There's no reason incontinence should keep her from having boyfriends, getting married, having a family or otherwise living a completely normal life. It's not as though it's a communicable or disfiguring disease. She is who she is; there's no reason she should let this define her in any way. How many of life's problems can be dealt with by dropping something in a trash can?   She should date and have a social life just like any other woman. She'll meet some nice guys. She doesn't need to jump into bed with them. The ones worth knowing will respect that. If she gets serious enough with a guy, she can just tell him. Really, it's not a big deal. You just go to a nice dinner, hold his hand, look him in the eye and tell him.   I dated pretty constantly in high school, college and grad school. I had four boyfriends that got serious enough that I told them. It didn't scare any of them off. They were curious, of course, but it wasn't ever an issue. Just a secret to share.