i've had read avery link, comment, news, info.. etc about herpes and it says the sypmtoms are sometimes fever like and flu symptoms.. and i juss recently had a fever but it when away in a matter of 2 days because i took medicine.. i have no blister, no lil red bumps. no nothing, sometimes i get itchy in my legs and groins but barely, and i dont know if it is because i been so paranoid about it tht is the only thing i been thinkin about the last month and im so scared i cant decided myself to go and get check, plus i always have gotten itchy in my legs and groin area ever since i was a kid because im hairy person, nd in the sumer gets worst. .. but any way my point is.. theres any chances tht i have herpes??..plz help me.. i hope u get to read this and anser bak to me asap. thank you :). my email is

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mike, Community Member
4/18/12 5:29am
justinp, Community Member
7/14/13 12:55am

well i hadunprotected sex with a women that i just found out that had it. i heard she had a outbreak, and when i got home 2 days later i got the herpes simplex virus on my lip. i thought i got herpes so i went to the doctor they told me it was just a virus and if i take the medicine it will kill it. well she gave me oral too so do i have herpes even though i dont have bumps down there or anything like that?

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By November, Community Member— Last Modified: 07/20/13, First Published: 06/09/08