Selecting incontinence protection: do you prefer thin and discreet, or thicker and more absorbent?

I am curious how other incontinent adults select their protection, and whether the type of protection changes much over time. When I initially needed protection several years ago (for strong urge incontinence), I wore Depend and store brands. They aren't very absorbent, but I was concerned that people would be able to detect the protection under my clothes. Unfortunately, they are less than ideal for heavy wetting. As the years went on, I gravitated toward the most absorbent diapers (such as the Abena X Plus), which are bulky by comparison. I'm pretty sure nobody has detected them under casual (jeans) or work clothes (khakis).

So how does everyone select their level of protection?