wife wants to put 9 year old back in diapers

JP Community Member February 02, 2010
  • Hi my son has been having pants wetting for about 2 months now. My wife wants to put hin back in baby diapers she went out and got some last night and had him in the diaper all day today I don't like this how can I get her to use pull ups instead. Please help me out with this thank you

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  • Anonymous
    JEFF
    Jun. 21, 2013

    DIAPERS ARE BETTER COZ THEY ARE THICKER THAN A PULLUP , JUST PUT DUCT TAPE ON THEM AND HE CAN PULL THEM UP AND DOWN IF HE MAKES IT TO THE RESTROOM IF NOT HE HAS A DIAPER ON, I DO THIS WITH MY DEPENDS I PUT DUCT TAPE ON THEM SO I CAN USE THEM LIKE A PULLUP

  • In4real
    Jun. 09, 2010

    Contrary to many other posters, I agree with you. I think you should tell your wife that you will use pull-ups during the day. It's positive for self esteem, and allows him to exercise some control when he is able to do so. Without having to ask for assistance with his underwear.

  • Anonymous
    JEFFERY
    Feb. 20, 2010

    I WEAR DIAPERS BUT I WEAR THE PULL UPS OVER THE TOP SO IF I WET THE DIAPERS TOO MUCH I CAN TAKE THEM OFF AND STILL HAVE SOME PROTECTION

  • Anonymous
    Jon
    Feb. 11, 2010

    How does your son feel about the diapers? Does he like wearing them better than wetting himself?

    • Anonymous
      Lynn
      Feb. 11, 2010

      It sucks to wet your pants and feel so bad.  The diapers help maintain a little self esteem.  I am positive that he is not wetting on purpose and just can't help it.  I had those same pronlems when I was 9 also and used to wet my bed nightly and had a lot of daytime accidents.  Tehy fould out I have a mild form of Spina bifida that block...

      RHMLucky777

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      It sucks to wet your pants and feel so bad.  The diapers help maintain a little self esteem.  I am positive that he is not wetting on purpose and just can't help it.  I had those same pronlems when I was 9 also and used to wet my bed nightly and had a lot of daytime accidents.  Tehy fould out I have a mild form of Spina bifida that block some of the signals when to pee.  As long as your son knows it is not his fault and he should never feel bad about using an aid (diapers) to help him live a better life.  Once I was back in diapers and not forced to use the potty for peeing, I felt so much better.  It was so stressful before the diapers and the shame and embarassment was awful.  the diapers were by far the lesser of two evil!  Stand behind your son, never use them as punishment, let him know you love him, and let him know your proud of him for handling this like a little man!

    • JP
      JP
      Feb. 11, 2010

      He is ok with them he is much happyer now because no one knows when he wets his pantes and his bed is dryr when he wakes up I do dgive fhim lots of love

    • Anonymous
      Jon
      Feb. 11, 2010

      That's good. I've always been much happier in diapers. Is he wearing them full time now then?

    • Lynn K
      Feb. 14, 2010

      Once i got used to diapers I was a lot happier too.  The good thing with the diapers now is that they are quiet and thin.  When I was in Pampers they were thick like cloth diapers and crinkled when you moved.  He should do pretty good at keeing them hidden under clothing.  A lot of parents don't understand that 24/7 is much easier for the...

      RHMLucky777

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      Once i got used to diapers I was a lot happier too.  The good thing with the diapers now is that they are quiet and thin.  When I was in Pampers they were thick like cloth diapers and crinkled when you moved.  He should do pretty good at keeing them hidden under clothing.  A lot of parents don't understand that 24/7 is much easier for the parents and the child once they commit to diapers.  Stand your ground as a parents and just continue to love him every day.

    • Anonymous
      concerned
      Mar. 13, 2013

      If a Child of normal intelligence wets or poops in their pants there is a logical reason for it stress in school, bullying, exams , divorce, emotional problems ,sexual assault, all this should be checked out by the responsible parent however if you do diaper the child or adolecent 24 /7 what does the school say about it?

       

  • Anonymous
    Anonymous
    Feb. 09, 2010

    The diapers are so much easier to use for changes.  With pull-ups you must remove the shoes and clothing, with diapers you can pull the pants down to change the diaper.  If he fits in Pampers or Huggies, just plan to stick with them.  Support your wife as she is probably doing the bulk of the work with him.  I know when I was struggling...

    RHMLucky777

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    The diapers are so much easier to use for changes.  With pull-ups you must remove the shoes and clothing, with diapers you can pull the pants down to change the diaper.  If he fits in Pampers or Huggies, just plan to stick with them.  Support your wife as she is probably doing the bulk of the work with him.  I know when I was struggling with wetting, the diapers were actually better for me as I was so stressed about peeing my pants.  With diapers, I was still asked not to wet my diapers and to try to use the potty.  Just because he is in diapers, doen't mean he is required to wet in them.  If he does wet the diaper, just change him as needed and don't scold him.

    • JP
      JP
      Feb. 09, 2010

      Well I have to say that I am not mad at him. It does seem to be helping he has asked to use the toilet a cupple of times. Right now my wife has had him in the pampers 24/7 sometime he will just stand their and wet right in front of her and when he does that she will keep him in the wet diaper for a while. He is home schooled so its no problem so he goes around...

      RHMLucky777

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      Well I have to say that I am not mad at him. It does seem to be helping he has asked to use the toilet a cupple of times. Right now my wife has had him in the pampers 24/7 sometime he will just stand their and wet right in front of her and when he does that she will keep him in the wet diaper for a while. He is home schooled so its no problem so he goes around the house in just the diaper.I thank you for your commet

    • Lynn K
      Feb. 28, 2010

      how is your son doing with his incontinence and diapers?  I hope everything is going smooth for him!  Is he still in diapers fulltime or just for bed now?

       

      Lynn

    • Luksta
      Oct. 10, 2010

      LEARN HOW TO SPELL! Anyways i do belive that diapers are the way to go im 15 and suffer from complete bowel and bladder Incotenice. My mom puts me in Abena X-plus becuase they are the most absorbent. However, they are somwhat bulky so give it a try its better then baby diapers. When at school the nurse changes me but at home my mom does. So yup i am Incotient...

      RHMLucky777

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      LEARN HOW TO SPELL! Anyways i do belive that diapers are the way to go im 15 and suffer from complete bowel and bladder Incotenice. My mom puts me in Abena X-plus becuase they are the most absorbent. However, they are somwhat bulky so give it a try its better then baby diapers. When at school the nurse changes me but at home my mom does. So yup i am Incotient but its all good, infact im in a messy and wet diaper right now! Tongue out

    • Mother of son in dia
      Oct. 30, 2011

      My husband and I talked it over and we are putting our 13 yeard old son back into cloth diapers and plastic panties 24/7. I have been finding pee and poop stains in his underpants when I wash his cloths. He also has been wetting his most nights and have found his wet pants from when after his has wets and some times mess in his pant during the day. I asked...

      RHMLucky777

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      My husband and I talked it over and we are putting our 13 yeard old son back into cloth diapers and plastic panties 24/7. I have been finding pee and poop stains in his underpants when I wash his cloths. He also has been wetting his most nights and have found his wet pants from when after his has wets and some times mess in his pant during the day. I asked him after I started his underpants what was going on. He said some times he just does not get a wronging in tme to make it to the potty. I ordered 6 dozen cloth diapers and a dozen plsatic panties for him to wear.

    • Anonymous
      Mr.T
      May. 20, 2013

      jp FROM WHAT YOU DESCRIBED THAT YOUR  SON JUST STOOD IN FRONT OF

      YOUR WIFE AND URINATED IN HIS DIAPER SOUNDS TO ME THAT IT COULD be a attention getter and somehow he is feeling left out or unloved jealousy is a funny thing in children.

      I am not saying that you are doing things wrong ! however try and spend time with him get your wife to spend time with...

      RHMLucky777

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      jp FROM WHAT YOU DESCRIBED THAT YOUR  SON JUST STOOD IN FRONT OF

      YOUR WIFE AND URINATED IN HIS DIAPER SOUNDS TO ME THAT IT COULD be a attention getter and somehow he is feeling left out or unloved jealousy is a funny thing in children.

      I am not saying that you are doing things wrong ! however try and spend time with him get your wife to spend time with him alone mum and son time dad and son time!. also have him checked out for any urinary problems ie infections that can cause him to wet his pants .

      hope this helps or helps someone else in a similar situation putting  diapers on a 9 year old 24/7 is a real no no unless you want him to regress.

    • weldz328
      Jun. 21, 2013

      dont be ashamed he is not the only one in diapers i also am in diapers nothing wrong with his mother doing this he feels comfortable with her doing it let them be between them

  • Anonymous
    JEFFERY
    Feb. 06, 2010

    DIAPERS ARE BETTER THAN MEDS I THINK , COZ THE WORSE YOU GET IS DIAPER RASH

  • Garth Wheeler
    Feb. 04, 2010

    hi JP pull ups leak at night and diapers are more absorbent that pullups Talk to your wife she can put your son in pullups during the day...

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