Hi well to start with i should explain i have resentley had surgrey on my blader yo remove a groth that my doctre sayes if not removed would cause som yerry series problems
he also told me that thair was a chance that thair mite be scaring and depending wair and how much it mite leve me parcial or worse completley incontenent well as my luck goes it happend and now it seames i cant control my slef
wen i seen my docter on friday he told me that i shold were diapers to protect my self for now and that i mite have to were them for good
Now this douse disderb me a bit because i have allways beleved that diapers were for babys or elderly people not for some one my age(39)
I dont know if i can or will ever get uest to this alls i can do is hope thinges change but it dosent look good
Anyway thank you for listning to my rambling it dose seme to help a little geting it off my chest
Hi Andy sorry about your surgery which led to incontinence,mine was due to enlarged prostate so your age is not bad was alot older than you when started using a diaper.Just don't let it control your life.
Thankyou for your words of advice ron i ame trying not to let it controle my life but it is hard knoing what i ame wering and the lingering fear that some one will notice tarifies me but i will try not to let it controle my life i ges that will tak time
I am not doing so great dealing with mine either. I suffer from periods where I am OK and other times when I am so angery I don't know what to do. I have to constantly talk to people and I am so depressed. I wear pads because mine isn't as severe but it bugs me because I can't tell when Ithink I have to go to the bathroom and I have severe spasms where my bladder feels like it wants to drain out but something isn't letting it, but what makes it worse is when I get on a toilet, I can push it out, but it wouldn't drain out on it's own. This happened after I twisted a muscle somewhere. I am suffering at work because these severe spasms and I wish sometimes they would take my bladder out so I can get back to work and put a bag on me so I can stop having these spasms. I was diagnosed with having interstital cystis. My doctors say this is what is going on with me, but I don't have the urgency to go to the bathroom or that filing causes me pain.
If you want someone to talk to, I would love to because I don't have anyone around me who is suffering with simular problems and I feel so alone. I now have more supportive friends than I did that told me just deal with it. For me it is hard because of dating and going out meeting people How can I have a normal life when I know something like this affects people in the dating world? I wish I was as insightful and strong as all the others on this website about how to accept it. I sometimes think doctors are just copeout when it comes to this problem because they can fix a heart like they did for my mother who had a stroke, why can't they make a bladder work, or come up with ways to make it easier for others to live besides living with wearing protection.