Tuesday, June 09, 2009 worried about college asks

Q: What can I do to help my daughter survive dorm life at college. She is well adjusted and her friend

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maintenenceman1

6/11/09 12:25pm

We need more info in order to be able to help

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Maintenenceman 1

bedwetter 669

9/ 3/09 10:40am

Let her know that she isn't the only one in her dorm who wets the bed. Let the house "mom" know in advance and maybe she can be pared up with another bedwetter. I speak from experience.

Carol

2/ 1/10 1:35pm

I wet the bed when I was in college, too. I lived in a dorm with a roommate the whole time. It's not hard to be discreet. My roommates never knew I wet the bed.

1. Get a plastic sheet for the bed. It's a good idea anyway; those mattresses can be pretty unsanitary. I never had any big leaks from the diapers, but there were plenty of little leaks.

2. Visit student health service as soon as possible. They can be really helpful. My college stocked disposables for students, so a student could keep a few in her room (I went to a women's college) and pick up more from the health service whenever necessary.

The diapers that the health service stocked weren't very absorbent enough for me. I ordered my own, had them delivered to the health service and picked up a few at a time.

3. I changed in and out of my diaper in a shower or toilet stall in the bathroom. I had a big quilt bag to hold everything (including diapers and wipes) for getting ready for bed and for getting going in the morning. Use big ziplock bags to keep wet diapers until you can get privacy to put them in the trash.

4. Where I went to college, everybody wore big, baggy flannel nightgowns. Not sexy, but it made it easy to hide a diaper.

worried about college

2/ 1/10 3:37pm

Thank you for you kind reply.. My daughter is actually doing very well with her situation and has been helped a lot through acupuncture.

The tip about the health center is very good and I will pass it on to her!

May I ask, did you eventually stop wetting the bed?

Carol

2/ 9/10 3:24pm

I still wet the bed. I'm in my 30s now, happily married with two kids. Let your daughter know that it shouldn't keep her from having a perfectly normal life.

worried about college

2/ 9/10 4:53pm

Thank you for your candor, I am happy to hear that you have a good life and children. My daughter yearns for a family life and I think sometimes she is bummed that it may not happen.

I hope she can one day find a wonderful mate, as you have and live a normal life too.

I have passed on your information and it has made a difference in my daughter's outlook.

Thank you for sharing!

Carol

2/12/10 6:00pm

There's no reason incontinence should keep her from having boyfriends, getting married, having a family or otherwise living a completely normal life. It's not as though it's a communicable or disfiguring disease. She is who she is; there's no reason she should let this define her in any way. How many of life's problems can be dealt with by dropping something in a trash can?

She should date and have a social life just like any other woman. She'll meet some nice guys. She doesn't need to jump into bed with them. The ones worth knowing will respect that. If she gets serious enough with a guy, she can just tell him. Really, it's not a big deal. You just go to a nice dinner, hold his hand, look him in the eye and tell him.

I dated pretty constantly in high school, college and grad school. I had four boyfriends that got serious enough that I told them. It didn't scare any of them off. They were curious, of course, but it wasn't ever an issue. Just a secret to share.

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