12 and 15 year old sons still in diapers and incontinent?

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  • My 12 year old son still needs to wear a diaper but he cant help it, we tried potty training but we just couldnt get through it and my oldest wet the bed his whole life. I feel really bad for my boy since hes always getting lots of grief from it and doesnt have many friends. Changing a big kids diapers all the time did get really tiring, he really hates wearing a diaper so i hope he can outgrow it some day, hes slowly getting better. I didnt know their were so many people who needed them until i saw this site. That makes me feel a lot better about having a 12 year old still wearing a diaper all the time and a 15 year old still in diapers at night because i almost feel like a failure because of it. Although without them he would be a completely different person. I just really needed to get that off my chest. Other Moms are always looking down on us even though its not my boys fault. If anyone wants to know more or just to chat about it, feel free to email me at whiteangie81@yahoo.com

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Published On: June 20, 2012
18 Comments
  • texasprince88
    Feb. 05, 2017
    Don't let it get you down! You and your sons are definitely not the only ones out there dealing with such a problem. I also have two sons, ages 23 and 19, both of whom have dealt or are still dealing with significant incontinence issues. My wife and I were able to successfully potty train both of them when they were 2-3 years old and thought that was that until...
    RHMLucky777
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    Don't let it get you down! You and your sons are definitely not the only ones out there dealing with such a problem. I also have two sons, ages 23 and 19, both of whom have dealt or are still dealing with significant incontinence issues. My wife and I were able to successfully potty train both of them when they were 2-3 years old and thought that was that until our older son started experiencing occasional bedwetting when he was 8 or 9. Since I had also wet the bed infrequently as a boy and young teenager, it wasn't anything new to me so we bought him PullUps/Goodnites to wear at bedtime. Then our younger son also started wetting the bed...although less frequently than his older brother. Eventually our younger son grew out of it by the time he was in junior high school while our older son continued to wet the bed and even wet his pants on occasion. Then one day while sitting in class at school, he got the sudden urge to pee and have a bowel movement but was unable to make it to the bathroom in time. Being 16 years old and accidentally wetting and now pooping his pants was the final straw for him so we took him to his pediatrician. Neither of our sons have any mental or developmental issues and are both very active and athletic boys that were/are good students with lots of friends, so my wife and I couldn't understand why our older son kept having such incontinence issues. When we took him to his pediatrician she referred is to a pediatric urologist. The urologist ran multiple tests and scans of his urine, kidneys, bladder and other organs and finally diagnosed him with peripheral neuropathy of the bladder and sphincter muscles. He told us that our son was gradually losing control of his bladder and bowels and that by his early 20s he would most likely be totally incontinent. Even though he had already been wearing PullUps/Goodnites and diapers for several years at night, the doctor recommended that our son begin wearing traditional diapers 24/7 seeing as he would eventually have to wear them full time anyway. Needless to say we were shocked and our son was very upset. As an above average high school baseball player he had hoped to get a scholarship to play college ball but after the doctor suggested that it would be difficult for him to be diapered 24/7 and still play baseball, he started revaluating what he was going to do. By the time he graduated from high school when he was 18, our son had been wearing diapers full time for two years, was totally bladder incontinent, and had started experiencing semi-regular bowel incontinence as well. Now at 23 years old, our son works as an analyst for a large marketing firm and is pursuing his MBA with a focus on sports management in hopes of becoming a sports agent or professional baseball scout. Unfortunately, in addition to being bladder incontinent he's now completely bowel incontinent as well and is unable to control when he wets or poops in his diapers. He has to change his diapers and clean himself multiple times a day, a task which he has down to a science. Thankfully he's learned to accept his problem and has grown into a very strong and well-rounded young man with many friends and hobbies. And after having accepted his sexuality and (surprisingly for his family) coming out as gay when he was 21, he's been in a successful relationship with his partner Caleb for over a year. Caleb is a few years older but also a really great guy and very understanding of his incontinence issues. So I guess my point is that despite being vulnerable teenagers or young adults, most of them are very resilient and may surprise you with how well they can accept and adapt to the challenges they face.
  • Caleb976
    Sep. 07, 2015
    Hi I got a school city camp and I I have a baby brother And I not sure if I need them and at night I cant get up from bed to go to the toilet becuse i need to pee realy badly And its really hard for me to get up and one time at school I was getting food from my back I really needed to pee badly but my teacher didn't let me go to the toilet and I was about to...
    RHMLucky777
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    Hi I got a school city camp and I I have a baby brother And I not sure if I need them and at night I cant get up from bed to go to the toilet becuse i need to pee realy badly And its really hard for me to get up and one time at school I was getting food from my back I really needed to pee badly but my teacher didn't let me go to the toilet and I was about to eat but then I droped it because I peed outside and it went every were and I got it on someones jumper and then I ran to the toilet and my guitar teacher arrived and he asked me teacher something and he went to the toliet and said hi Caleb wile I was trying to dry my jocks and pants he said do you want me to call your mum I said yes he was my favorite guitar teacher. I feel I like I might wet the bed at my school city camp and it all 5/6 and I'm 13 and I some time wet the bed only like one night. By Caleb Hammond please respond to help me
  • moore390731
    Jul. 02, 2015
    Im twenty-four years old and i still wear diapers so dont feel bad
  • Edindiapers247
    Mar. 08, 2015
    Hello I'm Edward in diapers 24/7 all my life for Incontinence. I was born with a non working bladder so I have no choice about being in diapers. I totally love wearing diapers. Stop worrying with what other people think or says about your kids wearing diapers. 1 it's not there kids it's not there problems there are millions of people in this country suffers...
    RHMLucky777
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    Hello I'm Edward in diapers 24/7 all my life for Incontinence. I was born with a non working bladder so I have no choice about being in diapers. I totally love wearing diapers. Stop worrying with what other people think or says about your kids wearing diapers. 1 it's not there kids it's not there problems there are millions of people in this country suffers from Incontinence . There are tons of sites on the net about boys ,teens, and guys in diapers. If this works for u and your family stop worrying what other people think about u and your kids, your not giving your kids drugs or hurting them in any way, so keep doing it. Edward.
  • Reds16
    Mar. 25, 2014
    Do you see his private area. I'm asking because I'm 16 and I had to show my mom my privates because I had a medical problom. Hoe does he feel if u see his privates
    • Romy
      Dec. 01, 2015
      That must have been really hard for you ! I totally understand. Your 16 so I guess you were in puberty? Or did you still had your kids body?
    • tez
      tez
      Sep. 19, 2016
      mom was diapering me from age 11 till 12 and a half..and i did it after that..at bath time she still seen me naked she would wash my hair and back and dried me off...i did not hit purberty till near on 15..long after my mates..i was thinking something was wrong
    • Reds16
      Sep. 29, 2016
      Yes I had hit puberty so I had some pubic hair. I had a sevear testical infection over the 2 years. I have grown a lot both in hight and penis size how ever I'm still small for my age. I was in diapers for 6 weeks just before my 17th birthday because I had broken my femure in a accident. I had a cast from my left toes to my hip and down to my right knee. It's...
      RHMLucky777
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      Yes I had hit puberty so I had some pubic hair. I had a sevear testical infection over the 2 years. I have grown a lot both in hight and penis size how ever I'm still small for my age. I was in diapers for 6 weeks just before my 17th birthday because I had broken my femure in a accident. I had a cast from my left toes to my hip and down to my right knee. It's called a hip spic cast I think. My mommy had to wash me while I was in the cast and diaper me to cove me up.
    • tez
      tez
      Oct. 06, 2016
      mum always seen me naked up till the age of 14 she was my hair and back washer and dryer i did not get pubic hair till i was near on 15..dont know if bed wetting had anything to do with that...my mates was 3 years in front of me.i did think something was wrong but never asked a doctor..seemed puberty and bed wetting all start/stop around the same time..mum...
      RHMLucky777
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      mum always seen me naked up till the age of 14 she was my hair and back washer and dryer i did not get pubic hair till i was near on 15..dont know if bed wetting had anything to do with that...my mates was 3 years in front of me.i did think something was wrong but never asked a doctor..seemed puberty and bed wetting all start/stop around the same time..mum diapered me from 11 to 12.if i hit puberty in that time i might of been a little off with mum doing it..not sure how i would of felt..what i think my worry would of been and thats an erect penis..and we know when puberty hits that can happen a lot.thats a part of life
  • Anonymous
    happy2314
    Aug. 01, 2013

    Where do you buy the diapers

     

  • Cap
    Cap
    May. 26, 2013

    When I read this post .. it occurred to me that ..

     

    "WHAT IS WRONG WITH THIS PICTURE!"

     

    Then I thought .. children wear eye glasses and get (at least this was the case when I was young) teased and called 'four eyes'.  And you now can go on almost endlessly.  If a child has any deformity or is different in any way (perhaps an albino...

    RHMLucky777

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    When I read this post .. it occurred to me that ..

     

    "WHAT IS WRONG WITH THIS PICTURE!"

     

    Then I thought .. children wear eye glasses and get (at least this was the case when I was young) teased and called 'four eyes'.  And you now can go on almost endlessly.  If a child has any deformity or is different in any way (perhaps an albino skin coloring difference or birth marks or ..) .. the same teasing and mean-spirited-conduct towards that child happens.

     

    So it is NOT about the diapers!  What it is about is this mean-spirited human trait that we seem to possess as a species.

     

    So I encourage you to simply say .. "Damn-the-torpedoes full-speed-ahead and do what needs to be done."  No matter the difference (eye glasses or diapers or you-name-it!) .. the end result sadly will be the same .. inconsiderate and thoughtless and mean-spirited comments.

     

    Sign me .. The Human Condition Can Be Frustrating!

     


    • steve jenkinson
      May. 27, 2013

      I totally agree, well said.

      Steve

    • Anonymous
      Father of a rea...
      Oct. 21, 2013
      Are you all for real this is crap all of you are sick child molesters Dam I was on the net looking for help with my 2 year old And came up with this site fucking freaks
  • Andrea
    Oct. 03, 2012

    My 12 year old son is still in diapers as well. We have decided to hold back on potty training for various reasons, he's asked a few times but he's not ready yet.

     

  • Lynn K
    Aug. 05, 2012

    I was back in diapers when I was 9 for the same reason.  Mom and doctor said, stop wetting yor pants or you will be put in diapers.  i honestly couldn't help it and found myself in Pampers day and night.  I was never dry at night and was daytime trained when I was like 6 and then not the best with dribbles abd post bathroom peeing.  I always...

    RHMLucky777

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    I was back in diapers when I was 9 for the same reason.  Mom and doctor said, stop wetting yor pants or you will be put in diapers.  i honestly couldn't help it and found myself in Pampers day and night.  I was never dry at night and was daytime trained when I was like 6 and then not the best with dribbles abd post bathroom peeing.  I always had more come out after I finsied and was very careful, it just happened getting me in trouble and teased (in school).  I was always compared to little kids who were out of diapers, like that was going to help me.  Once they discovered my spina bifida, they stopped teasing me but it also meant I was in diapers forever.  Your son is also going through a lot and people forget about his feeling as he is wetting or messing in his diapers.  It's like "hey what about the kid here".  Adults annoy me with their perfect world and expectations.

    • AW1981
      Aug. 05, 2012

      Hey Lynn i understand what thats like and my kids know it, some adults can be really insensitive and just don't understaand when it comes to things like that, my kids have been through a lot because of it

       

      Angie

      whiteangie81@yahoo.com

    • steve jenkinson
      Oct. 01, 2012

      Hi there don't worry about it things could be a lot worse your boys could have arms or legs missing wearing diapers is not a problem. if they are not dry now they might never be I am incontininet and it don't bother me one bit.

      Steve

    • Anonymous
      Timothy
      Feb. 02, 2014

      I had to wear diapers until I was 17 day and night. Does your son go to school in diapers.