I am 24 female, Should I be ashamed to hear that I must begin to wear cloth's diapers?
Well, let me say that I think my necessity to wear diapers is psychological (or at least I feel so). I am 24 years old woman, and I consider myself a quite and introverted person and something shy. I remember that soon after a strong emotional shock (2 intimate relatives' deaths in 2 months, one year ago), I was quite depressed and very nervous; I got scared of everything (even of the hooters of the cars down the street, the sirens or the noise of the bells).
I remember one day, down the street, where the traffic was very dense, I tried to cross a very congested street and a car braked suddenly and almost it runs over me, in that instant I got scared so much that I urinated myself ( I peed my whole panty and jeans). When crossing to the sidewalk of in front, I noticed that I was completely wet, and it was noticed a lot. I took a taxi and went home to cry the whole day.
Well, I think it was only the beginning, then I began bedwetting, and even in the office (day time), so much that it could no longer use the pants of the uniform so, my boss drew me attention because it was considered a disciplinary fault.
A co-worker advised me visiting a psychologist in search of help. I made it in this way and after some sessions that included even the hypnotherapy, my psychologist reached the conclusion that I had stress incontinence (that is to say due to an emotional problem) and she sent me treatment with pills and also she recommended me the regular use of maxi pads permanently and even to change them for those that are designed for incontinence, with what my problem would go taking off gradually.
At the beginning, it seems to me, the treatment worked very well , but a little time after that, the symptoms returned and my pad didn't already protect me totally since it wets too fast and I had to change myself many times a day (neither it is said at night where it didn't protect me anything, it was as not having setting anything since the sanitary towel lets pee spills to the bottom sheets), and the towel was also producing a skin rash very severe and I began with crisis of urinary infections.
With regard to this, I returned again to see my psychologist to tell her what was happened, and this time she told me, for my horror and surprise, that I should already get used to use cloth diapers as much the day as the night, besides a plastic pants. I have visited some Urologists, and all them has told me (after many expensive exams) that I have nothing wrong with my urinary tract, or bladder or kidneys, and that the main cause of my urinary infection could be and irritation allergy due to brands of my maxi pads, and most of them are agree I should wear cloth's diapers plus oral medication, in order to take the control of my dysfunction.
I hate pills I have taken because of many side effects that they have, and I am very ashamed to have to wear cloth's diapers and plastic pants, like if I were a toddler.
Please HELP ME...!!!! 
Katherine,
There's no need to feel ashamed about your need to wear diapers as an adult. Many people have different types of incontinence and have learned to accept and deal with it successfully and comfortably.
However, a huge social stigma does exist about incontinence, which is unfortunate, but you can overcome your feelings of guilt and shame like many others have. See:
Stigma and Incontinence
http://www.healthcentral.com/incontinence/c/45/1653/stigma/
How to Deal With the Stigma of Using Diapers
http://www.healthcentral.com/incontinence/c/3328/8960/deal-stigma
Stigma in Healthcare
http://www.healthcentral.com/incontinence/c/45/12515/stigma
What's in a Name: Incontinence "Briefs" or "Diapers?"
http://www.healthcentral.com/incontinence/c/4397/25989/incontinence
Please feel free to connect with patient experts and other community members on our site. There are many people here who can relate and offer support.
Best,
Maria
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You should not! An elder person, I was advised by another to use these, since the odour of seepage was being detected by others. Bashfully, I went to purchase some and was approached by an attendant who was not much older than you; she informed me that the products are used by individuals of your age and younger, as well as the elderly. There is nothing to be ashamed about, it just cannot be helped.
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I'm sorry to hear about your struggle. It can be very embarrassing to wear absorbent products (adult diapers), but the truth is that they are a medical aid just like a cast or a sling work for a broken arm. Menstrual pads are designed to absorb vaginal discharge and menstrual blood. Products that are designed for incontinence are specifically designed to absorb urine, so you'll have much better luck using those. There are both disposable products and reusable (cloth) products. They both have different advantages and disadvantages. Factors to think about when deciding between disposable and reusable are cost, convenience, environmental impact, and health concerns such as your rash. I'm not quite sure what exactly your rash is, but I know that skin breakdown is a big problem no matter what kind of products people use, because whenever skin gets moist it can start to break down. To help alleviate this problem, make sure that you change your products often, and look into using a lotion that is specifically designed to help the skin. Different products are made differently, and of different materials, so while you may find one product uncomfortable, another product might be fine, so keep looking until you find the right thing for you. Best of luck!
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hi im obilio,im 29 years old and i wear diapers.what i mean with this is not to feel bad about it.there is a lot kind of diapers that you can choose like tena.it doesnt have any plastic outside and they absorb very good.and you dont have to worry about plastic noise.if you have to wear them,just think about the benefist that you can get from it.your life will be more easer..i have been like you,from doctor to doctor for nothing because they didnt do anything and now i have to pay over 3,000 dollars in hospital bills.now i can go with more freedom any where since i start wearing diapers.just think that is part of your daily clothes.dont let this stop your life.
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Hi Katherine, my name is Donnie Willman and I am new in here. Just to let you know I wear diapers, and have been all my life due to weak to almost no bladder muscles. I have had 2 operations and still nothing worked long term. I have accepted this, its not bad but you learn to deal with it. If you want to keep in contact you may e-mail me at myschooling@hotmail.com hope to talk to you soon.
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Its hard to get used to incontience it still is for me too it feels like your giving up all hope if you give in and use the diapers. Since I've come here I have come to realize
there will all ways be hope you can do both and its not wrong. Ill bet your not sleeping hardly at all because your afraid you'll have another accident right? I know it, for me the lack of sleep just made the emotional and physical problems worse. I took the advice of someone here and quit trying all these contraptions in order to not feel like a baby or something and orderd some cloth diapers and waterproof pants ,its still hard to say, but what a difference no infections or leaks and I can think better because I sleep so good now.Kathrine you cant heal without sleep so the next step should probably try the diapers its ok here we understand then when you get a little better look for answers to get over it when you can think better when your ready its gona be ok. davidb
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Psychological or Physiological.. it makes no difference.. if you wet the bed you wet the bed and if you do not want the hassle of washing bedding what is the problem of wearing absorbent products and waterproof over pants.. do you think you are alone or unique.. if so look in every single drug store and discount store and many mail order catalogues and Wal-Mart etc and see all the products available to assist you and the rest of us.. good luck.. give it a try and skip the guilt.. who cares..
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do not worry.
is more natural than you think.
do not have to feel embarrassed by having to use diapers, because many people do (adults or children).
one day your problem will disappear ... and use diapers is very comfortable ...
kisses and best
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I just wanted to share that I am in a similar position: incont issues due to emotional trauma, and still fairly young.
Yeah, I can relate to the added angst....
Good luck.
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there are also disposable diapers that you can wear. i am 42 and wear diapers.
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