My husband may have genital herpes, which means I may have it too.( it may be hpv as well, the doctors are not sure yet) We are in the process of getting tested now, but my question is, if we do have it, how will our sex life change. We have been married for a year and have been monogomous. Can we still have oral sex, or will we need to abstain or use protection? Can we have anal sex still, or will that spread it to that area too? Does it make a difference between the anus and the vagina, or as long as you are infected it can pop up in either place anyway?
And if we do have herpes, how could we have been doing all these things for the past year and a half and not have mouth sores? He has an area that gets bumps, and I have an area that gets red and irritated, but it has not spread anywhere else on either of us even though we have done oral sex on each other and had anal various times before.