Do I Have Incontinence?

Hi Jasmine my incontinence started a few yrs back due to bph at frist just tried to put it out of my mind.It just stayed around but the main is I don't let it control my life as I'am a senior citizen and refuse to be homebound.Thanks for the post

If you aren't sure, chances are you have light incontinence and aside from possible odor it may not be all that bad. This is the kind of incontinence that many people decide they don't feel is difficult enough to live with to warrant surgery. Washable and reusable products now on the market are extrememly effective, have anti microbial fabrics to stop odor and can save people a signifigant amount of money over disposables. I urge everyone with light to moderate incontinence to try these products from companies like mine at eversures.com and others on the internet or in catalogs.

This post is part of what inspired me to LEAVE this group a month ago: it hit too close to home. A month later I'm a bit more self accepting, but it still hurts: one org said I'm "not really incont" because the cause is (mostly) emotional. That's fair, but at the same time I've faced severe emotional and physical consequences.

 

I don't mean to be melodramatic. It's simply this: I've been using pads for years, and briefs off and on for about a year, and doing so allows me to live a much fuller life than I can when I try to pretend that I don't need them.  Medically I'm (mostly) fine, but my "urine loss" continues and worsens despite efforts to fix it: am I incontinent? 

 

I'm not saying that my issues are the same as those of someone who's medically incontinent, but  I am saying that emotional trauma can cause ui-type symptoms, and that _some_ of the resulting issues are similar, regardless of the cause: the shame and the expense hurt, and I would not handle it this way if there were an easy alternative. There isn't. I hate it.

 

I feel like I'm hit from all sides: many of the same emotional and financial costs of incontinence, without the legitimacy of saying that the cause is medical and therefore facing additional financial and emotional costs. Whiplash. So if I can't even explain it to others, I also have trouble dealing with it myself, regardless of the of the real urine loss and other physical issues. That, too, feels like whiplash.

 

I'm sorry, I guess I'm just overly sensitive. 

 

Matthew