feeling embarrased/low self esteem

hi my name is david im 39 years old single and have a 14 year old son.i want to share my experience with dealing with incontinence which i suffered from my whole life.iv`e felt embarrased and ashamed as a child with this problem and only learned when i was in my 20`s that i wasnt alone with this problem it was so hard as a kid. i actually thought that i was the only person in the world that had to wear diapers, so you can imagine how i felt.alone and isolated shame and embarrasement,i`ve never had many friends cause of this.as i got older i started to learn that i wasnt alone, and that many people shared the same problem as i did.so i felt a little more at ease knowing that .    i suffer from kidney and bladder problems,i was born with both kidneys on the right side of my body and a very small bladder.there really is no cure at this time for what i have other than wearing a catheter bag or diapers, i tried all the medications available from my doctors and none of them had any affect.the toughest part of my life is my relationships i`ve had a few relationships with a few girls in my life who were very understanding of my problem one of which i had a child with.all those relationships are no longer. which sorta put me back to when i was younger ashamed and embarrased, because i feel that my incontinence has led to the break ups.i keep telling myself that no woman wants to spend their life with a guy that wears diapers because in my mind i feel thats why they left.i just want some advise to overcome and accept myself so i can get on with my life.thanks for taking the time to read my story david