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My 14 yr old son wears diapers and plastic pants, too

Raylene Gibbs

Raylene Gibbs

Friday, October 17, 2008
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    I just found this site and decided I should tell our story too. I hope it helps others. My son always had a bedwetting problem and I wish that I had not taken away his night diapers but I did. Later, my sister finally convinced me to put him back in them. We are all so glad we did ...
  1. Welcome
    Maria Gifford
    Friday, October 17, 2008 at 08:40 PM

    Hello Raylene and Travis,

     

    Welcome to our community and thanks for sharing your story. It's nice to hear of an incontinence situation working out for the best -- good for you. I'm glad you've joined us. I think we could learn a lot from you and your experiences.

     

    For starters, I'd like to share some related posts with you:

     

    Experiences Growing Up as a Bedwetter

    http://www.healthcentral.com/incontinence/c/3328/17518/growing

     

    Teens and Bedwetting: Wearing Teen Diapers 

    http://www.healthcentral.com/incontinence/c/3328/7295/teens

     

    Bedwetting, Diapers and Parental Attitudes 

    http://www.healthcentral.com/incontinence/c/3328/10842/parental

     

    I hope you find this information helpful. Feel free to connect with our community members -- there are many people on our site who can relate.

     

    Write again soon.

     

    Best,

    Maria

     

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    re: Welcome
    Janie
    Wednesday, July 29, 2009 at 09:50 AM

    I have two boys, ages 9 & 13 who both wet the bed nightly. My nine year old still poops in his pants, too. I use Potty Scotties training pants on them and they work much better than pull-ups. Cost of disposables was really strapping me, so I gave these a try.

     

    To keep them clean, I soak them in hot water and bleach, rinse and then add water and one cup of white vinegar per load of wash. Stains and odors are eliminated entirely. Hope this helps!

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    raylene..bed wetting
    Anonymous
    Monday, September 21, 2009 at 02:52 PM

    if your son is under stress that can cause stress incontinence ive suffered fron it for years try and calming herbal vitamins and use disposable diapers that breath and powder is a plus so he dosent wind up with diaper rash because there is nothing worse then using an ointment during the day it feels terrible.

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  2. diapers and waterproof pants
    daisy
    Saturday, October 18, 2008 at 10:09 AM

    ya know a year ago I would have thought you were crazy or its ridiculess but Ive come here to learn to cope with incontinence I  have slowly lost all feeling to that area of my body because a spine injury the nurolagist said my body isnt going to feed some muscles and nerves anymore it was a very painfull process I dont feel pain anymore either. I was cathing padding trying to hide it I tried clamps the keagle disposables and I came here and learned about cloth diapers it was hard to do at first. I was very angry this happened to me and still harbor some anger. The first night I slept all night for the first time in a year I didnt have to jump out of bed leaking or sleep light so I could jump up and after 2 months I feel like a million bucks . I think diapers and plastic pants are the best way now it dose feel a little babyish though. Its just part of my personality what I am now I guess these people here have helped me so much to accept that. im a fighter Its hard to give up and do this, research is hope so I havnt given up compleatly, Im just dealing with now and hope some day I can be whole again. I hope your son gets better it is possible, there are exersizes  to help the muscles I did them for years while I had feeling It helped prolong the control he can recover and have a normal life dont just leave him in diapers forever if there is a chance I would give anything to be free of this but it dose'nt look to good right now .

    I just wanted to let you know I identified with you cause when all this started before I got better for awhile my mom did the same thing when I was 12 the gerber plastic pants and diapers but I forgot and didnt know they made better ones now I still cant believe im at this point again I hope this helps in some way good luck davidb

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    re: diapers and waterproof pants
    Raylene Gibbs
    Wednesday, October 22, 2008 at 08:20 PM

    Hi David,

     

            You know, if someone had told me I would have a 14 yr old son in diapers and plastic panties a number of years ago, I would have thought they were crazy too. Because of my son's nightly wetting, I sure thought about it a lot but continually didn't do anything. Yes, I had him checked and part of his wetting is due to type II diabetes which we now watch as close as we can. Well, you know kids. I can now see a change in him if he has a high level even before we check it. While daytime is occassionally a challenge, night time continues to be 'no control'. My sister finally convinced me to get him back in diapers and she is seven years younger than I. I suppose what made that easier is that her little ones were about 2 and 5 then, she had plenty of diapers and my son stayed with her every other weekend. We explained everything to my son and that we would be very discreet ( if possible ) along with him surely being much happier in the mornings with a dry and warm bed. It all worked so wonderfully, more than I had ever hoped I guess. He finally told me he was glad we let him wear diapers and I never thought I would hear that. And thank you for being open about your difficulties too. So many times it is hard to do and so many people do not understand.

     

                                                                      Raylene and Travis

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    re: re: diapers and waterproof pants
    Anna
    Sunday, February 01, 2009 at 04:38 AM

    Hi Raylene,

     

    You say that daytime is occassionally a challenge. Does your son have a problem with daytime incontinence too?  And if so - how du you handle it?

     

    /Anna

     

     

     

     

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    re: re: re: diapers and waterproof pants
    Raylene Gibbs
    Sunday, February 01, 2009 at 08:43 AM

         Most daytime wetting accidents are the result of him not monitoring his blood sugar levels properly. He is type II diabetic and when it gets too high, he will have the 'immediate' need to urinate that he cannot control. She insists on him wearing a day diaper when at her house because of these accidents. I have asked her to watch what he eats and mainly drinks ( pop ) but it doesn't get done very well with her watching over her own two little ones.

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    re: re: re: re: diapers and waterproof pants
    Dan
    Wednesday, February 04, 2009 at 09:13 AM

    I don't understand your sister's approach. Does your son accept this? Since he is dependent on you or her to change him, does she have to remove his diaper every time he needs to use the toilet? It seems rather unfair to him.

     

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    re: re: re: diapers and waterproof pants
    michael x
    Friday, November 13, 2009 at 02:26 PM

    is your being bulling at school

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    re: re: re: re: diapers and waterproof pants
    michael x
    Friday, November 13, 2009 at 02:38 PM

    is your son happy in his school -have you be to see incontinence nurse a catheter could halp

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    re: re: diapers and waterproof pants
    Garth Wheeler
    Wednesday, March 18, 2009 at 11:07 AM

    HI i am 42 and ware diapers also have spina bifida i am not ashamed of it is a way of life.

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    re: re: re: diapers and waterproof pants
    allen54
    Thursday, October 08, 2009 at 07:17 PM

    I grew up with medical problems also.Cloth diapers and plastic pant were a norm for me

    thats all that was around in the late 50s and 60s I only could wear the lage pampers for a year and went into the early Attends.Some thing in life you don't have a choice in.

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    re: re: diapers and waterproof pants
    Wet 24/7
    Friday, March 27, 2009 at 08:44 PM

    You know it's funny not the HAHA funny I thought I was alone in this. I grew up in a family that would have never understood my problem. I have (DDD) Digenerative Disk Disorder my neck is already fused and now the lower back needs it. On top of that I found I had A bladder bigger that normal. Im the begining I would cough and dribble I just figured it was age as I am 45 and have always been very active and physical. But about 3 years ago I wet the bed I passed it off the first time but it happened again. And so it began wearing diapers at night Just to save my laundry bill at first I used throw away ones but then developed a rash and infection and I am a guy very painful. And a year latter I had issues during the day so I used womens pads anything I could think of to hide the small problem. Then it got worse all the while I tried to pretend the problem was not getting worse. So I purchest my first set of cloth diapers and had to learn to use them. Even though it bothers me and I have been told by my doctor it won't change. Now I wear them 24/7 and I have accepted it is a fact of life, You see the websites that say become an adult baby etc if they only knew what it is like not to have a choice. So I say to anyone that has the problem or is starting to get the problem check with your doctor first if it can be fixed please do so. If it can't no matter your age or sex your are not alone it is good to find real people that have the same problem. I have learned to deal with it although it is a real date killer LOL, I hope to anyone reading this for the first time as I was before I posted you are not alone and please don't feel that you are or are alone in this. And if this makes you feel better I used to think a bed wetter was lazy etc kinda funny you don't inderstand until it happens to you.

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    re: re: re: diapers and waterproof pants
    rubber panties boy
    Saturday, August 22, 2009 at 11:38 AM

    Dear Sir : I'am a 46 year old slim very on the go type of guy , and I developed  stress incontinence a year ago , and the doctor says that their is nothing he can do about it . So I did some reserach and decided to start wearing bikini style rubber panties to control the problem , I wear form fitting tight bikini rubber panties over my regular tight cotton briefs . and even sometimes I will only wear the bikini rubber panties and no cotton briefs ! I hate to admit this , but I have since developed a fetish for liking to feel the rubber against my skin ! although it does get a little hot in them in the summer ! I wear shorts  and tight jeans and no one can tell and I feel much more secure in going out , plus like I said , I now love the feeling ! And believe it or not my new found girl friend gets turned on by seeing me in just my bikini rubber panties ! you can purchase these bikini rubber panties at  ( fetware.com ). Hope my sharing helps you !!

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    re: re: re: re: diapers and waterproof pants
    Fred
    Tuesday, October 27, 2009 at 06:06 PM

    It Amazes me to see the creative way the owner of fetishwear promotes his business.  He has done this silly stunt from day one.  Sadly his business thrives reselling Gary Mfg. products. As one of the most expensive distributers of Gary products, it is places like these where he advertises for free, assuming we are all gullable, which I guess most are !  Sorry Mike, I have to pay for my advertising.

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    re: re: diapers and waterproof pants
    jerry
    Saturday, July 18, 2009 at 10:49 PM

    Hi my name is jerry i am a 41 yearold and i also have type 2 diabetes i am inconvient and have to wear adult briefs 24/7 i was diagnosed 4 years ago and that explained why i had to use the restroom alot i take glucopage to help with my diabetes i still lead a very normal life so i was told that if i loose weight i can possibly get rid of my diabetes but that is not everyone but i have no problem having to wear adult briefs tell your son to hang in their and good luck and their is a possibillite that he might out grow his diabetes as he get's older

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    re: diapers and waterproof pants
    Derick
    Wednesday, April 29, 2009 at 02:46 PM

    Hi my name is derick im a 14 year old, and i want to be in diapers again or be with you having me diaper disciplined. please sign back to me at 123105@riverside.k12.nj.us if you want to put me in diapers or put me in diaper discipline and stay with you. i live in New Jersey

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    re: re: diapers and waterproof pants
    wet 24/7
    Friday, May 01, 2009 at 06:51 PM

    Dude there is no place for that kind of crap here. This is for people that actually have a problem not someone that just wants to be sick or twisted.

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    re: re: re: diapers and waterproof pants
    monkey14
    Thursday, May 07, 2009 at 01:45 PM

    k the truth iz that i wet my bed at night every night and i want to wear diapers from prevententing that from happening but my parents just don't get that they can still diaper a 14 year old if he has a problem with bed wetting the bed at night. so can you tell me wat size diapers i should buy i weigh 90 pounds

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    re: re: re: re: diapers and waterproof pants
    Martin James
    Tuesday, August 11, 2009 at 07:44 AM

    Hi.   I am a teen and also have bladder probs.   Untill last year aunts who i live with diapered me at night (and sometimes in day)  I diaper myself now.    Try Drynights/Goodnights you can do them yrself.   Dont know where u live but maybe u can get Pampers size 6 or 7 maybe fit u.

                                Martin james

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    re: re: re: re: re: diapers and waterproof pants
    Monkey14
    Wednesday, September 09, 2009 at 12:17 PM

    i live in new jersey go to riverside high school 08075

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    re: re: re: re: re: re: diapers and waterproof pants
    Martin James
    Thursday, September 10, 2009 at 11:43 AM

    Hi  there,   sorry i dont know yr proper name.   Yeah i know where New Jersy is we r doing American geography at school.  Caer   sprry  sorry about spelling delete button got stuck,    would u like 2 talk about yr problem?     I loive live in the U.K.   had wetting probs 4 some time.    Martin James  

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    re: re: re: re: diapers and waterproof pants
    ark00123777
    Thursday, August 20, 2009 at 02:36 PM

    Step one is always see a Doctor, and together figure out a medical plan to help you with your bedwetting.  the Doctors office can recomend many forms of treatment. including (if nessary) Diapers. 

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    re: re: re: diapers and waterproof pants
    Anonymous
    Tuesday, July 28, 2009 at 01:04 PM

    yea no kidding its nothing to strive for its just a condition much like infantilism which sounds like is what you are going through

     

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    re: re: diapers and waterproof pants
    Anonymous
    Monday, August 03, 2009 at 01:35 PM

    rock on derick i want to wear them too i just dont have the guts to tell my mom

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    re: re: diapers and waterproof pants
    In Diapers
    Saturday, August 08, 2009 at 11:43 AM

    I do not belive for one min. that you are 14 year old no noral 14 year old boy would say they want to be into diapers if they did not have a problem with thier bowels or bladder or both.

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    re: re: re: diapers and waterproof pants
    Anon
    Wednesday, October 14, 2009 at 07:35 PM

    I hate to burst your bubble, when I was 14 I Did enjoy wearing diapers for the heck of it, in fact I started at age 7.  Now I am 39 and wear them all the time, some people just never get over it, now I do have problems with continence at night. 

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    re: re: diapers and waterproof pants
    david in UK
    Sunday, August 09, 2009 at 08:21 AM

    Derick

     

    frist off i agree with other posters you are sick

     

    As like the other posters I have to wear for medical reasons and I can tell you it is not fun.

     

    If you lead a active life like I do work and do active hobbies you have to always carry a change of diapers with you so that you can chage if the need arises this means finding some where that is :

    1) private as beening a teen/adult you can just be laid/ lay down on the floor,park bench, grass like a baby as you WILL be arrested for indecent exposer

    2) is clean and dry

    3) has enough space to change in

    if you are lucky to find that place then you have to change and then find some way of disposing of the diaper if it is a disposable or carry a wet/messy diaper around with you untill you get home and to cover cloth diaper you WILL have to carry a wet/messy and smelly diaper around with you and trust me a wet cloth diaper is not light.

     

    also although there are people who understand I would say that 99.9% will think that you are wierd, a freek or want to harm thier kids which as we know for most wearers is not turn we just want to stay comfertable and dry

     

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  3. diapers &plastic pants
    bigken
    Sunday, December 14, 2008 at 02:44 PM

    Dear Raylene : I  also  was  put  back  in  diapers &plastic  pants  for  bedwetting  on  account  of  having  problems  with  kidney  stones  when  I  was  younger. They  had  damaged  my  kidneys  to  the  point  that  i  started  wetting  the  bed .  So  the  doctor  suggested  to  my  mom  to  put  me  back  in  diapers &  plastic  pants  when  I  was  about  15   years  old. So  don't  feel  bad  and  tell  your  son  he  is  not  alone. And  to  this  day  I  still  have  too  wear  them  at  night. Ken K.

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  4. Diaper Sorce
    RayD
    Friday, December 26, 2008 at 01:15 PM

    I have the same problems here and I found a company called special Cloths.Inc that has supplied us with reuseable diapers and training pants for size infint to adult. My son is 13 now and it works out best wearing training pants or absorbent brief during the day and diaper at night. These are not water profe but Duraline inc sells a nylon type of water profe pull on that is breathable.

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    re: Diaper Sorce
    monkey14
    Tuesday, May 05, 2009 at 02:13 PM

    HEY MY NAME IZ DERICK I AM 14 AND I WET MY BED AT NIGHT ALL THE TIME AND I WANT TO WEAR DIAPERS SO I DONT PEE THE BED AND ONLY PEE MY DIAPER. SO IF YOU CAN DO YOU WANT ME TO LIVE WITH YOU SO YOU CAN PUT DIAPERS ON ME AND ABSORBANT BREIFS LIKE YA SON DURING THE DAY AND DIAPER TO BED OR AT NGHT

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    re: re: Diaper Sorce
    Paul Crewe
    Tuesday, June 09, 2009 at 09:36 AM

    I suspect that it has been many years since Derick was 14 years old. Think about it, how can a 14-year-old just move out of his home & move in with total strangers.

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    re: re: re: Diaper Sorce
    monkey14
    Tuesday, June 09, 2009 at 02:02 PM

    so so what i wouldnt care you can do it

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    re: re: re: re: Diaper Sorce
    Anonymous
    Tuesday, July 28, 2009 at 01:15 PM

    lol yea derick is probably dislexic as well as sick and twisted hes probably 41 not 14 i wear diapers because they make me fel comfortable i just would like to be able to wear them in public but dnt know how to hide it...and i need to wear them in public i leak when i get nerrvous

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    re: re: re: re: re: Diaper Sorce
    eran123
    Saturday, September 05, 2009 at 06:43 AM

    hi, im 13 from israel and my name is eran.

    i feel comfortable in diapers too.

    its even got a name ab/dl (adult baby or diaper lover) in my case its an teenager baby not adult.

    my parents and my brother know about it so i dont have to hide it.

    plz email me mc.lamborghini@gmail.com

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  5. Untitled Comment
    megan
    Friday, December 26, 2008 at 10:43 PM

    Please consider trying a bedwetting alarm to cure your sons nightly bedwetting.  They can be very effective.  Often 3 months of consistent use leads to a lifetime of dry nights.  My child wet the bed every single night - sometimes more than once a night.  He used a bedwetting alarm and in less than two months,  he went from wet every night to dry every single night.  It does take a bit of patience in the beginning.  Usually the child will sleep right through the alarm and the parent must wake the child up.  But within 3 weeks my son woke up to the alarm by himself.  And in only 8 weeks he became dry every night.  the website www.braveryandgrace.com has a bunch of positive information about bedwetting.  I really hope every parent struggling with a child's night time bedwetting  strongly considers resolving it by using an alarm.  It is the best decision i ever made.  It really wasn't as difficult as you might think. 

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    re: Wet alarms
    Raylene Gibbs
    Sunday, December 28, 2008 at 04:18 PM

           Quite some time ago, I tried one of these and I know there are many brands and types out there. We didn't have much luck with it since part of my son's wetting is from type II diabetes which can cause almost 'uncontollable' wetting even in daytime. I continued to diaper my son even with the alarm and this was partly at his request. He does not want wet bedding. His wetting continued and I finally decided to let it go for now and continue as we have in the past.

                                                                                                      Raylene

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    Raylene Gibbs
    Friday, March 20, 2009 at 07:37 AM

    Hello Megan,

     

            Sorry that I missed your post for such a long time. I did try a bedwetting alarm before we chose diapers and my personnal opinion was that it was terrible. It woke me up in my room, my son wet the bed and soon I was not well rested at all after about a week. I know they work for some but I disliked it and we never got any results. I know that was a short time but it just wasn't working out. With diapers, everything changed almost immediately and we have all been very pleased since.

                                                                                                     Raylene

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  6. Re:My 14 year old son wears diapers and plastic pants too
    Colin
    Friday, January 02, 2009 at 10:11 AM

    Hi Raylene,

     

                First off I'm glad the diapers and plastic pants are working out for you and it's good that your son is cooperative in the matter-many children wouldn't be caught dead in a diaper.I had a question for you.I hope I'm not out of line asking this but I was wondering why your sister diapered your son at 10 years of age.Some time ago a friend told me about an incident when she had to babysit a 6 year old boy.She told me she had to diaper the child before he went to bed.I assume he had a bed-wetting problem because he was past the age of potty training.Apparently he threw a fit-he went running through the house naked and wouldn't let her put the diaper on which at that age I can't say as I blame him.I've heard of other parents diapering older children that wet the bed and I felt that needed to be addressed so I wrote a little about this in one of my shareposts.

     

       My thoughts and feelings on this matter(which I discussed on page 4 of my share post "Ways Parents Can Encourage Older Children,Adolescents,and Teenagers to Wear Diapers to Bed and Other Topics") are this: the older children get the more self-conscious they feel about these kinds of issues.I'm not a parent,pediatrician,or developmental psychologist so I'm definitely not an expert on this situation,but my intuition tells me that above age 3 or 4 a child should be able to diaper themselves unless they have some cognitive and/or physical disability that either makes it difficult for them to perform this function or prevents them from performing it.

     

        If you're worried about your son's diapers leaking because he might not be fastening them correctly you can lay the diapers on his bed,leave the room,and then have him do the diapering himself.Then you can check to make sure he's fastened them correctly.If not you can tell him the correct way to fasten them to prevent leakage.He can also put the plastic pants on by himself.I suggest you read my ideas regarding this issue in the previously mentioned post.Again I hope I'm not out of line with this post,I just strongly believe that children need to be independent in this area because it makes them feel less embarrassed about the situation and it helps improve their self-esteem.By the way have you tried the Comco plastic pants? Their contact info is in my post "Types and Brands of Diapers to Wear for Bed-Wetting and Companies that Sell Them."

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    re: Re:My 14 year old son wears diapers and plastic pants too
    Raylene Gibbs
    Saturday, January 03, 2009 at 05:08 PM

          Hello,

     

                This came about after years of my son bedwetting andtrying various things to stop it, all of which failed. My younger sister had often said I should just put him back into diapers and I often considered it and at the same time kept thinking, "Oh he's too old for that". She offered to get him started since at the time she had a 1 yr old and a 4 yr old and was diapering all the time anyway. I had a two week business trip that I had to make and during that time, sis got my son back into diapers and by the time I got home, he had seenhow they work and that wet beds didn't have to be where he woke up every morning anymore.

                I'm not real sure how a 3 or 4 yr old would ever diaper themselves at all but I can explain where we are with this. My son cannot get diaper pins in at all, is somewhat afraid if sticking himself and mostly doesn;t seem to care about doing this at all but at the same time, will not go to bed without his diaper on. I put his plastic panties on him to make sure they are covering his diaper properly and also because I want to make sure they don't get torn if he should try to just 'pull them on' you know.

               I will read your posts that you mentioned and no, I have not tried to Comco plastic panties but I would like to. I've heard they are quite good.

     

                                                                                              Raylene

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    re: re: Re:My 14 year old son wears diapers and plastic pants too
    margary
    Sunday, February 01, 2009 at 10:52 AM

    raylene,my daughter is 14 also and a bedwetter.i put her back into cloth diapers and rubberpants[plastic pants] i buy the gerber diapers and sew them together to make one diaper.i get her rubberpants from comco and adult cloth diaper.com.every night at bed time i pin the diaper on her then put the rubberpants on her.i have found this works out the best.i buy her pastel and nursery print rubberpants.even tho she doesnt need  them during the day,i put them on her for church and special occassions and holidays.she is going to wear a pastel pink dress for easter and i will do a diaper and nursery print rubberpants on her under the dress.

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    re: re: re: Re:My 14 year old son wears diapers and plastic pants too
    JEFFERY WOODARD
    Thursday, February 26, 2009 at 01:02 PM

    YOUR 14 YEAR OLD , IS GET TO THAT AGE WHERE SHE MIGHT WANT A BOYFRIEND OF CAUSE WITH YOUR SUPPORVISION , IF YOU FIND FOR HER A BOY THAT WETS THE BED TOO , SHE WILL KNOW SHE NOT ALONE AND SHE CAN RELAX AND GO TO A MOVIE WITH HIM AND SO ON LESS STRESS MAKE A HAPPY TEEN.

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    re: re: re: re: Re:My 14 year old son wears diapers and plastic pants too
    cece
    Saturday, March 21, 2009 at 11:04 AM

    find a gril for the 14 yr old who wets the bed, too?  Really, Jeffrey, one thing at a time.  We are discussing diapers and the need for the 24 yr old boy and girl to diaper themselves without help.  They are too old now to do have someone else diaper them.  Now, you want to talk about dating.  We will get to that after the kids are taking care of their sanitary needs by themselves, ok??

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    re: re: re: Re:My 14 year old son wears diapers and plastic pants too
    kb
    Monday, March 02, 2009 at 08:39 PM

    Hi there...

    How does your daughter feel about the Easter wardrobe you have planned for her?  If you'd like to talk, please write to me at kbct0384@hotmail.com.  Would be glad to talk in private.  Take care.

    kb

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    margary
    Monday, March 09, 2009 at 12:34 PM

    kb,my daughter is ok with the wardrobe i have planned for her.she is a very girly girl and the outfit will make her feel very cute and girly.the saturday night before easter i will put ruffled rubberpants on her over her bedtime diaper then a pink blanket sleeper.i am going to do two pair of rubberpants on her easter sunday.after her bath i am going to put a plain pair of white rubberpants on her,then pin her diaper on over the rubberpants,then put her babyprint rubberpants on over the diaper.this way she will have rubberpants next to her skin and her diaper wont itch her.

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    kb
    Wednesday, March 11, 2009 at 08:37 PM

    sounds very cute -- I presume the dress has at least a knee-length hem and is nicely full cut to hide everything.

    also -- I've never heard of a well-washed diaper being itchy or scratchy...  :)

    you can drop me a private message if you'd like to talk further...

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    re: re: re: re: re: Re:My 14 year old son wears diapers and plastic pants too
    cece
    Saturday, March 21, 2009 at 11:07 AM

    Rubber underpants next to her skin is not comfortable.  She needs something to absorb urine if she is incontinent.  That's first, cute is next!!  Ask her to give you more input into how she feels .  She is not a baby anymore.

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    re: re: Re:My 14 year old son wears diapers and plastic pant
    KR
    Thursday, June 18, 2009 at 09:20 PM

    Sam's has a product called Odo-Ban. If you soak a wet cloth diaper in water that has a couple ounces of this product there is no smell. One can wait until there is a load for washing.

    Fetware.com has plastic pants that are high back. There is an extra three inches at the top and you don't get leakage.

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    re: re: re: Re:My 14 year old son wears diapers and plastic pant
    Brenden
    Saturday, September 12, 2009 at 03:14 PM

    Highback plastic pants sold by fetware are made by Gary manufacturers and are sold by several other suppliers such as Adultdiaperco

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    re: re: Re:My 14 year old son wears diapers and plastic pants too
    Mike
    Thursday, August 27, 2009 at 04:36 PM

    Even though I was like your son, I am afraid to write. Why? Because I have seen people on both side of the fence just pick apart a person trying to write or explain their situation. That includes professionals.

    I wore cloth baby type diapers and plastic pants from the age of 5. We didn't have the internet, Discussion Groups, or sites like this to compare all the rights and wrongs. All the Doctor's back then would use diapers that I knew of. I had my pants changed by my Mother, Aunts, Doctors and Nurses. Maybe we all just didn't know any better, but I don't even want to admit my age when it wasn't done by someone else.

    Do whats best for you. Tell your sister "Thank You". And Good luck. Michael

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    re: re: re: Re:My 14 year old son wears diapers and plastic pants too
    Raylene Gibbs
    Friday, August 28, 2009 at 07:16 AM

    Thank you Mike for your supportive comments. I am surprised at some of the negative comments I have recieved too. A few have been very kind as you have been. The cloth diapers and plastic panties have worked wonderfully for my son and I assume they did the same for you. My sister and I are the only ones that diaper him and we do keep it as discreet as possible.

                                                             Raylene

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    re: Re:My 14 year old son wears diapers and plastic pants too
    Anonymous
    Wednesday, August 26, 2009 at 08:07 AM

    What size?

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  7. nightime diapers
    doug
    Thursday, February 12, 2009 at 06:45 PM

    I was allowed to stop wearing diapers for my bedwetting at age 12. I was relieved to be out of diapers but soon discovered it was far worse flooding my bed, and many nights more than once. I started back in diapers at age 18 and realized life and confort are 150% better when the problem is managed. Yes diapers can be perceived as totally babyish BUT with the right support and attitude there nothing more than a convenience tool. Yes cloth with plastic pants are best for overnight.

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  8. Untitled Comment
    tommyindiapers
    Sunday, February 15, 2009 at 02:21 PM

    SmileHi Raylene, I too was put  into diapers by someone else other than my mother. I was at a friends house when i was 4 to be sat for,When lunch was over aunt carol took me into her bedroom and asked me if i still wet the bed...I said yes and she told me that it was ok with my mom if she put me into diapers and rubber pants before my nap. As it goes i awoke soaked but the bed was dry! And aunt carol told my mom about it and actually she sent home some diapers and old rubber pants for me to use until mom and me went shopping for new diapers and other baby things. But that is a whole another story. Now at age 49 i am in diapers 24/7 because of a back injury. I still remember that experience and it made it easier when i became diaper dependent.  Thanks for your letter.... tommy in diapers

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    Raylene Gibbs
    Tuesday, February 24, 2009 at 08:44 PM

           I would say you were very fortunate then to go back into diapers before it became 'difficult' at an older age. I made that mistake to some degree with my son but he saw the advantages very quickly at the age of not quite 11. We have been very pleased with the diaper solution ever since and even though it may not work for everyone and maybe not even accepted by everyone, we are pleased. I'm glad your situation worked out so well with your aunt too.

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    re: Untitled Comment
    JEFFERY WOODARD
    Wednesday, March 11, 2009 at 11:11 AM

    I AM IN DIAPERS COZ OF WEAK BLADDER AND ALLERGES I SNEEZE I PEE, I COUGH I PEE ,AND I GET DRY THROAT SO I DRINK ALOT OF LIQUID , WHICH MAKES ME PEE MORE BUT I DO NOT COUGH AS MUCH , CATCH 22 THERE I AM 47 NOW AND SOON TO BE 48 JUST LOOKING FOR FRIENDS

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  9. diapering your son.
    Rob
    Saturday, March 14, 2009 at 03:42 PM

    You say that your sister was the one to put him back in diapers when she diapered him along with her (then) 1 year old and 4 year old.  Did she, and do you diaper him in the same manner you diaper a baby or toddler, such as laying him down on a flat surface and grabbing his ankles to lift his legs in the air to get the diaper under him, and if you use them to apply baby powder and diaper rash ointment to his bottom.  please understand that it is not my intention to offend you or anyone else.

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    re: diapering your son.
    Raylene Gibbs
    Sunday, March 15, 2009 at 08:39 AM

         Yes, we diaper him as we would a toddler or infant, however it it not necessary to as you say 'grab his ankles etc.' because he is 15 yr old and cooperates. He raises his own bottom so we can slip his diaper under him. We hold toddlers and infants up by their ankles because they don't know to 'help' during the diapering. Everything else is pretty much the same however. The use of baby oil and/or powder is to repel urine from the skin to prevent diaper rash of course. We do have him stand up so we can put his plastic panties on him which is much easier that doing it lying down. No, you are not offending me with the questions. I am glad to answer.

                                                                                                  Raylene

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    re: re: diapering your son.
    rob
    Sunday, March 15, 2009 at 11:15 AM

    Thank you for answering, I  was actually refering to when you and your sister first started diapering him again when he was 10.

     

    Sometimes you get so use to doing things a certain way it becomes habit, so it would be understandable that if your sister was diapering him along with her (then) 1 year old and 4 year old she would simply diaper him in the same manner she diaperd them including holding on to his ankles to lift his legs etc.

     

    I know thats not how you do it now,  but even if she did it that way the first time she started diapering him again it would be understandable.  Like I said force of habit.

     

     

     

     

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    re: re: re: diapering your son.
    Raylene Gibbs
    Wednesday, March 18, 2009 at 07:08 AM

          I understand now what you were speaking of. In the very beginning, we did something similar but not by holding his ankles although I did that when he was an infant of course. We put one arm under his knees and lifted up just slightly so we could slip his diaper under him. Actually that wasn't done for a very long time as he learned to help out by raising his bottom for us and of course that was much easier.

     

                                                                                                           Raylene

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    re: re: diapering your son.
    JEFFERY WOODARD
    Sunday, March 22, 2009 at 10:43 AM

    WHEN DO YOU THINK HE WILL BE ABLE TO DIAPER HIMSELF? HOW BIG IS HE  , 15  HE MIGHT NEED THE ADULT DIAPERS IN THE DISPOSIBLES? THEY WORK GOOD FOR ME. OR DOES HE PREFER YOU DIAPER HIM RATHER THAN HE DIAPER HIMSELF?

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    re: re: diapering your son.
    In Diapers
    Saturday, August 08, 2009 at 12:21 PM

    I am 64 and have to wear cloth diapers and plastic pants because of a spinal cord injury in my lower back wear the nerves that control both my bladder and bowels are. I also have type 2 diabetes with high blood pressure. One of the meds I take plus my diabetes also increase my urine out put. Because of the nerve damage cause by back and diabetes I do not know or fell when I have to go until my diapers are wet and I fell the poop pull down on my diapers. I have a care giver change my diapers so I can take a shower. After my shower she lays my new diaper down first before so she can pull it up and pin it.

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    re: re: diapering your son.
    Anonymous
    Wednesday, August 26, 2009 at 08:12 AM

    What size?

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  10. Pratical Matters.
    Rob
    Wednesday, March 18, 2009 at 06:04 PM

    Do you only diaper your son once when he first goes to bed, or do you sometimes have to change him during the night because he woke up wet, and it was to early for him to get up for the day.

     

    On average how many diapers do you go through in a typical week, and do you launder them yourself, or do you use a diaper service, though now a days I think they just refer to themselves as linen services.

     

    Finally do you diaper him while he is lying in bed, on the floor, or do use someting as changing table, such as a low sitting dresser with a flat top.

     

    I appreciated your willingness to answer these questions on suject that can be very sensitive.

     

    Rob.

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    re: Pratical Matters.
    Raylene Gibbs
    Wednesday, March 18, 2009 at 06:44 PM

          I normally diaper my son on the living room carpet since it is always only us at home. Diapering him on his bed seemed akward to me so I only did that on a few occassions before I gave it up. Since I fold his diapers as what I always called a double-double and put a soaker pad in them, I never have any reason to diaper again before morning and I would hate to have to get up to do that and bother him too, if he woke up. I do the diapers along with other laundry here at home but it is really easy because he gets in the shower every morning with that on, slips off his plastic pants and then lets the shower rinse his diaper while he has it on for a little bit. It works great. He unpins one side and can then take it off and toss it in the pail, so after doing this simple thing there isn't hardly anything to offend or cause odors prior to wash day. That is his part to do and it works so well for us.

                                                         Raylene

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    re: re: Pratical Matters.
    Rob
    Wednesday, March 18, 2009 at 10:48 PM

    I'm glad things are working out well for you and your son.  Most if not all of the questions I've been asking you are based on my own experience growing up.

     

    I grew up in the 70's and like your son I also wet  my bed heavily virtually every night, and like you my mother put me back in diapers and rubber pants when I was about 10 or so.

     

    My mother would diaper me in the same manner you diaper a baby, including gabbing on to my ankles to lift my legs, and she would diaper  me on top of an oak dresser that she used as a changing table.

     

    Sometimes I would wake up during the night and my diaper would be soaked (but the bed would be dry) and since I could not get back to sleep wet I would have to wake her up so she could change me.

     

    She used a diaper service, since my younger sister was a toddler at that time so you can immagine how many diapers we used during a week.

     

    I finally stopped wetting for good shortly before turning 14, but I still remeber those days.

     

    Rob.

     

     

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    re: re: Pratical Matters.
    cece
    Saturday, March 21, 2009 at 11:15 AM

    Raylene, we went through this a few years ago.   We felt it was better for the boys to do be independent and to learn to take care of their needs.  If he has no intellectual issues that would hinder his taking care of his needs, try to get hiim to do a little more for himself.  It might be easier for you, but in the long run, if you can get hiim to change his diaper by  hiimself, it would be so much better for him.  My boys would wash their own linens when they were  in high school.  We knew that was a sign am accident had occurred.  We didn't fuss.

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    re: re: Pratical Matters.
    Tim9197
    Sunday, May 03, 2009 at 04:24 PM

    Raylene, I just wanted to say thanks for helping others like myself to feel more accepted. If only I had parents that had been like you. I had a damaged urethra (I assume from birth since I always had the wetting problem).  Nobody knew what the problem was or even that it originated from a medical reason.  I was punished and shamed and embarrassed until my teens when my parents finally realized I wouldn't torture myself like that on purpose.  Things are much better now that I'm older and have my own grown children, but when I was younger it was hell and I often thought about suicide.  It's people like you who help to heal the whole stigma around incontinence and wearing diapers.  Thank-you.  --Tim

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  11. Day time diapering.
    Rob
    Saturday, March 21, 2009 at 01:23 PM

    I was reading over some of your older responses, one of them was about how your sister insisted that your son wear diapers during the day when staying with her because of his day time accidents.

     

    Is this still the case, and if so does she simply keep him in cloth diapers all day or use disposable during the day and cloth at night, and have you yourself ever had a reason to diaper him during the day other then when he was a baby?

     

    This next question is tricky and I honestly could not think of a tactful way to ask it. Are or were his daytime accidents limited stictly to wetting or did you or sister have to deal with messy diapers on occasion.  The only reason I ask this is because from what I understand a sudden uncontrolled urge to urinate can sometimes cause an uncontrolled bowel movement as well.  If you don't want to answer this part I'll understand.  Rob

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  12. dealing with incontinence
    anonymouse2
    Wednesday, March 25, 2009 at 06:53 AM

    Hi, im a 16 year old boy from Melbourne, Australia. About 6 months ago I started to experiance some "leakage". At first I was really Hi, I am a 16 year old boy from Melbourne
    Australia. About 6 months ago I stared to experiance "leakage". At first I was really worried. But after a few weeks I realized that it was only a small amount and not noticeable. However, about 3 months ago the leakage started to become more intense, I started to wear 2 pairs of underwear to stop the leaking seeping into my pants. But soon a light smell of urine started to follow me and comments at school began to be passed around behind my back. Then about two weeks ago I woke up to find myself and my bed soaked. I became extremely anxious and scared. I sprayed my sheets with deodorant and covered the mess hoping no body would find out. Thankfully nobody did, however I think my room and sheets are beginning to smell. I wet the bed two more times that week, twice the next and twice so far this week. I am really worried. I havn't told anyone about this problem due to a fear of what their reaction will be. This is the first time I am telling anybody about my problem.
    Anonymous 2

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    re: dealing with incontinence
    Wet 24/7
    Monday, March 30, 2009 at 09:03 PM

    The first thing I feel you should do is talk with your parents about this. Not all parents are like mine, Then go to a doctor to have a check up. At your age things are changing we won't go there LOL. If you have a problem that can be fixed please please do so, If you have a problem that can't be fixed then you are not alone. Please don't let what anyone says to your face or behind your back make you feel that you are a freak or whatever they say about you. I know as I now have to wear diapers 24/7 and it is not fun but a part of life. And trust me on this one I tried to hide it and pretend it was not a problem, When in fact it was, No I am not a Doctor etc just one that has the same problem as alot of people but we hide or suffer because we don't want to be made fun of etc. You have a choice to make hide it or come clean with the ones that love you the most your parents. I hope this helped please let me know as I hate to see anyone hide in shame because of a health problem.

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    re: dealing with incontinence
    Martin James
    Tuesday, August 11, 2009 at 07:57 AM

    Hi,   I am also a teen who has wetting probs due 2 family probs  (i live in the U.K.)

          Yeah u gotta tell yr folks if yr wetting gets any worse, obviously they will take u 2 yr doc who will examine u maybe run some tests.    In the meatime get some protection better than waking up ina wet bed.   Maybe DRynights. Goodnights,  or proper youth diapers.      Martin James. 

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  13. Same experiences
    Dailyroutine
    Wednesday, April 01, 2009 at 10:58 PM

    At 13, I was still wetting once or twice a week and was convinced to go back to wearing overnight protection.... pull up diapers. It did not really work well as I slept on my side and still would wake up, now in both a wet bed and wet diapers. The next progression was to get me into cloth diapers and plastic pants.... instant success...No more wet sheets, BUT I began wetting three times, four times and within 2 months every night. The diapers were doing their job but not discouraging me from wetting.

     

     

    I continued wearing night diapers until college. At that time, wearing a diaper no longer held the social taboo to me and I commenced wearing them often during the day....same result as before, started wetting them more. I now HAVE to wear diapers....

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  14. Untitled Comment
    Anonymous
    Wednesday, April 08, 2009 at 09:39 AM

    Hi Raylene and Travis,

     

    I have suffered with diabetes for the last 15years, I have to wear nappies/diapers 24/7 due to nerve damage to the bladder caused by the diabetes, this has also left me with no feeling in my feet, legs, hands and arms, minor kidney and eye damage plus can now only walk with the aid of a walking stick.

     

    What i'm trying to say is please, please, please take care in looking after your son's diabetes, it can be life threatening.

     

    I'm 56 yrs old, have to inject insulin 4 times a day plus take loads of tablets for the diabetes/blood pressure/cholesterol.

     

    I would be very sad to learn that your son is developing these complications, at 15, he has a lot of active/happy living to do.

     

    GOOD LUCK TO BOTH OF YOU.

     

    Robert.

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  15. Follow-up to a previous post
    Geoff
    Wednesday, April 22, 2009 at 01:59 PM

    Our son, now 18, experienced a fairly serious sports injury a year ago which has resulted in regular night-time bedwetting. Via this site, we explored the practicality of using a diaper and at his request, have followed through with it. It has literally STOPPED an otherwise nightly issue of a wet bed. He is a very active athlete (hockey) and we placed all decisions regarding management of the issue on his shoulders. He chose using cloth diapers (from GABYS) and a snap-on plastic pant. (from COMCO) I should also add, that at his request, and given the sometimes awkwardness of using diaper pins, I diaper him at bedtime although he can manage the snap-ons on his own. Quite frankly, both my wife and I and his younger brother, were impressed with his maturity in dealing with the decisions here on his own. Wearing a diaper is no big deal!

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    re: Follow-up to a previous post
    Anony
    Tuesday, August 04, 2009 at 03:49 PM

    While I understand the problem that your son may have with pins, I still can't understand why someone would need to change an older person's diaper. There is the issue of personal shame, and there is the issue of convenience. Though I was wore diapers at 18, I would not have liked my father to see me or worse, to have to powder me or put desitin on me. Also, at that age, I was going out with my friends at night, and would definitely not have wanted my parents to wait up for me till i got home, so that I could be changed for bed. I also had a close friend who was aware of my problem and I enjoyed spending the night at his house. I would not have wanted to bring my father along to make sure I was dressed for bed.

     

    In short, how do you deal with all the personal invasion of privacy and space that diapering your son entails?

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    re: Follow-up to a previous post
    Martin James
    Tuesday, August 11, 2009 at 08:07 AM

    Hi,   I am a teen who also has bedwetting probs, although not as old as yr teen.   U mention snap stud plastic pants.     last year i caught my fingers pretty bad in the car door on a pinic trip 2 the coast ( i live in the U.K.)   so was unable 2 pin the cloth daipers at night  for a while so aunts had 2 do it,  they also had 2 assist with the snap studs on the plastic paNts,     so ist no big deal when parents have 2 help with diaper changing  .     Martin James just turned 16

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  16. i need help to
    mike
    Monday, April 27, 2009 at 11:37 AM

    hi i still wet my bed i am 15 and i where nappys i need help

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    re: i need help to
    Geoff
    Friday, May 01, 2009 at 09:52 AM

    Well what type of help do you need? Can your parents not give you advice/help?

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    Diapers
    Anonymous
    Monday, June 08, 2009 at 10:55 PM

    Hi do any of the parents here use pampers,huggies,or luvs?

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  17. Untitled Comment
    Darrell
    Thursday, June 11, 2009 at 01:47 AM

    I read an articicle about 25 yeas ago.

    From a shrink.

     

    he was treating a young boy for bedwetting.

    Didnt matter what the parents did, get him up all times of the night , no water hours before bed and what not.

    When the boy got to the doc he said" you cant do anthing , ive had every body try to stop me .

    Doc sad " dont worry about that"

    What i want to talk to you about is fishing, do you like fishing or want to go fishing?" or it was something along those lines.

     

    So the boy was quite supprised, that the doc had shifted the focus off of bed weting and never mentioned bedwetting at all in the conversation. except to tell him what fun he was going to have.

     

    Its reported that he did actually go fishing with his father the early the next morning.

    and had that night had not wet the bed.

     

    the shrinks idea was to shift the focus completely off the bed wetting thing.

    forget about it and he will also.

    I dont know if this will work as there may be an underlying physical problem.

     

    but i have heard that accentuating the negative can some times cause a problem

    Obviously in this case it may have been

     

    Good Luck Darell

     

     

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  18. I to still wet at night heavily and lightly during the day
    jonny
    Sunday, June 14, 2009 at 03:28 PM

    I am 26 and still diapered with heavey double cloth diapers and plastic pants at night and use either assurance pullups during the day or goodnights. My Mom tried every thing imaginable including alarms meds etc and through it all I still ended up back in diapers of one sort or another. uroligists say that i have a small bladder and my enurisis is chronic so have accepted that and with my Moms help am able to deal with it as I still live at home and am still diapered every night and am happy that with diapers that my bed stays dry and my pants stay dry during the day as well. tell your son that hopefully he will grow out of it but he may end up like me and that he should not be concerned as it is not some thing that he wanted but just a challange for him. And needing to be diapered is not treating him like a baby but a young adult that needs protection.  Jonny

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  19. Just an FYI
    ethanol2
    Monday, June 15, 2009 at 10:07 AM

    I know how he feels. I am a bed wetter too and just got out of wearing Luvs diapers to bed. I am currently wearing Goodnitesl during the day. During the night I am wearing Attends Briefs size small during the night. When I go on road trip or plane rides I am put into my Attends diapers for the rest of the trip. I have been wearing a diaper since birth. I wish him and you the best of luck. 

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    re: Just an FYI
    Geoff
    Tuesday, June 16, 2009 at 09:21 AM

    Hello Again. I assume from your post that someone else diapers you. What is your reaction to that? How old are you? Have you tried cloth and plastic pants?

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    re: re: Just an FYI
    ethanol2
    Tuesday, June 16, 2009 at 06:09 PM

    well I don't mind it when I am home and everything. I get my diaper changed alot by someone else. When I go out in public it gets embarrassing for me. Like when I am in the Mall mom will say I time it is time to change your diaper. Of course she always carries around a diaper bag with her. I always wear a diaper when I go out. I hate having to wear a onesie that snaps between my legs. I got a car seat for me to sit in while I am in the car. It has a five point harness setup. I am 12 and always been in disposable diapers. I just out of wearing Luvs diapers. No I have not tried cloth diapers yet.

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  20. Cloth diapers
    KR
    Thursday, June 18, 2009 at 09:14 PM

    Sam's has a product called Odo-Ban. If you soak a wet diaper in water with a couple ounces of this product there is no smell. One can wait until you have a load to wash.

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  21. I can't believe it.
    bcalbr
    Friday, June 19, 2009 at 09:31 AM

    My son wet the bed up until about 10 or 11 years old.  I mostly put up with changing the bedclothes & hiding his problem from the other kids in the house which were his age.  I mostly used medical pads or a plastic mat under his sheets.  Never in a million years would I have put a diaper on him.  I totally diagree with a grown woman putting a diaper onto a grown boy.  He could have put those on himself at least, as I don't think you mentioned he had any major physical difficulties.  My son's bedwetting, like some bedwetting problems, were psychological and he has since grown out of it.  You may want to have him see a psychologist to rule out any issues there before causing another mental issue or dependency by putting him in diapers.  You have to consider the fact that you might be allowing his incontenance to continue by giving that type of attention OR by helping it happen with the diaper for dependency in an otherwise normal child.  He may never grow out of it.

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    re: I can't believe it.
    Raylene Gibbs
    Saturday, June 20, 2009 at 08:46 AM

         I'm sorry your son had some type of psycological problems assiciated with his bedwetting and that he endured those years of wetting and waking up in that situation. My son is simply a very deep sleeper and still does not feel himself wetting or even needing to until it is over. Our choice of using diapers has been the proper one for us and I realize not everyone believes in doing that but it improved our lives in many ways. It is discreet and give him great protection and comfort through the night.

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    re: re: I can't believe it.
    bcalbr
    Sunday, June 21, 2009 at 12:37 AM

    My main concern is that you are enabling his problem instead of solving his problem.


    Imagine this if you will...  Every day you go into your son's room it stinks of pot & there are ashes all over the floor.  You are sick of vacuuming the floor every day & smelling the pot.  So, you buy him a bottle of air freshener & an ashtray. 

     

    This is what it seems to me like you are doing when you put your son into the diaper.  His bladder needs to be able to tell his brain it's time to wake up and pee.  With the diaper & protection, his body knows he can just go whenever.  It's probably going to prolong the problem instead of solving the problem.  There are many different ways to help a late-term bedwetter instead of masking it.  One of my favorites is to set an alarm clock for early morning or whenever it seems he's likely to urinate.  Once it goes off, he goes to the bathroom & back to sleep.  Another good one is to buy a plastic sheet or even an air matress that can be cleaned up.  Late term bed-wetting is rarely forever, but you might be doing harm by training his body to urinate into the diaper and not wake up to go pee.

     

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    re: re: I can't believe it.
    Rob
    Thursday, June 25, 2009 at 10:09 PM

    If diapering your son at night is what works best for you both then do so as long as it is necessary, others will disagree, but the important thing is what is right for you and your son.

                 Rob

     

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    re: re: re: I can't believe it.
    Raylene Gibbs
    Tuesday, July 07, 2009 at 08:13 AM

          Thank you Bob for your support. The diapers have helped my son and I both so much with his bedwetting. I know others have no difficulty or other problem using diapers either.

     

                              Raylene

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    re: re: re: re: I can't believe it.
    bedwetter
    Tuesday, July 21, 2009 at 08:43 PM

    I enjoyed reading your method of dealing with your son's bedwetting and totaly agree with it as I am nineteen and still am in diapers and plastic pants at night and was put back in them when i was maybe 12 because goodnights just didn't hold enough. Yes my Mom diapered me and still do's and this is because she can get them to fit better and I generaly have problems when I pin my own on. I put my own plastic pants on and then go to my bedroom and finish getting ready for bed. I don't think of it as any big deal and am gatefull to be able to sleep well and wake up in a dry bed in the morning. I think that what Rob said is true, "if it works then it is fine" Travis is lucky to have a great Mom

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    re: re: re: re: re: I can't believe it.
    Martin James
    Tuesday, August 11, 2009 at 08:17 AM

    Hi,    i am also a teen just 16 from the U.K.  who also has wetting probs due 2 a traumatic experience when younger (and other probs)        Its no big deal having yr folks 2 asist with diaper changing if u cant manage,,,,,, i caught my fingers in the car door last year, pretty bad, when out on a day trip,    aunts who i live with had 2 do everything,   pin cloth diapers , put on plastic pants. was no big deal, even had 2 help with ordinary diapers.         I`m sort of ok now.   but still cant pin then tight enough, aunts say they droop when wet if i do it.

                                      Martin James 

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    Raylene, a solution for pins..
    Scott
    Thursday, September 24, 2009 at 10:46 AM

    You might want to try Snappis...  I understand that these are used by some incontinent people with sucess.

    Here is a link:

     

    http://www.kaboodle.com/reviews/diaper-fasteners

     

    Scott

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    re: I can't believe it.
    Doug
    Sunday, August 02, 2009 at 05:16 PM

    I think it's always good to exchange information and relate success stories, but one should at least be telling the truth. We're led to believe that Raylene still diapers her 15-year-old son. The name sounded familiar and, when checking the old Wetbusters bulletin board in the Parents' section, there was a post from Raylene dated 4-26-03 where she claimed she was diapering her "13-year-old son." Now, whether you do new math or old math, a 13-year-old in April 2003 would be 19 today, not 15. Or perhaps none of this really happened in the first place and we have been reading examples of very imaginative creative writing.

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    Isis
    Wednesday, July 01, 2009 at 08:53 AM

    If you want better control than cloth with no smell... and have the confidence of a dry bed while remaining GREEN you have to try the Abena night time brand X-Plus they are the most absorbent brief in the world and the only diaper to have earned the Swan Lable in Europe for producing an green product... they can be found in retailers around Canada as well as at www.westcarehealthsupplies.com // and in the USA try www.xpmedical.com as well as www.kckind.com. Once you try these you will never use cloth again. Good Luck

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  23. you guys sound creepy &quot;diapering&quot; your 12 year old???
    Anonymous
    Friday, July 17, 2009 at 10:19 PM

    Why not use depends underpants? they work great and you and your sister don't have to "diaper" your teenage son, he can do it privately by himself.  Also these pants are not noticable under boxer shorts.  

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  24. Diapers
    Anonymous
    Tuesday, August 18, 2009 at 09:22 AM

    I have two boys, ages 8 and 11 who wet the bed often.  My husband and I will buy them goodnites nightpants.  We are having a hard time having to buy these $11.00 diapers every two weeks. My 8 year old can be seen crawing around the house in his diapers!  My husband talked to him but we still think he does it secretly.  I read it might be fetish.  He even pee's and poops in them instead of using the toliet.  Any ideas.

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  25. Comment
    Anonymous
    Wednesday, August 26, 2009 at 08:04 AM

    How old is he and what size does he wear.

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  26. fell out of very tall tree..could have been much worse
    thatdiaperguy
    Wednesday, September 02, 2009 at 08:58 AM

    hope that your son overcomes this prob as im sure it can stress you out..  I had an unfortunate accident on my 30th birthday climbing a tree and was after that day... thrown in to the beginning of  the adult wearer..but after many tears..self pity..and books.I have fully excepted diapers and rubber pants and  have found manny manny like me.. every day it is a way of life that sometimes happens to us for various reasons but it is not the end of the world we can overcome adversity ty

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  27. diapers
    Anonymous
    Thursday, October 08, 2009 at 02:41 PM

    hey im 14 nobody knows but i would really like to wear diapers if you have any suggestions could you say somethingWink

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    re: diapers
    jj
    Thursday, October 08, 2009 at 07:17 PM

    hay im 50 and like wen my girl like to put diapers on me a big diaper rubber pants then wen wet she chang me it is fun

     

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    re: re: diapers
    BabyTony
    Saturday, October 10, 2009 at 11:42 AM

    Started wearing plastic pants and  diapers when i was only four years old, Im now 43 years old. I do not think i could make it one day without my plastic panties. My favorite color is pink plastic, and my favorite Leakmaster plastic panties are my youth size from fetware, im wearing a pair right now as im writing this.  

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  28. i need help to
    Need Help
    Tuesday, October 13, 2009 at 09:14 PM

    I was 13 when i started wetting the bed but it stoped now im 15 and its back and i dont now how i should tell my parents. They well think im a baby. I dont now what to do.

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  29. Support and questions?
    Doc1639
    Sunday, October 18, 2009 at 12:53 AM

    1st):

     

    Ralene as a medical professional of over 26 years, I understand Diabetes II and the problems that go with diabetes type I or II. As for how you are dealing with it, is your choice and his, but I feel that he may be becoming addicted to this help. Suggest to him adult/teen pull-ups such as "Goodnights" or other brands and pull-up vinal overpants for bed time, and for the day time the same. He can change himself and do it relatively quickly without embarresment or on the dependability of others, whether he be 15 or 19 years old as has been suggested. As i write this you may already be doing this, and if thats the case forgive me, as I just found this site. Type II Diabetes is most generally a child/teen problem that can resolve in time or develope into more serious type I (Insulin dependent). Hope all works out for you and him, my prays are with you!

     

    2nd):

    Need Help; You state that you are 15 y/o and had this proble at 13 and now again at 15. Are you actually wetting the bed at night or is this a physiologic occurance that all males and females go throuth at this time in thier life (i.e.: Nauctural emition?) this can begin at different times for pre-teens and teens, and wetting can occur with this. If this didn't occur then and is now this could be the explination and not to worry it will pass, if it didn't occur then the (nauctural emitions), and was wetting purley, the problem could still be the same, and again your body is just catching up, or it could be due to stress or other physiological problems, may-be an underlying psychological problem that you are not aware of or are denying. In any case you should seek out help from a friend, parent or school counselor or family physcian, but in no case should you let this get to you, except as a concern! Wear a pull-up, or training pant with vinal over pants to bed, and if the problem occurs during the day time hours and with-out warning, deffenetly seek a physcians care and inform your parents, as they need to know and can assist you with any needed additional help. As with with above type II diabetes may-be a factor or worse. Don't sit in the dark and hope it goes away, help is available and you need to seek it out! Good Luck!

     

    Now for my question, and a little background on me.

    I am a 45 YOM that is single, never married and has no children. As I stated before I am a medical professional of 26 yrs. That profession was as a paramedic with 10 years in an ER and ambulance service and FD as a crew chief (company officer).

     

    In the early 80's I was in the military and on a mission that even today is still classified. I was the recon team leader and FFO (Forward Fire Observer) for a battleship, after calling in a succesful navel strike and trying to get to our evac position, my team was ambushed by a group of rebels. Out of a team of 5 to include myself, one didn't come home alive, but we brought them home as we never leave one of ours behind. I was bayoneted twice, (and yes, contrary to popular belief, bayonetes are still used even today as I write this, and very effectively), once in the liver through my balistic vest and uniform and the second time as I was on the ground trying to recover from the first strike. The bayonete was of the type on AK's and SKS's, round with a "flat screw driver tip". The second thrust didn't go through my balistic vest but was rather placed just under the lower seam and then thrust into me. The penetration wen deep enough the hit my bladder and the controlling nerve to it.

     

    To make a long story short, I have been wearing pull-ups and vinal over pants at night and pull-ups with a small hole in the front and my regular underpants over that during the day. The reason for the hole is to tell me that I need to change my pull-up as well as my underpants, as I now work from home, there is no concern for my wetting in public and have been doing the muscle control exercises and with medication there has been no great change in my problem. I remain having an active life style and haven't changed how I do things, but I would like to know if there are any cotton/terry training pants made for adults, that I can wear with my underpants and even a vinal over pant if needed, say when I do go out for a night on the town. I don't always feel the need to go, and want the security but also the protection with out the expense of pull-ups, bith as a monetary and personnel expense, as I have lost many relationships becuase of a pull-up and or vinal over pant being worn.

     

    Any help with this would be greatly appriciated.

     

    Thank-you, and God Bless all who go through or have a problem like this.

    PS: Any help on how to find and keep a relationship with this problem would also be helpful.

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