how do I tell partner about my hvs-2 and what do I say the risks are for them? Is this the end of re
how do I tell partner about my hvs-2 and what do I say the risks are for them? Is this the end of relationships for me or can I have one with someone who is not infected. I fear I'm now tainted and will need to break this off with person that I care deeply for and only date people with this same virus. this sucks! thank you for your time.
I've been thinking about this too since I found out. are you taking daily suppressive therapy at all? if you are tell him you're on that and it reduces the risk of shedding the virus and reduces the amount of outbreaks you get. tell him if you wear a condom it helps spreading the disease and it is not positive you will infect him. it's like taking the risk of getting pregnant - there's always a chance no matter what precautions you take. tell him you're most likely to pass it when you have an outbreak and then you just don't have sex when you're having one. you can still stay in the relationship if he's nice about it and really cares about you. i hope it works out!
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Also, i was just wondering did you get it from him??
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reddiver77
Wednesday, July 29, 2009 at 08:33 PM
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Thursday, July 30, 2009 at 11:25 PM
I agree with you on that. Im married and I nolonger want to be with my partner and I know he feels the same way but were scared to leave each other out of fear that we will be alone. I havent got the courage to leave him and just step out on faith an believe that the wonderful Lord will bless me with someone else. Back to your original question...... when i first met my husband we dated for about 3 months before I told him about herpes. I just said I recently found out I have Herpes and i understand if you dont want to be with me. He immediately said "i still want to be with you my love. Its not that bad. It want kill you." He later confessed that i could have told him i had HIV an he still wouldnt have left cuz he was head over hills in love. Bottom line if someone truely loves you their not going to care. i suggest you just tell her.
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Saturday, August 08, 2009 at 01:33 PM
I completly disagree with you! I have been married over 10yrs and my husband now has HSV 1 and 2 and I do not have either. I love him but since we found out he has Herpies we have not had sex. He is very upset that I wont but when we met I wouldn't even share a drink with him. People think differently don't judge love on if someone is willing to get a STD it isn't right.
No one WORTH telling? Are you insane you have to stop this now you cruel, insensitive excuse of a man.
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reddiver77
Thursday, July 30, 2009 at 02:04 AM
Yea not worth tell and not being intimate with. do you tell or fuck everyone you meet? or are you just a hypocrite mad at the world taking it out on me. I would like to be intimate with others but really want a connection that transcends the sex. I'm out to get laid. and if I was I would be sure to inform my partner. so quick to judge. Glad to know I can come here and be honest with my feeling. thought I might find some help on how to inform my partner. guess it would be better to go into it completely ignorant about what I'm doing. Is this the advice you give everyone. you should pull yourself together and be thankful that I'm not some teenybopper lost, looking for refuge. What do you think your response would do for them. maybe shove them back into secrecy thinking they don't have anyone to talk with to find help and make smart choices. I would say thats how this gets spread around, wouldn't you! you really should be more understanding with people. I don't think anyone here is out to infect the world. I would like to say we're here to prevent the people in our lives that we love and care about from infection. I feel sorry for you that you live in such an angry ma hating place... and I'm not the guy that lied and gave you this shit!
reddiver77
Thursday, July 30, 2009 at 02:10 AM
not out to et laid! please don't miss read. already have a bad rep here evidently
Hey dude a word of advice - someone always knows something about you – right!? So tell her or she’ll know one day and you’ve had it!!!! Like me **cked
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Thank you for your answer. I don't take anything for it. but then again I never have outbreaks. I haven't had one for almost two years. think maybe I should get retested. but know thats just a dream where i don't have it. Oh I'm a guy. so it will be her that I need to tell not him. I had two outbreaks very long ago when I was still married my wife had it too. we don't know from where though. now that I'm divorced for about a year 1/2 now and have met many people in that time. no one worth telling though. now that I've finally connected with someone who I think is a very amazing woman and things are going very well for us in every way where do I go from here? I can't keep dodging sex forever. and it gets harder with ever day that goes by as we find more and more that we really care for each other and work very well together. I don't want to let her down by getting her hopes up that she has met someone she can care for dearly to only find everything is perfect just that we can't have good lovin. I'm not a priest nor is she a nun I feel that I won't be able to have a deep relationship now. The fear of rejection is not so much my worry but that never having anyone to be rejected by. like I could make 100 wonderful connections with people but then know that they can only go so far before I need to break things off with whoever it may be. How do you start that off, Hi my name is... and I have herpes. next and hope you don't settle for someone just because they do as well. that was the thing with my ex. their was reluctance to end it for that reason. I think in the end thats the only thing we had in common with each other. but thats not a life and its miserable to live that way I'd rather be single. Oh what to do what to do?