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Brad Community Member May 20, 2008
  • Colin has written some interesting and helpful articles on the subject of bedwetting, and he's always extremely compassionate. One such article discusses whether, if everything else has failed, a child or teen should be made to wear diapers to bed to ameliorate the problem, even if they don't want to. If parents do opt for a return to diapers, I urge them to patiently explore every possible treatment option first, as being put back in diapers can be devastating, especially for a teen. A bedwetter can at least go to bed feeling like a 'normal' kid, and if he wets, he can 'pretend' (or at least hope) that it won't happen again. Maybe a false presumption, but going to bed in diapers is the reverse presumption. Even if he doesn't wet, he still wakes up in diapers. There are good arguments for requiring the chronic bedwetter to do what is necessary to mitigate the 'harm' his wetting is causing, such as disruption to his own and possibly a sibling's sleep, the extra laundry, and the odor of urine which can pervade a whole house or apartment. But also consider this: A return to diapers can involve a devestating blow to a youth or teen's self-esteem, perhaps even worse than the bedwetting. (I realize other factors are involved.) Probably if that course is adopted, the earlier the better. Imagine a thirteen-year old in bed in diapers for the first time since being a baby. Diapers and infancy are inseperably associated, along with related ideas of helplessness and lack of maturity. Ths could be a huge blow to a youth approaching or already in puberty whose thrust is toward independence and adulthood. Diapers can be overwhelming in that they involve four senses- the thickness between the legs (especially if often recommended cloth diapers are used to alert to wetness), the sound from plastic or rubber as one moves, sights of diapers, pants, pins, perhaps a diaper pail, diaper rash ointment, etc., and the smell of baby powder. All of these sense experiences can be overwhelming and distressing. If diapering is chosen, especially in the case where siblings are present, news will get out. A brother's friend will have cause to be in the laundry room where plastic pants are drying. Upstairs he'll open the wrong sock and underwear drawer by accident. Mom will have inadvertantly left laundered cloth diapers on top of the dresser. The diaper pail will be discovered. Brother will get mad and blurt. Someone with a toddler brother or sister will recognize the slight bulk under your track pants, and just know. If parents decide to use diapers on resisting bedwetting kids, I think it's entirely defensible, but only as a seriously last resort.
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  • diaperboynick
    Dec. 04, 2014

    I'm thankful that someone else shares my same beliefs. My name is Nick, I'm 16yrs old & because of curtain events I'm not going to discuss why I'm diapered 24/7 but I will say Brad and Colin are right. I do believe ALL children should be diapered for bed/long car rides even if they don't bedwetter cause it gives them all a relief to know that no one will...

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    I'm thankful that someone else shares my same beliefs. My name is Nick, I'm 16yrs old & because of curtain events I'm not going to discuss why I'm diapered 24/7 but I will say Brad and Colin are right. I do believe ALL children should be diapered for bed/long car rides even if they don't bedwetter cause it gives them all a relief to know that no one will know if they had an accident. Diapers & pull ups should NEVER be used as a punishment & my mom will even say that. Yeah before putting ur child back in diapers/pull ups, go through all options, make sure that the child fully understands that its not a punishment, have that heart to heart chat with them, its to help them. I met a lot kids of all ages on my street, some do worry a lot about accidents when in public or even in a car ride, some kids has no worries. Please if u do choose diapers make sure u don't embarrass the child by pointing it out in public, keep it private.

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    JEFFERY
    Feb. 20, 2010

    IT IS A PROBLEM SOME PEOPLE HAVE IF YOU CAN NOT HOLD IT YOU WILL WET IF YOU WET WELL EVERYONE WILL KNOW IF YOU ARE NOT IN DIAPERS. PEOPLE AT MY WORK KNOW I WEAR DIAPERS , AND I DO NOT CARE ANYMORE IF PEOPLE KNOW, THE CHOICE IS A DIAPER OR A BIG WET SPOT ON THE JEANS OR A PUDDLE UNDER YOU . YOUR CHOICE , MY CHOICE IS DIAPERS GOOD LUCK FRIEND

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    Anonymous
    Jul. 18, 2009

    Being "made to wear diapers to bed to ameliorate the problem," or any other form of diaper discipline is abuse. It is humiliating to the child. It can cause intimacy issues which leads to many more devastating problems later in life. Put a plastic cover on the mattress if it's worth that much to you. As discreetly as possible get medication to help with the...

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    Being "made to wear diapers to bed to ameliorate the problem," or any other form of diaper discipline is abuse. It is humiliating to the child. It can cause intimacy issues which leads to many more devastating problems later in life. Put a plastic cover on the mattress if it's worth that much to you. As discreetly as possible get medication to help with the problem. I'm telling you from experience this has dire consequences later in life. PLEASE do not diaper discipline your children.

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    Jul. 06, 2009

    I absolutely Luv Luv's Diapers! I used to use Huggies diapers, but they just don't hold up to the Luv's diapers! The size 6 diapers I wear hold so much its unbelievable! I am staying with Luvs diapers all the way!

  • Anonymous
    K N K
    May. 25, 2008

    In our house there are 2 bedwetters and cloth diapers and plastic pants are worn by both.  As parents it is necessary that the use of bedwetting protection be discussed with the bedwetter both before starting to use it and at times again while using it.  This reinforces their feelings about themselves and helps greatly with self esteem.  We usually...

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    In our house there are 2 bedwetters and cloth diapers and plastic pants are worn by both.  As parents it is necessary that the use of bedwetting protection be discussed with the bedwetter both before starting to use it and at times again while using it.  This reinforces their feelings about themselves and helps greatly with self esteem.  We usually listen to the child if they have anything to say about having diapers on and talk it out with them right then.  It is our experience that his usually happens right after they have been put on or as things are being made ready to be put on. 

     

    As for keeping it quiet.  It is hard but it requires that other siblings be told that this is not something to be discussed with friends or outside of the house.  This point should be reinforced with the siblings from time to time.   As for siblings seeing the child with diapers and plastic pants on, it is next to impossible to prevent and so it must be explained that they are not to tease or make fun of the child in any way.

     

    As for keeping things out of sight around the house, as a parent I feel it is important that these things be taken care of.  The plastic pants are washed and hung to dry in the laundry room and the door is closed during that time when the diapers and plastic pants are dry they are put into the diaper drawer and out of sight.

     

    Constant reinforcement of the bedwetters comfort is important and they should know that when they have the diapers and plastic pants on they can go where ever in the house they want and do what they want.  In the colder weather they are encouraged to put pj's on over the plastic pants.  In the warmer weather it is okay to be in the house with the plastic pants on until going to bed.

     

     

    • Anonymous
      JEFF
      Nov. 07, 2009

      SOMETIMES YOU GOT TO TELL A CHILD IT IS NO BIG DEAL YOU NEED DIAPERS AT NIGHT , MAYBE YOU CAN WEAR A DIAPER IN FRONT OF THEM TO SHOW THEM THAT YOU CAN NOT HELP SLEEPING HEAVY THUS YOU WET AT NIGHT OTHER SLEEP LIGHTLY AND CAN MAKE IT TO THE RESTROOM , THEY SOULD NOT WORRY ABOUT IT.

      WHY DON'T YOU PUT THEM IN DISPOSABLES SO YOU CAN JUST THROW THEM AWAY, THAT IS...

      RHMLucky777

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      SOMETIMES YOU GOT TO TELL A CHILD IT IS NO BIG DEAL YOU NEED DIAPERS AT NIGHT , MAYBE YOU CAN WEAR A DIAPER IN FRONT OF THEM TO SHOW THEM THAT YOU CAN NOT HELP SLEEPING HEAVY THUS YOU WET AT NIGHT OTHER SLEEP LIGHTLY AND CAN MAKE IT TO THE RESTROOM , THEY SOULD NOT WORRY ABOUT IT.

      WHY DON'T YOU PUT THEM IN DISPOSABLES SO YOU CAN JUST THROW THEM AWAY, THAT IS WHAT I USE. IT IS EXPENSIVE BUT LESS NOTICEABLE. I HAVE TO GO TO WORK WEARING THEM UNDER MY JEANS.

  • Maria Gifford
    May. 20, 2008

    Hello Brad,

     

    Good to hear from you again. Like Colin, you have much to share with us on the subjects of bedwetting and teen/adult diapers -- and you do so with just as much care and compassion -- thank you. Keep writing. Your knowledge and experience are helpful to other members of our community.

     

    Best,

    Maria