bed wetting and becoming dependent on diapers

Davey, One wears what one needs. If it is a pad that works then wear a pad, only you know what is needed. It isn't hard to figure out. They are called many names, "products", Briefs, absorbant underwear, etc. But they are all still diapers. What varies is the absorbancy and only you know how much protection works (ie: keeps the bed dry or your pants dry). It is nor easy and all I can add is that you will never have a diaper on that is too absorbant but that you will learn.  Papa

Incontinence can sometimes worsen to the point of leaking quite frequently. However, there are many treatments available, and if one works for you, then you might not need to use absorbent products at all. Talk to your doctor about finding out what is causing your leakage so that you can start trying to find a way to treat the underlying problem.