When I was a teen and having bed-wetting problems which for me was over 7 years ago, I used Goodnites.......however, my best friend who has a 13 year old brother uses Underjams, and said that they stay on better through those active dreams. When my friend told me about his brother, I told my friend that I actually had that problem back then too, and it might help for his brother to know that his friend's best friend had the same problem. I talked to his brother for awhile and shared stories about everything I knew would be helpful. When a teen wears diapers to bed, ((LIKE I DID)), we tend to be VERY self conscience about our image, and afraid of even letting our parents hear a crinkle/ see the diaper on us.....because we're trying to develop our image, but the diaper sure didn't help with that development....none the less, we knew we needed it.
The best thing I could have had at that time was the knowledge of who else wore diapers in my class at school, and become best friends with them, but that would require sleep-overs, and I sure couldn't risk wetting my sleeping bag at THEIR PLACE. So, I simply invited people to my place, and waited for them to fall asleep so I could sabatage them by making them pee themselves, so once they woke up, I could share my secret......However....truth be told, that only happened with one of the friends I invited. The friend whom has the brother whom I shared stories with is a completely different friend though.
The friend who got totally embarrased at my place was a neighbor of mine whom I considered to be a close friend, but over time, he made associations with the wrong crowd, and became VERY LIBERAL.........I think you know where this is going.....We are now only "Friendly acquaintences", but still laugh when we talk about the morning I showed him my Goodnites. He started buying Goodnites for awhile in fear that he actually was starting to bed-wet again, but didn't seem to have a problem, so I'm not sure if he ever added it up and came to the honest conclusion. I sure will never admit to it! Your kid could do that....or perhaps you could even help him with it. I gaurentee you, that any of his friends whom come over and wet themselves WONT be sharing that embarrassing info with their parents. Even if they did, parents know that kids that age are going through alot of changes, and probably expect something to happen every once in a while.
Personally ((I'm 23)), but when I become a parent, and my kid experiences the same problems I did (( Inherited ))....He's going to have alot better time coping with it then I did, because he's got the coolest dad around who understands his problem and is willing to admit about his past. That's the biggest thing right there......I was deathly afraid of my dad knowing about me wearing Goodnites. My mom found out about it only because I wasn't careful where I disposed them. My brothers were my life-saver, and their lips were sealed..((Well, they thought it was cute that their little brother was going to wear diapers AGAIN....They didn't want tot spoil it)).
The BIGGEST "NO NO" that you can do..........IS GOSSIP about your son's PRIVATE problem to ANYONE ..............I MEAN ANYONE!!!!!! To this day, I am DEATHLY afraid of whom of my relatives KNOW about me, due to my GOSSIP MOM. This is 1 of the deadliest SINS for any mom to make((( in the eyes of THEIR SON)). Who knows, maybe I am speaking to the choir, but even so, it's important to remember. I moved FAR AWAY from my parents......They live in St. Joseph, MO......I moved to Everett, WA.. To me, it sounds like perhaps you and your son have a good relationship going, or at least he's not shy about his problem to you. This is good, and hopefully he doesn't move FAR AWAY, as I felt I had to do. I really wish the best for your son ....and even you for that matter, as before my mom knew, we had a really good relationship with each other. (( I was a "momma's boy".)). I however don't trust my mother with GOSSIP however......anything she knows, she spreads to her sisters.....This is just a fact, as I heard her talk about my oldest brother to my aunts......She didn't know I was secretly listening in, but that's why its important to not spread gossip.
AS I SAID THOUGH.....to me it sounds like none of my mothers problems are one's that you would have........To me, this was more or less a way of "venting my frustrations", and hoping that more people will understand the minds of teens, and how we think. Us boys develop/mature a little slower than girls do.....even I'll admit that, however maybe its for a good reason, because our future consists of being the head of the household, being IN CHARGE, and even while this is not an immediate transition for the majority of us, it's still hard-wired into boys, to take a little longer enjoying boyhood longer. For girls, its the opposite, their mature much faster, and look adult like much sooner. I can't really explain why, because logically, I would thing it would be the exact opposite......but God has a sense of humor, and understanding Him is like understand the universe.
Sorry for keeping you so long,