• lalala12345 lalala12345
    July 13, 2010
    I am a teenager and I want to wear diapers, but I don't want to tell my parents. what do I do?
    lalala12345 lalala12345
    July 13, 2010

    Okay, well, I am 13 and I want to wear diapers. I don't want to tell my parents though. I don't know how I can wear them, but hide it from my parents. Should I start wetting my bed on purpose so I have a reason to wear them? Or should I just tell my parents. I'm scared my parents will think I need help or something and take me to a therapist. So, wht should I do?. Please help!

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  • Geoffrey August 20, 2012
    Geoffrey
    August 20, 2012
    I wet the bed for three nights then just said I was tired of being soaked. It worked and they offered me diapers. I am wearing them to bed for the first night now. READ MORE
  • steve jenkinson July 13, 2010
    steve jenkinson
    July 13, 2010

    Ok well this is not an easy question to answer you say you want to start to wear diapers I take it that you don't have a wetting problem. Don't think I am judging you I am not I know there are people that wear diapers for other reasons apart from incontinence such as comfort and security and then there are people that wear them for long jorneys,going to the cinima and more. There are also those that wear diapers because they have a fetish and I think you may be in this catorgrie.I would think that you might be barking up the wrong tree wetting your bed you may create more problems for your self than you would like to handle.I think that if your Mum is the type of person that will sit down and listen then take her to one side and talk to her about it if she is the caring mother that listens and loves you and will help you, talk to her and see what she says.

    If I am right and you do have a fetish for diapers you will not beat it, it will be there all the time until you do some thing about it,it will make you unhappy it will eat at you until you make the first step and buy some diapers but I still think no matter how hard it will be you need to get your mothers blessing first.I have done a lot of reserch on the internet about such things and belive me I am right.

    Now the other thing is wearing diapers all the time is not easy first there is the cost then there is the discomfort when you are sore and they do make you sore some times I know I wear them 24/7 and they can be a real pain sometimes.

    I have to wear diapers because I have been incotinent for some years now, they are not what I would wear out of choice.

    Please let me know what you think about my message and if you are going to talk to your mother.One other thought that might be of some help when you talk to her and that is you could do some reserch on infantism on the internet or even show her this message.

    Best of luck

    Steve

     

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    • billy1996
      February 15, 2011
      billy1996
      February 15, 2011

      ok im 14 gonna be turning 15 i have a bed wetting problem and i need help i have my friend buy thm how should i tell my mom i wet the bed and need her to understand  she wont understand i need help give me advices to help me not be so nervouse to ttell my mom and  what kind of diapers  or pull ups should i wear email me back                         monkey22796@aol.com

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    • Steve havery wanna be 13year old
      August 20, 2014
      U should tell yo mom if it that bad and your tired of it she well most likely ofther u diapers u well feel much better READ MORE
  • Benny1995 July 14, 2010
    Benny1995
    July 14, 2010

    lots of people that  that do is  go buy them and  if your mom dad is nothome then hide ist some where  i have a friends  that like to wear them and he go buy them and hide its in his room  so his mom and dad do not knwo    

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  • becca17215 October 26, 2015
    becca17215
    October 26, 2015
    Can you tell me why? I have a 14 year old boy who buys diapers on the Internet and secretly wears them, soils them and puts the dirty ones in his drawers. What do I say to him? READ MORE
    • jasonallen122000
      January 10, 2016
      jasonallen122000
      January 10, 2016
      Yes read my post by jasonallen12200o January 03 2016 I hope this can help. READ MORE
    • Andrew23
      February 10, 2016
      Andrew23
      February 10, 2016

      Hey Becca, my name is Andrew. I am 28 years old and from NJ. I have struggled with the desire to wear diapers my whole life. My parents caught me stealing diapers when I was very young and were not very understanding. I would love to talk to you about your journey with your son if you like.

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  • I do it too December 13, 2014
    I do it too
    December 13, 2014
    i am 13 i started wearing diapers again when i was 12 i walked to the store and bought them i stuffed them into my backpack and nobody knows after 15 months of it and i wear them to school i wear the goodnites by the way READ MORE
  • jasonallen122000 January 03, 2016
    jasonallen122000
    January 03, 2016
    Hi I wrote this post for parents and their sons to understand why they like diapers. Hope it helps. For any parent who gets mad at your child because they are a DL/TB STOP!!! DL /TB is the acronym for Diaper Lover/ Teen Baby. I do not understand why some parents flip out over this. When I was first put back in diapers it destroyed me it took the wind out of my sails. It hurt me terribly I went through terrible treatment in school and it put terrible fears in my mind. I have a medical problem and because I need diapers I developed the fear that I would become a DL/TB too. I found that just because you need diapers you do not become a DL/TB. But that being said I want to stress that it’s important to understand a DL/TB. I read at that time anything I could about diapers and people who wear them. So what I’m writing about here is in their defense. So as a parent I’m asking any and all of you to “STOP BEING MAD” if you have a child who loves diapers, and especially if you are a mother of one. Now do not get mad here because of what I am going to say. “Because in reality you as the mother are the cause of their feelings”. I remember reading years ago that DL/TB is a fetish. Keep an open mind here it is. But it is developed when the child is young. I remembered them being as young as five. After talking with another parent I went back and read over again the information and found it is earlier than that. Much earlier in fact it is in infancy. I know there are a lot of DL/ABs who have been searching for this answer for a long time too. First DL is a sexual fetish a TB is a Paraphilia. STOP! Do not be frightened by these two words they are both harmless. Paraphilia is just a derivative of the fetish. In other words a TB is a DL first. The important thing to keep in mind here is that the more you know about why your child is a DL/TB the better parent you will be. Most importantly you need to keep in mind this is not your child's choice. Yes you have questions, do you really think your child does not. He is the one who has to live with it and understand this is a lifelong thing and the more you know the more you can both help each other. Click on this url and read it. This url has been changed and is not the original information I wrote this post from. I do still have the information and can send it to you in its intirity if you would like it, But I will try to add the specific information I use here too. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sexual_fetishism Read carefully: Psychological Origins and Development and especially about the Transitional Object and Behaviorism. Keep in mind when they are referring to the term sexual here they are talking about mind development not an act. And, understand that the “Transitional object’ is the diaper and that the ‘Behaviorism’ is the changing of that diaper. Early psychology assumed that fetishism either is being conditioned or imprinted or the result of a strong emotional (possibly traumatic) or physical experience. Often, these experiences occurred in early childhood. For example, an individual who has been physically abused could either have a sexual obsession with intercourse, or they could be completely terrified by even the idea of being touched. Physical factors like genetic disposition are another common possible explanation. In the following, the most important theories are presented in chronological order: Alfred Binet suspected fetishism was the pathological result of associations. Accidentally simultaneous presentation of a sexual stimulus and an inanimate object, he argued, led to the object being permanently connected to sexual arousal. In 1951, Donald Winnicott presented his theory of transitional objects and phenomena, according to which childish actions like thumb sucking and objects like cuddly toys are the source of manifold adult behavior, amongst many others fetishism.[8] The use of a transitional object in infancy is a healthy experience (Winnicott, 1953). To understand the origin of a fetish object and of fetishism, the infant’s use of the transitional object and of transitional phenomena in general must be studied (Winnicott, 1953). In his article ‘Transitional objects and phenomena’, Winnicott says about fetish: “Fetish can be described in terms of a persistence of a specific object or type of object dating from infantile experience in the transitional field, linked with the delusion of a maternal phallus” (Winnicott, 1953). In other words, a specific object or type of object, dating from an experience during the period where the mother gradually pulls back as an immediate provider of satisfaction of the child’s desires, persists as a characteristic in adult sexual life. Before this transitional phase, the child believes that his own wish creates the object of his desire (specifically the qualities of his mother that fulfill his needs), which brings with it a sense of satisfaction. During this phase the child gradually adapts to the (frustrating) realization that the object cannot be controlled to serve the child's needs. The transitional object is always the result of a gratifying relationship with the mother, specifically with the maternal body. It stands for the satisfying qualities that the object (the mother/ father) of the first relationship the child has. The child adapts to the impact of the realization that the mother is not always there to ‘bring the world to him’ through fantasizing about the object of his desire while using an object (a teddy bear, a piece of cloth). He creates an illusion of the previous object. In relation to the transitional object the infant passes from (magical) omnipotent control to control by manipulation (involving muscle eroticism and co-ordination pleasure). In opposition to this, the fetish represents the impossibility of pleasure with the body of the mother or the paternal body in the case of females. Fetishism, although less abundant in occurrence in the female psyche, or of a different nature, is not the monopoly of men. The transitional object may eventually develop into a fetish object and so persist as a characteristic of the adult sexual life (Winnicott, 1953). Normally, the child gains from the experience of frustration during the transitional phase, although the infant can be disturbed by a close adaptation to need that is continued too long or is not allowed its natural decrease. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx What I’m reading here is that as the mother begins to pull away from total care of the child then the child begins to look at the repeated contact with the (piece of cloth aka the diaper) as the continuation of that bond. And that the repeated changing of the diaper only strengthens that bond. Keep in mind that once this occurs it never goes away. It also seems there is a window of opportunity where this takes place. Which would explain why there are not a lot of kids who are DLs. What I am also seeing here is that the bond between that mother and that child is so inseparable that any mother who has a child who is a DL has to be crazy to think there is something wrong with their child. This is just the way I read it. There is a lot of information online that can help with any fears that you have that your child has a problem they do not. What I'm saying is there are many parents who get mad when they find out their child likes diapers especially boys. I am trying to explain the reason why that liking comes about. I have worn for many years I do not mind them now but I am not a DL. In the defense of the child who is and it is not every boy but for those boys who are DLs any parent who gets mad at that child is wrong. If you read the information I posted it seems very self explanatory if you read it several times. Or I think it is. At least this is how I read it. "First it happens in infancy that the baby develops the fetish". Keep in mind this is not a bad thing many people have a fetish and they are very normal people. Secondly it happens when the mother begins to break away from caring for the baby's every need and allows the baby to begin to explore on its own in other words allowing the baby to crawl and explore its surroundings. This happens when the baby is only months old. This is actually a very important part of a baby's development. But there are some babies who want to cling to the mother's bond longer and tend to do so for a period of time until they do eventually begin the exploratory process. These babies therefore develop the fetish or the transitional object as it is called. That being the "teddy bear" or the "piece of cloth aka the diaper" as a continuation of the motherly bond. Not all babies cling to this bond so strongly it is only those that do who develop in this case the diaper fetish or become the DL. This explains why not all boys are DLs. The fact is these babies are just as normal as any other baby they just are trying to cling to the motherly bond a little longer. That being said that is why any mother who has a boy who is a DL really has nothing to fear he just wanted to keep close to his mother a little longer when he was a baby. Thirdly when the baby had contact with the mother when this transition took place any time his diaper was changed it only strengthened the fetish that much more. In other words he identified the diaper and the diaper changing as a way of continuing the bond with the mother. The fact that people look at the changing of the baby as a time of bonding is actually stronger than some might think. I am in no way trying to find fault with nor promoting the fact that some boys are DLs and yes it can possibly lie dormant for years. Or in many cases a child can keep it a secret for many years. Fighting with confusion strife and thinking there is something really wrong with them. When in reality they are just as normal as any other child. Where, one child chooses a teddy bear another a blankie and the other a (piece of cloth aka a diaper.) What I'm saying here is that parents who are not aware of this fact need to learn to understand why it happens and accept it, “Because it will never go away”. They need to understand it is developed through a sense of love and a sense of need a sense of security in infancy. To go just a slight bit further if the parent does find this out that their child is a DL there are pros and cons on how to deal with it. The fact is a diaper is just a different kind of underwear. I am one who sees no harm in allowing the child to wear diapers in moderation. From what I've read about trying to stop it can lead to much worse problems. A good parent will weigh the situation and make the right choice. When thinking about this just a slight bit further some babies cling to a blanket a teddy bear or some other transitional object as a form of security when the mother is not around or in sight, as a way of maintaining that bond. What better object would there be in reality than the diaper what other item would the mother have more contact with than a diaper. If you ask me that’s a pretty smart little baby. Consider this too how many little kids do you see carrying a blanket or teddy bear around long after they are out of diapers. There are even many girls especially, who have stuffed animals well into their teens and even into adulthood. But no one thinks anything about that. Interesting isn’t it? So I've told you why parents should have no basis to be so mean to their child for liking diapers. As I stated earlier it is a normal thing that does occur in some baby’s development. It has NOTHING to do with sex. There is no way possible for a baby less than a year old to know anything pertaining to a sexual act. It is only healthy mind development involving the baby’s environment. The baby and or child at a later age is still perfectly normal. Yes perfectly normal!!! There is no substantiated proof that a DL/TB nor DL/AB cannot live a perfectly normal life, raise children and live happily ever after. Yes it might be very true that parents worry that they did something wrong with their child and for that reason doing research about why their child likes diapers is important. As I stated in my original post they develop at a very young age the attachment to diapers. It is neither their fault nor, the parents. But it is important for the parent and the child to understand why this came about and how to deal with it. BUT, thinking that the, falsehoods and untruths spread about by uninformed ignorant people is true, it is very dangerous. Many children have been hurt by the ignorance of uninformed parents. Yes when children enter puberty they are going to explore many routes. This is certainly a normal part of life in the child’s development of becoming an adult. If a child explores through contact with a diaper it is no more harmful than a pair of underwear in fact it is underwear. DL/TBs and DL/ABs I stress are NOT pedophiles!!! They are NOT sexual deviates. They are just as normal as anyone else they just like diapers, which is certainly no one else’s business other than the child and his or her parents. Here are a few more sites that can help inform parents in need. http://www.wikihow.com/Cope-With-Being-a-Diaper-Lover http://understanding.infantilism.org/what_...infantilism.php http://wiki.answers.com/Q/Is_it_normal_for...fetish?#slide=1 There are many good sites with good information. There are many bad sites with bad information. BEWARE! Remember to keep an open mind and beware there are people who would be totally negative about this subject. They are both ignorant and very detrimental towards the well being of both the child and the parents. For myself I am not a DL I have to wear for need only. . But through my own experience I do know there is a very negative outlook upon anyone who wears diapers for any reason. That comes from many uninformed ignorant people. What I am saying here is there are parents who do have children who are DL/TBs through no fault of their own. They did not pick this fate nor did anyone else for them. It is simply something that happened. They are still just as normal as the day is long. They just have a secret. For that reason that is why I am defending them, because there are parents who do perpetrate maltreatment upon them. For example one of our members here even though he made a choice, for his parent to force him to go to school in a diaper is wrong. Even if it is a pull up it is still a diaper. This is deliberately trying to hurt and humiliate the child for something he truly had nothing to do with. If other kids find out he is wearing that can and will be very hurtful to him. From the first few minutes of life a baby is put in a diaper and for a number of years thereafter by an adult. Again through no fault of anyone else this desire came about. However for any parent to think this is some crazy thing the child came up with they need to guess again. I am not promoting nor discouraging the fact that a child is a DL/TB. What I am trying to do is encouraging parents to develop a positive outlook with their child. Do not look down upon them for being a DL/TB. Do not hurt and humiliate them for being a DL/TB. They did not choose this fate but they are the one who has to live with it, for the rest of their life. A good parent will again learn and help their child deal with this in a loving and positive way. What I'm trying to explain here it is an obsession and they have no control over their situation. It is embedded into their mind so deeply it cannot be changed. Therefore the parent needs to understand that. Yes the child has to deal with it, it is his problem not the parents but the parent can help the child by supporting them and not finding fault with them. They did not ask to be DL/TBs it is just something that happened. You are right it can and will become a very big part of the child's life but there again if the parent supports the child and helps guide them on how to be discrete and not let it get out of control they can live perfectly normal lives. Have families and live happily ever after. By not letting it get out of control does not mean keep them from diapers that does not work and can be very dangerous and detrimental. Causing the child to get them one way or another and not so much in a good way either. The important thing here is that the parent needs to make sure that the child understands there is nothing wrong with them and the parent needs to understand that too. A diaper is harmless to anyone. There are many more worse things a child can do than wear a diaper. Again re read what I posted above and keep an open mind. READ MORE
  • Diaper Boy April 22, 2012
    Diaper Boy
    April 22, 2012
    That's so weird. I'm also 13 and I wear diapers, but I don't tell my mom. READ MORE
  • Diaper Boy April 21, 2012
    Diaper Boy
    April 21, 2012

    Yes start wetting your bed, that's what I do.

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  • diperninja November 29, 2010
    diperninja
    November 29, 2010

       i am the same as you i started wetting the bed on perposs so my parents should buy them so that would be my edvice to you

     

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    • i love diapers alot
      December 10, 2010
      i love diapers alot
      December 10, 2010

       hi i love diapers i mean like crazy but  idont wear them. what do i do about it i mean do i tell my therapist or my grandparents i mean i need some i mma little confused on what to do about it comments and answers {serious ones } are greatly appreicated

       

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    • steve jenkinson
      February 16, 2011
      steve jenkinson
      February 16, 2011

      Hi you say you love diapers and don't wear them so how do you know you love them I think you mean you would love to wear diapers well that is fine. You say should I talk to my therapist well I will tell you what he/she will say they will say if that is what you wat then go ahead and wear diapers. As for your Granparents well that might be another thing if they really love you and are understanding then you might sway them around but it is going to take some fancy talking on your part. it sounds to me as though you have a fetish for diapers if so you will not beat it if you try fighting it you will loose every time just accept it for what it is and enjoy it. are you male or female and what age are you. Now I might be guessing wrong here but here we go you mention your granparents are they your gardians and where are your parents? I am thinking you live with your granparents and some thing has happened to your parents a few years ago the reason I say this is because I think you have something called infantism and this is some times bought on by a traumatic insident in your early years. Please let me know if i am right and I will help you as much as I can.

      Steve 

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  • Beccybloy September 27, 2015
    Beccybloy
    September 27, 2015
    That is the same with me because recently I have felt like I have wanted to wear diapers I don't know if I should tell my mum but I think it would be better tell parents from what I have read on the internet I am debating whether to tell my mum tommorow. I would suggest talking about something and then randomly just keep saying I want to start wearing diapers again really quickly then going straight back to where left of from and keep doing that until she stops you and asks what you said or did you say what I think you said and then you could say well if you heard me say "I want to wear diapers again" then yh it is But parents won't judge you cause they are your parents they are there for if you need to tell them something really important hope this has helped. READ MORE
  • maxwell_05 May 07, 2016
    maxwell_05
    May 07, 2016
    Just tell them they will understand i am 33 ever since grade 7 i still wanted to wear them but had to get the money to by my own READ MORE
  • muscle4life16 March 11, 2016
    muscle4life16
    March 11, 2016
    I actually can 100% relate with your circumstances. Ever since I was in elementary school, I had a desire to wear a diaper, but of course finding one was the problem for me. I would sometimes get lucky when my mom took me over to someones' house where the kid there was wearing pullups, and in that instance, I'd snatch one quick, run to the bathroom, and put it on, use it, then dispose of it as cleverly as I could. Or, I'd find the largest size diaper at church in the nursery/ daycare room. // But you're likely hoping for better advice than that. You could get samples from different sites that offer a diaper sample, and just find an address to send it to other than your own, if indeed you can could find a different address to send it to, so your parents dont find out. You could take a public bus to a nearby store and buy a pack of diapers----it's actually an adrenaline rush. I speak from experience. I'd first scope the store to see if anyone there knew me, and then of course I always hoped that there were older ladies at the checkout, as they're the easiest and normally don't give you any * looks*.........You'll want to bring your backpack to the store, but be sure some school books are in there so it looks like you're just on your way back from school....An empty bag raises suspicion to security camera operators & store associates. Dont wear sunglasses in the store....this also would bring attention to you......Loss-prevention wise........ Goodnites were always my favorite diaper I bought, when I got clever enough to buy them myself. READ MORE
  • Cooldude21 March 11, 2016
    Cooldude21
    March 11, 2016
    Well I started wearing diapers again when I moved to my own place and it feels great no one knows I wear them bc I don't say anything READ MORE
  • Caleb February 12, 2016
    Caleb
    February 12, 2016
    same story for me! READ MORE
  • Katie gorm September 13, 2015
    Katie gorm
    September 13, 2015
    I have the same problem i don't know what I should do! READ MORE
  • Ashleismith78 July 15, 2015
    Ashleismith78
    July 15, 2015
    Just wear them and if your parents find out just tell them you have been having accidents and you where scared that they would yell at you READ MORE
  • fed
    fed
    April 18, 2015
    fed
    fed
    April 18, 2015
    Look im 30 yrs old and I liked diapers all my childhood I use wet the bed I wouldn't wet the bed coz that want I need and it coz me to have diapers rash what I would do is buy some from the shop and let your old man and your mum to see en and the end of the day if they do send u to see a therapist it might not be a bad thing coz he will might just tell Em to put u in the diapers. But make sure it want u coz Im wear diapers and it not fun at my time I life and it plaY's on your mind so in the end diapers is all u will thing about , I'm not saying to wear diapers coz I'm 30 yrs old and I can't be see telling u put diapers on . But saying all that I think u should tell your mum and let her tell your dad but u have nothing to be ashamed of, u can't help this feeling, just think like Im 30 yrs old and i waer diapers ,at least u r only 13 Good luck and I would wait for the answer for this website expects before going to your mam good luck READ MORE
  • Wet
    Wet
    November 29, 2014
    Wet
    Wet
    November 29, 2014
    I begged as a little kid around 8-9 to wear diapers for my bedwetting. I was allowed, could change my own, and could let kids my age changd me that I was friends with. Loved it. I had some day settings and just decided to roll with it when I was near teens. I just kept wearing diapers while they were there. Sometimes in public, but usually just at home. I was lucky to just have a weak bladder at times I guess READ MORE
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