Mattie-

Wow....sorry to hear about this but I know how you feel because I too have gential herpes that I contracted from an ex-boyfriend who I found out was messing around with other girls. I have not been in another relationship since finding out. Even though I know you said it cost a lot for your test although Im not sure why because most health plans should cover it, but he definitely needs to find out for sure because there is a good chance he does have it but then again he may not and you need to find out asap...if he doesnt have it then you all will need to make efforts to prevent him from catching it because you can always give to him even when you dont have any symptoms or outbreaks. And even if he does have it, you both still should be using protection so that way you are both protected from getting an outbreak when you dont want it. Im sure you would rather not have outbreaks than to get having them because you dont use protection, just because both of you may have it doesnt mean you want to keep having outbreaks that will prevent you from being able to do things together until they heal, plus for some the outbreaks can be very painful and unpleasant. I hope you can maybe talk to your doctor and do some research on how he can take the test without paying so much. Hope everything works ot for you both. Take care