I don't know where to begin. I just came out of denial myself about this. I dismissed this as a minor, inconsequential ordeal that only I needed to know until accidents began to occur more frequently and be more obivious. Just a little wetness is one thing. But standing in a puddle is something else. It's hard talking about that to anyone. Finally, I told a close friend, who confessed that sometimes this happened to her too, but she was seeing a doctor. She refered me to this doctor. The doctor said keep a diary of what you ate and drank and how often you went, and any accidents. After a month, I was kind of surprised at just how often I was going, and the number of accidents I was having. For the most part, it wasn't that obvious to others that I had had an accident, but I was still having them a lot. Then I thought back on the times I had wet my clothes pretty badly, which is never good. That was seven months back. Since then, bladder training has allowed me to longer periods without so many trips to the bathroom. I now wear the protective garments until I am feeling more confident about being able to stay dry. And, I only get up once a night. I used to have night wetting incidents at least three or four times a week. I haven't had one now in six months. In short, I am glad I talked with this friend. And, in time, I'll tell family.

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I'm so happy that you found the confidence to confide in a close friend about your incidences of incontinence! I'm even happier that your friend was not only supportive, but actually helpful in suggesting a doctor who she found to be interested in and knowledgeable about incontinence. It can be a difficult and sometimes embarrassing condition to discuss with others, but as you found out, talking with others can be beneficial. Once you share your struggles with friends and family you'll often find that they've been dealing with a similar situation. By speaking with a doctor you take the first step on the road to continence. Congratulations on your progress, and keep up the good work! Jasmine