There are many types of incontinence, so I'm not sure exactly which two you have. The most common types are urge incontinence (feeling a sudden, intense, and frequent urge to urinate, followed by leakage of urine before you can make it to the toilet), and stress incontinence (leaking urine when you cough, laugh, sneeze, etc.). If you have both of these types it is called mixed incontinence. (Actually, you can have a "mixed incontinence" of other types of incontinence too, but usually the term mixed incontinence refers to having urge and stress incontinence).

If you have mixed incontinence of both stress and urge, the main key is that you need to receive treatment for BOTH stress and urge incontinence. It's kind of like having a broken arm and a broken leg at the same time - you have to treat both or it doesn't matter how good the treatment is for one, the other will still be broken.

Treatments for stress incontinence include trying exercises, electrical stimulation, biofeedback, wearing a pessary, or having surgery. Surgery is the most "extreme" treatment, but many people find that it isn't too big of a deal and they say they bounce back pretty quickly.

Treatments for urge incontinence include trying an elimination diet, bladder retraining, medications, or off-label use of botox.

Having mixed incontinence can be very challenging, because it's so hard to find a combination of treatments that works. Hang in there, and keep trying!