If you give her oral sex it is possible. More than likely you would get hsv-1, the cold sore kind, but both transmissions are possible. If you want more information look here: http://www.herpes.com/Transmission.shtml.

Whatever you do make sure she's not having an outbreak at the time. And check if she is taking a suppressant drug like Valtrex which cuts the chance of transmission by 50%. I'll have you know that there are apparently plenty of people on this site who have had sex with non-infected partners and their partners were not infected. In any case, I wish you luck. I feel sorry for this person you are with because now I have to deal with this disease myself and the attitude of the previous poster is my worst fear...that no one will ever want to be intimate with me ever again