This is so sad. After 17 years of marriage without sex, my husband left. I met a "Christian widower" very active church member on line from out of town, he was my knight in shinning armor; we dated 2 years almost every other weekend we were together, vacationed together I assumed marriage was forthcoming. Sex was incredible at last. Then he broke the news we should date others and he started wanted to use a condom and strange phone calls at his home and he admitted talking to a couple of them, etc.. We broke up, and now I have been dating a very nice man in my neighborhood for 6 months and we actually do plan to be married. I just this week found out I have Herpes which I am 99.44% sure came from the ex-boyfriend.
My new boyfriend & I have had a lot of unprotected sex even oral. Are we to assume that by now he has it too and just continue like we have been. The test cost me $988. We hate to spend another $988 to test him also. Far more sad is the fact that we are in our sixties and never dreamed any such thing as this would have ever come into our lives. We certainly would not want our children, grandchildren or anyone else to know.