You don't mention if you have.. or have even tried.. the adult absorbent products.. most of us have 'been there done that' .. wet beds and wet bedding.. the laundry and the work.. up and down all night.. and finally 'give in' and use the many products available to all of us.. I will not do surgery.. I will not take drugs.. I do not want the side effects.. period.. good luck.. you are not alone believe me.. just look at the products to assist us that are so readily available in every drug store, super market, Wal-Mart, mail order catalogues..