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Q: Having unprotected sex while NOT having herpes outbreak will you DEFINITELY pass it on?

I had unprotected sex with my new boyfriend, i have had herpes for over 12 yrs, hardly ever have outbreaks, less than once a yr, will i DEFINITELY give it to him, or is there a chance he wont get it????

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Aunt CeCe, Community Member
4/28/09 1:36pm

You have herpes. Can you infect other sexual partners without symptoms? Absolutely YES. Whether or not either of you are willing to take that chance, is only up to you.

meIdo, Community Member
4/28/09 11:15am

There is no definitely here. I have hsv2 for over 25 yrs now, and I've been married for 20 years and my husband doesn't have hsv, and yes we have unprotected sex all the time -- I got him fixxed after the kids were born. I get it maybe once a year also. I just gauge how I am feeling downstairs. If I suspect I have it we don't have sex...

nothappy, Community Member
9/11/13 6:04am

if your partner never had symptoms and i got herpes 2 from him can i still give him oral sex without a condom if he never has or ever had sores?

Disclosing Herpes, Community Member
1/ 4/11 3:09am

My ex-boyfriend felt he could not give me herpes (denied having it) because he had been asymptomatic (no outbreaks) for years. We had unprotected sex-- it took 1 1/2 years for him to infect me. My girlfriend became infected after seven years with her husband (no symptoms). Studies reveal that persons with asymptomatic herpes shed approximately 4% to 10% of the time without knowing it. Valtrex and condomes can reduce the chance of infecting a partner but not fool proof.

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By gab, Community Member— Last Modified: 09/11/13, First Published: 04/28/09