I looked on the net and didn't like what I found. I have posted a question at depend.com - didn't know where else to go - but no-one has offered any advice.
He's not sick or anything, but I'm at a loss.
I know this is off topic and unusual, but any advice or direction would be a help.
I haven't heard of this
not trying be rude but he's like me i like to wear them but i have no problems its not bad if he does as long as he follows your rules with them. ex you can wear them only around the house and to bed at a friends house. like that stuff theres nothing to worry about im 14 years old and i love to wear diapers to school around the house to friends houses and no one cares
THIIS IS FOR EVERY PERSON WHO HAS NEVER HEAD OF A PERSON DOING THIS BEFORE
im 14 too and do the same thing and theres nothing wrong with it its just the way we are dont forget we all are diffrent in our own little way there should be no shame in our way of living so talk to him see if this is what he wants build up some rules and dont be ashamed of your kid theres millions of poeple who do this adults and teens it to me is comferting to wear a diper.
don't listen to this freak, he or she w.e is a total weirdo no its not normal at all if it was do u think u would be on here asking? and of course other diaper lovers would be on here saying this shit. wtf kid u wear them to school and to your friends house? fucking freak! your not right in the head kid. tell your son its not right and he needs to stop this now and if he likes them so much tell him to get his own house and wear them there. but if his friends found out he would be shunned and they would think hes a freak and constantly make fun of him and make his life a wreck he would always be worried what someone is gonna say and shit trust me its not a good situraino and its not normal nor are these ppl on here telling u it is. CUZ ITS NOT im a 20 year old boy and ik this would not fly and its not right.
i want to tell my parents that i would like to wear diapers but i dont know what they might say can u please help
i wear nappys im 15 year ol its ok
it is common i wear them im 15
If you don't wear diapers then what the heck are you even doing posting on this board about diapers. You obviously got on this board somehow and now you are insulting others who are doing what they enjoy. Hey jerk off leave us alone.
hehehe.. sounds like casey is insecure about what he's going through in his life. 20 was tough for me to you go through alot of changes. But the sooner you accept these changes and feelings the better off you will be. You use hate and anger as a way to block out these feelings for example putting someone else down and calling him a freak makes you feel better about yourself . You are angry because you are afraid, afraid of being made fun of or what others might think of you as you are doing by taunting this boy at his young age for accepting who he is and bravely comming out to his mother. You are in a state of denial...STOP lying to yourself and accept who you are truly inside. The bottom line is accept who you are and enjoy your life its too short to live it hateful and angry and accept your interests in wearing diapers and explore. Do it in private and order them discreetly till you feel more comfortable and most of all HAVE FUN DOING IT. By the way don't waste your time trying to argue these facts based on your childish response to that boy it's obvious you are not on the same intellectual level as me and would only result in further damage to your insecurities.
wow is all i can say. there is nothing wrong with wearing a diaper i have been for 16 years and all my freinds know sense school they dont care and if this is how you think you are way out of touch with the real world pal and in the real world they dont give a rats behind about you. if wearing a diaper makes him happy then so be it
I think it's great you are talking to him about it. I had the urge to wear diapers since I was 5. I only wish I could have had the relief of knowing my mom was supportive of me in all of this, but I was too afraid to ask. Don't worry, liking diapers does not make him a deviant. Lots of people fear that liking diapers means they are a pedophile, but that is definitely not the case.
Sometimes in our lives, we crave the things we might have missed in life, like being nutured, cuddled more, my gut feeling is that your son is going throught the stages of infantilism. Even before I was wounded in Vietnam, had those same desires to wear diapers secretly, now its a matter of life for me. Look into teenage infantilism, it harmless what he is doing, there are several places to look for advise under infantilism.
Is infantilism deviant- against god, I have desires to wear diapers the material really turns me on and every time i get horny i can't keep the images of this fetish out of my head. I have tried to quit so many times, i hate these desires, but i can't control myself, how can i have sexual needs like this, when i despise what i'm doing, i gave myself a count down of 5, as in every time i do it; it counts as 1 and when i get to zero i'm gonna kill myself. I wish i never met the son of a bitch that got me into to this, i hate liking this so fucking much, i know others like it and i don't care what they do, i care that i do it, and i'm trying to think of ways to quit. PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I feel for you and know it's difficult. You're dealing with a pervers habit that takes one away or deminishes the normal man/woman fall in love relationship and have children. The habit is also fortefied with internal chemical dosing from the brain because it's probably linked to masturbation. Prayerfully figure out what you want to become (i.e. happily married with children of your own with talents and love to share.) Set this as your goal and prayefully plan a path to it. I once heard it said, 'what you resist, persists.' That has been true with me. What you'll want to do is 'replace.' Figure out a talent or hobby that you will pour your heart and soul in to help you become a better and happier person. Pray to God for direction. Like most things, step by step, precept upon precept you'll move out of your love/hate habit into a rich and joyful life. Pray to God and give thanks.
Thank you for all the support, the god thing i am still working on, i have asked help from a hire power plenty of times. It has been a long while since i posted that comment, i have just come to accept it, but i have more control now, and i am able to ignore the urges and the desires, but that fetish is always stuck with me, it's never gonna go away.
Tessa's reply to comments.
We had a tense weekend. I know it was on his mind but I made sure we were too busy to care. Can't keep that up for long. I have had some replys from the depend website;
the answers were,
1. see a shrink, (No kidding, that's in the works.)
2. He's had this for a while. (I asked him about that, he said the earliest he can recall is five years ago or so...but he says it seems natural (!) to him.
3. Another couple of responses that I got was to let him do this because the desire was already there. He even said something about that...can't recall the exact words, but it was that he couldn't help this feeling he had.
I know that my question was waaay off topic, but I didn't know where else to go. I didn't like the looks of some of the sites out there. I figured this might be a safe place.
What would happen if I allowed him this to try it? At least in a controlled setting, (home) with my knowledge (no sneaking or shame) and with ground rules? (has to tell me, can't just wear them whenever, can't wander around in just a diaper...)
*Can't believe this is happening.
Thanks for your comments; I'm still mulling this over. Any direction in a positive way is helpful.
Hi, Tessa - I've been thinking about what you wrote regarding responses you've received. Yes, I'm sure last weekend was tense; hope that passes. I tried to find your post(s) on the Depends site with no luck. I wanted to see what the members there had written.
Anyway. I was a bedwetter as a child; finally quit (for awhile) when I was about 17. So I suppose my POV is skewed a little. After returning to diapers when I was about 9, I was the one who had to care for them. I have to admit that, after awhile, I really didn't mind wearing diapers so much. I rather enjoyed the feeling of comfort and security I got from them. Bedwetting was an on-and-off thing for me until about 5 years ago, when it turned to mostly on. That's a result of a bunch of deteriorated stuff in my lower back, the result of a car crash. I'm now 100% incontinent.
Anyway, on to your concerns. ♣Is wanting to wear diapers common? More than you might think. (I'd hate to see what would happen to disposable diaper sales if those who wear because they want to suddenly stopped buying.) ♣Is there anything wrong with it? Personally, I don't think so. I've seen a couple of mental-health professionals about the subject; neither seemed too concerned about liking to use something I need. ♣You haven't said how old your son is. I'm guessing about 13-14? An awkward stage for a boy. ♣Should he be allowed to wear diapers? Personally, I say yes. I realize this is a leap in logic for you, what with all the implications wearing diapers have. ♣Wear diapers only with your consent? Not sure this is such a great idea. There'll come a time when he'll want to wear them under his jeans to the mall, a movie, whatever. Then what will you do when he sneaks out wearing a diaper?
Part of the stigma diapers have is that "only babies wear diapers". Well, there are a LOT of us here to tell you that isn't true. Granted, few of us wear diapers for fun, or just because we like to. But we still have to deal with that notion. Please remember, this is about your son, not about you. (OMG! What will people think!) No one outside your home needs to know.
Now go sit down with a cup of tea and think some more about this. Please don't jump to conclusions, and above all, remember to breathe.
MY reply here.
Happy New Year all, and I want to respond to a few things.
First, my son and I are talking about this. Second, it is my policy with my two kids that we have a 'chat time' before bed where they can say anything they want to me with no judgement on my part. I did this deliberately so my kids know they will get a fair hearing without me blowing up at them. The trials of a single parent...
Second, I don't know how to proceed with this; my son brightened up when I mentioned that I was thinking about this. I know it's been on his mind but keeping busy helps.
I don't think this is a phase. However, I would like to find out if he really wants to try this - I haven't asked yet. I just want him to be open with me about it; simply so there isn't any sneaking around. I told him that there was a bright side: at least he wasn't (as far as I know) into drugs or drinking!
My son is 14, btw. Anyway, gotta go.
Thank you all for your posts. I was kicked off the depend site. Oh well.
Oh Tess I wish you could let us know how things have turned out with your son?
got to ask.com and u will find many web sites with teens saying they want to wear diapes or pull ups and i no to because i am just like your son i like to wear diapers to
I'm 17 yr's old and I LOVE to wear diapers. I guess its because I wet the bed since I was about 4 yr's old. I think you should let him wear the diapers. If you don't want to buy the first pack of them, go to Depends.com and sign up for it.
Go to other sites and look for free adult diapers. Ask him if he wants the adjustable diapers or pull-ups. The type I get is the adjustable diapers. It takes care of the desire to wear them. Tell me if they help.Please email me at email@example.com
I agree, this is a hard situation to deal with. I have worn diapers my whole life. I had spinal menijitus 2 times at toddler age. I lived through my mother changing me until she would let me do it for myself. I am a full adult at 50. I attended scouts, played football and dated. The thought of anyone else knowing was hard for me. Luckly I went to school with a causin. He never told anyone and would cover for me when needed. See, back then you didn't take a backpack to school. My mother quit telling teachers at 6th grade. Only the school nurse knew. I have a fabulous wife of over 20 years that supports me and at times helps me. So when I was 14, the diapers are not what they are today. If he has no medical problem, I would ask him why. Depending on that answer you have to decide to where to go from there. Would I buy him diapers, yes. But ad 14 he is capable of taking care of everything himself. If he makes a big deal about it, it might be to get attention. If he doesn't then I would leave him alone and buy the diapers. Maybe he will grow out of it. When he dates, he won't want to wear tight pants, just saying. People talk. Hopefully he likes girls. If you know what I mean. I feel things would be worse than wearing diapers. Good Luck!
dont know if your still looking for any information or help in regards to your question, or have already resolved your topic but heres some more. i agree with alot of these posts. If he wants to wear diapers then let him wear diapers. You mentioned that you talked to him about thinking of letting him and he brightend up. if it is something that will lift his self-esteem then thats good even tho it is on the subject of diapers. Is there anything wrong with him wanting to wear them. That depends on who you talk to. society in america in general is mixed, with the majority that would say there is something wrong with that. but what you get out of that is judgemental people who like to control everything, and a hard hitting blow to your freedom. If he wants to wear them then let him. As long as he doesnt turn pedophile. because if he is not harming anything or anyone then who cares. alot of people think this hurts people, but it doesnt. like you said at least hes not doing drugs and alcohol. Make sure that your groundrules are set and adjusted. If you feel he should buy them then an allowance and a trip to a store can always be arranged. If you feel that he should be the one going into the store and making the purchase, then that is a positive. if he is serious enough to undertake this and start making decisions for himself, then he should also be grown up enough to do this. Make sure that you look at all the implications that come with this and sit him down and just inform him of them. because at the same time he should be able to deal with the implications. For example; what if one of his friends caught him. leaks, taunts like being called something in regards to this particular situation ex; a baby, and the other variables. but if you and your son can overcome any of these implications then your confidence level will increase as this is something to master, and it takes a lot of confidence to do so. So is there anything wrong with diapers absolutly NOT. People can look beyond alot of things. for me wearing diapers has brought both good and bad, bad things for me are leaks and getting caught and a few other mild ones; but the good things that have come from them is stuff like self-esteem and confidence. My self-esteem went sky-high because i learned alot of things, that i can trust myself and my decisions and tackle anything. and this is where the confidence comes in. I gained alot of confidence because if you are man or woman enough to undertake this then you can definatly do anything. And if your worried about this just think, at least you know if he cant make it to a restroom in time, hes covered. then you dont have to worry about a bigger mess and the public embarassment. And yes this is actually a good thing. goes back to people judging people, at least your son wont have to worry bout urinating down the side of his leg. now whoes laughing. So there are actually many Goods that can come of this. If you are still having some issues that youd like help with let me know
I do have one question...
You have not said that he needs them or not. Could it be an underlying bedwetting problem that he it truly worried about talking about?
i am just wondering where you are with the whole situation? my 13 yr old son disclosed his desire to wear diapers to me 2 days ago and i feel overwhelmed with questions of "why" and "is this just a phase". i too am a single parent and do not want to confide in anyone.
Hey, i know your post was a while ago but just thought I would add my thoughts and hope it helps you. I have always enjoyed wearing diapers since I can remember. I did not tell my parents as we never really talked abut things like this, finding out I was gay was hard enough for them to deal with! I moved out quite young when I was 18 and entered a civil partnership. I told my partner from the start about the diapers, he has been supportive from the start. I do not wear them 24/7 nor at work as the desire isnt always there. I wear a few days in a row then maybe not for another month. It helps me wind down and chill out I guess. What I am trying to say is that I have a normal life, a job, a hubby, a house and a car! Yet I am just 22. So do not worry that it will stop your son being normal and acheiving. I have binned my diapers and said never again, but I just crave them again and its like mental torture! So they stay under the bed and when I crave them they are there and when I don`t want them they are hidden away. I might add I did not meet my partner through any abdl sites, so i hope your son does not feel that this craving he has will force him onto abdl sites. There are some weird people on there (not everyone... but still some) Another thing I would keep him away from from abdl art I think its disturbing and not a true representation of the abdl community. Well I hope that makes some sense I have a tendancy to waffle.
I also wear diapers around the house and at school. I even poo/pee in them. It's totally fine. It's fun too.
Let him wear diapers! tons of teens wear diapers and it is just usual. There is no harm in it and he is perfictly fine. Moast teens just like the feel of wearing diapers over regular underwear.
Hi Tess it would be nice to hear about how you and your son are progressing I hope you let him try the diapers.
Still still having issues with my 14 year old. He has a bedwetting problem. Sometimes he asks if he can wear one during the day, i have no problem with that because it makes him feel better but lately he will wear nothing but a diaper around the house. It can be embarrassing for both of us to have a 14 year old walking around in nothing but a diaper but can sometimes expect visitors at any time. Sometimes when we have visitors and he walks into the room in nothing but a full diaper asking to be changed, very embarrassing for me. He doesnt normally walk around in just a diaper when his friends are here but sometimes he will not wear pants over them. His friends know about it and he doesnt care. I dont think its a phase and hes always asking if i will put him in a diaper during the day (I think lazyness might be a small part of it and he says hes more comfortable in them) but i'm not sure what i should do about it right now. He doesnt have a dad, maybe tahts part of the problem. If anyone wants to know more feel free to send me a message
Hi Erin I did send you a PM but I thought after that it would be good to share what I have to say about your son. First I think you should just let him get on with it if you try to stop him he will go underground and wear them when you are not around and that is the worst thing you could do. You need to have a relationship where he feels he can talk about any thing he likes with you. I few ground rules might be a good idea for instance when he has a nappy on he should wear some thing over the top. Another thing I would do is tell him if he want to wear diapers then he should change himself but there needs to be some give and take from your side you could say to him that he can wear them where ever he like or even wear them all the time that way he is not the only one giving. Not having a dad can do funny things to a child I speak from experince it could be why he is looking for comfort from the diapers well if this is the case let him know you love him very much and don't stand in his way he will love you even more for your support.
It is not very common, but is also not very uncommon. There are quite a few people who share similar desires such as his. If you are comfortable with him wearing diapers and will not interfere with what seems to be a strong relationship with your son and will not bring awkwardness into your relationship then i see no harm in letting him expess himself...some teens choose drugs....JUST DONT PLAY HIS FANTASY AND DO NOT CHANGE HIM...Now if it does make you uncomfortable to have him wear diapers and will effect your relationship talk to him and let him know you are not comfortable with him wearing them around you. Let him know that you support him and love him but will not be envolved his "habit" and will need to wait till he's on his own. also be aware this might be a sexual fetish in which you should discuss him wearing them discreetly and not around you. Chances are you won't read this but may help somebody with a similar concern may .... hope it helps somebody.
I'm a 49 year old men from Holland (Europe). I know my reaction comes a little late. But better to late than never we say in Holland.
I was searching around the net and discoverd this site. Reading your question, I wished I'd read it before. Now I hope your son and you made an agreement about the diapers and your son is happy and wearing them.
I am a diaper lover as long as I can remember and I can remember wishing diapers on me since I was around 12. As I was a bedwetter too, I thought I could ask my paprents. I was longing for diapers, but I did not get them. The first time I tried to ask was in summer 1972. I just came out of the hospital after being very seriously ill. My mother made a fool out of me, instead of talking to me. Sure it was 1972 and it were other times.
The longing of your son is normal. Please listen to him and help him. Let him be the boy he wants to be. Let hem wear his diapers and help him getting on his diapers if he wants you to. You are his mother!!Sure if you do not want to help him, it's ok too. But he is depending on his mum.
I had to wait until I had the guts to buy them. After I did, during a vacation on my own, to the South of France it was a relief. The first times I diapered myself I felt so ashamed, I was 35 years, but after a while I accepted it and I felt peacefulness. Since that time I wear diapers. But I still feel mostly ashamed. I am sure that if my parents supported me, I would have accepted it like normal underwear. Now I am older I know my mother was not allowed by my father. She was willing to help me, she understoot my feelings and was willing to diaper me to give me my peace and rest.
My Englisch is not that good, but I hope you'll understand me.
I am very curious to know how you and your son are doing. Will you let me know?
Greetings from Holland
I would let him, I mean I'm 17 and I wear them just for the heck of it. I wear them at home, at school, and at friends houses. Just let him wear them, trust me they are AWSOME. I suggest you and him wear them.
i wear diapers 24 hours a day. its harmless. it makes me happy and im sure itll improve your sons life as well. i wouldnt worry about it. ...and as far as dating... ive had no trouble. mia
It's harmless. It feels good. About the only downside is the expense. I am 55 years old, have done this off and on all my life, and was delighted when disposables came out in my 20's. I work I highly technical job and am well-adjusted and quite normal. He doesn't need a shrink for god's sake. I'm not into infantilism or anything, I just like the feel and the freedom. When I was young I would get a sexual charge out of it, but that waned as I got older. Nothing is wrong with your son.
Tessa.. it has been almost one year.. what happened.. can you.. will you.. let us know.. thanks so much for your posting this issue..
i am 20 years old and i cant stopwearing a diaper i love diapers my mom lets me wear diapers when ever i want although i think it turned me into loving diapers more and more i am happy with a diaper on my mom lets me because it makes me happy to wear a diaper and my mom says what ever makes you happy my mom even occasionally changes me so its ok to let ur child or teen want to wear a diaper i love my diapers
i'm coming at this from a slightly different angle as i have been incontinent all my life.
However I lived in a children's home for a long time and have seen this sort of behaviour before. You need to sit down with your son and have a very frank discussion with him. Remember first and foremost you're the adult so whatever he says you have to remain in control.
The questiuons you need to ask are going to be very personall but he obviously trusts you and you can use that.
Before i begin has there been a family upset like dad leaving or a sibling or very close relative dying, children and teens can act out in many different ways.
Firstly you want to know if someone has made him try them. If so who and it's probably a police matter
Then try to pin down why he wants to wear them a lot of people that wear diapers for fun do so because there is some form of insecurity and they can overcome it by going back to a younger less complicated stage of life.
Is he having problems with incontinence aand this is his way of trying to tell you he needs help.
Is it a sexual need and i'm afraid it can be, if it is then you can try going the psychologist route.
Assuming he's not using them because he's incontinenet or turned on by them, then it is really up to you. If you say no the chances are he will buy on line or at a pharmacy and wear them in secret. Or you can accept his need but make strict ground rules. IE no wearing for school or if visitors are coming. no wlaking around in just a diaper at least shorts and t shirt.
If it some form of emotional need you may find he want's you to put him in one or that he regresses and needs a lot more physical touch and hugs. however you handle this i wish you luck.
I am still having a similar issue with my 14 year old. He has a bedwetting problem. Sometimes he asks if he can wear one during the day, i have no problem with that because it makes him feel better but lately he will wear nothing but a diaper around the house. Its quite emabrrassing for me if we have visitors and my teenage son is walking around in nothing but a full diaper so i decided to stick to only diapering him at night again. I dont think its a phase and hes always asking if i will put him in a diaper during the day (I think lazyness might be a small part of it and he says hes more comfortable in them) but i'm not sure what i should do about it right now.
dont stop if its making him feel good continue changing him youll have a great relations with him
I am having a similar issue with my 14 year old. He has a bedwetting problem. Sometimes he asks if he can wear one during the day, i have no problem with that because it makes him feel better but lately he will wear nothing but a diaper around the house. Its quite emabrrassing for me if we have visitors and my teenage son is walking around in nothing but a full diaper so i decided to stick to only diapering him at night again. I dont think its a phase and hes always asking if i will put him in a diaper during the day (I think lazyness might be a small part of it and he says hes more comfortable in them) but i'm not sure what i should do about it right now.
Well I see no harm in it if he is happy wearing a diaper then I think you should let him.
Thanks i am keeping him in day diapers when he wants to be for now but changing a 14 year old can be frustrating and it is embarrassing for both of us when we have visitors.
Hi Erin oh no he should be changing his own diaper if he wants to wear them then he should be cleaning up behind himself to. That needs to be one of your rules and when you have visitors he needs to cover up too you need to be in charge here if he wants to be in diaper he does it to your rules.
Apart from that I donot see any problems with that.
Does he walk about in just a diaper when his friends are there?
I guess i could try that but i already diaper him for bed every night because he cant do them up properly himself. If he wants to wear a diaper during the day i normally let him when he asks but it means diapering and changing him like i do at night. He walks around in nothing but a diaper but i should get him to cover up when we have visitors, it can be embarrassing for both of us to have a 14 year old walking around in nothing but a diaper but can sometimes expect visitors at any time. At the weekend i had visitors and he walked into the room in nothing but a full diaper asking to be changed, very embarrassing for me. He doesnt normally walk around in just a diaper when his friends are here but sometimes he will not wear pants over them. His friends know about it.
Hi Erin you mean that his riend know and they don't tease him about his diapers? I was thinking about this where do you see it all going in the future I can see him wearing them all the time very soon which is fine but if he does he will make him self incontinent and that is not easy to get out of so he will have to wear diapers all the time even if he does not dosn't want to. he needs to think about this if he wants to be incontinent then that is where he is heading.
His friends know and are understanding but i am sure he gets teased a little thats why i insist he at least wears pants over his diapers when we have visitors but he doesnt always want to. I have had to change him while his friends have been over, i dont think that goes down well but your right he does need to think about this. Hes been diapered a lot lately and hasnt used the bathroom since last Saturday.
Hes such a handful. Had friends over the other night and was walking around in nothing but his diaper. They seemed to be pretty understanding about it which is good until he had to use his diapers. Little teasing there. If he insists on wearing them i think he needs to start acting more mature about it.
Wow Erin. How are you handling that? If your son is wearing diapera i dont think its good for him to wear them openly around his friends. It could cause a lot of problems. If he cant diaper himself do you change him like a baby or make it more grown up for him? Does he always just use his diapers when he needs to go during the day or does he ask you to go to the bathroom?
I am in a similar situation. My son just turned 13. Lifelong bedwetter and has a weak bladder. He doesnt like wearing diapers at all but i want him always wearing some kind of protection. I have to diaper hin during the day sometimes because it's needed but his normal underwear during the day are thick printed training panta which he does like to wear.
do you wipe his butt and clean his ding dong area if so thats great you should not be embarresed i still in diapers also
It may be a little bit "younger", but it could work: http://www.wikihow.com/Determine-if-You-Should-Diaper-a-Young-School%E2%80%90Age-Child-Again-%28If-They-Asked-You-To%29
As long as this does not effect him socially, I see no harm.
this is ok is their any harm in doing this the reson for himm wanting to wear this is a few things
1.it might just be the feal of it
2.he might just want to be like a baby agean(the best thing to do about this is to act like he is a baby so change his diapers but make him sleep in a crib and get him to bed erly and maby give him baby food but just make shue you treat him like when he was a baby
3.and the last thing is he might be lazy and just and to poo and pee on the go
the main one out of the 3 is 1 and 2 if you need the contact me for and thing elss email me at firstname.lastname@example.org
ive been wearing diapers for the heck of it for as long as i can remember. Mom hates it and took me to counselors but that just pissed me off. Dont worry about it. He's not going to change unless he decides that on his own terms. Trust me. it doesnt hurt anybody. i actually just started going to a counselor for some issues totally unrelated to this and she told me that this is a good outlet for stress and other issues because its something we're comfortable with. Just let him be. thats who he is and the only way itll change is if he decides that he wants to without being influenced by anyone else
Let your son wear diapers. I wear cloth diapers and plastic pants around the house and I am happy.
A teen is living through one of the most delicate times of his/her lives. Your approval is the most important thing in your sons life. A boy will always seek his mothers advice if he feels the connection is safe. Your son loves you deeply that is why he trusts you enough to come out with his desire. Putting conditiond on this is the same as a wall in his eyes. He needs to be free to wear his diaper if this is his choice as this is his way of expressing himself. He is so comfortable and loves you so much that he is willing to wear a diaper in front of you should tell you mountains of information about his deep love. Be cautious and dont upset his ballance. this may impact him the rest of his life. Give hime the benefit of the doubt and let him be free in your home and with friends he is comfortable with.
what you really need to do is stop reading all the stuff u find here. if your son wants to wear diapers and you are ok with it then let him. one thing i learned from life is to never let anyone make up your own mind about something. from brith to death we all have to make our own path in life and i will tell you this letting your son wear diapers may be hard on him if his friends find out but he will live when its all past. all you really have to do as a mother is help and support him in life untell he moves out you know this already... you make the rules. one thing you never want to do is lose the bond you and your son share. something like this can not be made any easyer by means of looking on the net it will only help you both if you just sit with your son and just talk to him try to change his mind but dont force him if in the end he still wants to wear them then all you need to do is say `yes and i will always be here for you` if you can do then your family will only be better off after that.
Tessa, I would allow your son to wear diapers. They will not hurt him, unless he gets diaper rash. I would rather see my son, or your son in this case, wearing and enjoying diapers rather than getting into drugs or fooling around with girls and possibly getting one pregnant. There is nothing wrong with him having an interest in diapers, it is all part of his sexual development. Granted not all teenage boys experience this but alot do.
I my self experienced this as a teenager and was allowed to experiment with dipers. I am a healthy normal adult that is now married with 3 kids, all boys. Both my 14 and 12 year olds have expressed an interest this last year in diapers. We allow the boys to wear when ever and wear ever they want, but also warned them that if they wear in public that they may be made fun of by their friends. As a result they only wear at home, they are responsible for keeping the diaper pail clean, by regularly taking the soiled dipers to the trash or doing laundry for the cloth diapers. My boys wear both cloth and disposables, but mostly cloth, in the long run cloth is a lot cheaper than disposables.
Several of their friends have expressed an interest in diapers as well. With the permission of their friends parents, my boys have diapered sleep overs on a monthly basis with their friends. It's actually kinda cute seeing a room full of 12-15 year old boys all sitting in diapers and T-shirts watching a movie or playing games. Twister is probably the most challenging game for the diapered boys to play, and the most entertaining for my wife and I to watch. Most of the boys are not co-ordinated to have a bulky diper between their legs to play such a game.
Once again, diapers themselves are harmless, but sex, alcohol and drugs can cause great harm and even death.
Most teens like wearing them.
They like the feeling it brings when they were them or use them.
Its nuthing wrong and most teens dont tell there parionts and most freak out over it and its beter then him doing drugs so lett him.
Yes you can i have the same problem and i dont do anything bad with them and my freinds dont mind :)
Hi there dont know if your still reading this; however, this is a parafilia "sorry for spelling" called
Paraphilic infantilism, also known as autonepiophilia and adult baby syndrome can be a sexual fetish for some that involves role-playing a regression to an infant-like state. Behaviors may include drinking from a bottle or wearing diapers. Individuals may engage in gentle and nurturing experiences (an adult who only engages in infantilistic play is known as an adult baby) or be attracted to masochistic, coercive, punishing or humiliating experiences. Diaper fetishism involves "diaper lovers" wearing diapers for sexual or erotic reasons but may not involve infant-like behavior. Individuals who experience both of these things are referred to as adult baby/diaper lovers (AB/DL). When wearing diapers, infantilists may urinate or defecate in them."
not an expert, but I started wanting to were diapers sense i can remember as well. About 7 to put a age on it. And started to buy my own at age 12. now 25 am not shore if I like this part of me it in a little odd. I have adult size baby clothing and enjoy wearing diapers, the works. You see. this can manifest in many ways. there is a PhD that wrought a paper I have read that stated one sexuality will start to develop between the age's of 8-12 now you may now young boys may start to act. on the thing that they are experiencing at your sons age. this is quite ok but you and him need to figger what you like to do and know that its o.k. to have feelings and to under stand why and were though feeling are manifested.
Ps. I am coming to the conclusion the parafilia are a result to subliminal messaging and it mite be a way for diaper companies to make more money...
Maybe my son would like to experience the time he was little because he does not remember what it was like to wear diapers.
excuse me, I wrote some "my son" I meant your son
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i see nothing wrong with wearing diapers at least he had the nerve to talk to you about it instead of hideing it from you and diaper wearing is better than him doing drugs and getting into trouble you can tell him he can wear diapers around the house as long as he has his clothes on over it so it is not in plain view so you have to see him wearing them but diaper wearing is a lot better than him going out and doing drugs or getting into trouble also some teenagers feel the need to regress a little to feel him more secure and who knows he might wear them for a while and out grow that want to wear them anyways good luck
DONT CONFRONT HIM HEAD ON!!!!... im 18 years old and i wear diapers in secret (in my room or when everbody is gone) for me its sexual, take my words and think. he could have a sexual feeling for them i do because its better then him being gay right. 2nd do not critize or tell him " i'll make you go to school in them" honestly my mom did that and im a senior, i wore them all day and when i got looks i just wink and say its comfy even tho i lost my friends, just dont do it, it will make the desire to wear them even stronger... my mom does know i wear diapers because i wear the "depends maximum protection with tabs" and there plastic backed so the crinkle abit and its been 2 years when she found them in my dresser and waking me up to go to school and i peed in the diaper. just tell him your not feeling right about it and say that you will accept him for who he is, nobody is perfect and dont judge untill your step it his shoes... yea my mom tried and and said she dont like it till i came home early from work and she was waring my diapers then she confessed and told me there the best things in the world.. im still 18 years old and its my right to wear them if i please P.S look up your sons girlfriend sometimes there the ones who start the fetish.
Ohh great better then being GAY huh, my brother is gay and theres nothing wrong with that. don't YHWH into this.
but i like to wear diapers when i can, for me its not a sexual thing personally, but i no people for who it is look its not drugs or alcohol or crime so let him wear if he wants to jut st some ground rules, just basics like....
if you use them you change ur self, you will buy them ur self, ect ect
Yes Tssa, it is common. A person will never get rid of these feelings, though there's nothing wrong with them. You'd be surprised how many have these desires and might even be everyday people you work or eat with. It's better to do something like this in life instead of drugs. Cheaper and way safer. In my opinion, let him. You'll be able to have a much stronger relationship with him and he will have a better future.
dont know if this helps but still currently have my 13 year old son in diapers all the time. Used to be just at night because hes a bedwetter but i recently decided to keep him in them all the time (i dont make him wear them to school though) because its a lot easier and it makes him behave better and i dont have to worry about any accidents he may or may not have, he hates it but he understands why its needed.
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I too am one of those, from 6- now I love them. If he learns the finer art. There is big money in vintage diapers. Im not old, but I started colleting from stores when I was about 15. There are people that pay good money for vintage adult diapers or youth diapers. Like the famed goodnites from early nintys. My best find was a pack of attends 26 years old. They sold for well over 125$ for one bag. In china it,s become very common. They have hundreds of diaper makers, Only one time did any one find out i had a diaper on. That was in ninth grade, in band class, this guy went to give me a wedgie and then screemed out, he has a diaper on. ButnIt's was taken as a joke because we had another boy in class with a wheelchair!
well i also like to wear diapers. im a ninteen year old boy and more or less i can tell you its a sexual thing. i really dont kn how to describe it but people like different things. i cant tell you whether or not to buy them and honestly if you do dont ask him about it either, it would be like asking him about masterbation honestly. is he in a relationship because it could also be the other parties idea but that doesnt mean u should deny it either. its like sexual experimenting with oneself hes trying new things he thinks he might like and if he has a computer tell him about experienceproject.com he can get alot of answers from like minded people and its a social website not a porn website although u wouldnt guess that from some of the stories on there u should check it out too and get in touch with some of the members and ask questions
how old is ur son it could because he might like the look and feel of them there is nothin wrong with this it's AB/DL or in his case it's TB/DL thay stand for Adult Baby Diaper Lover and Teen Baby Diaper Lover
I wear diapers at night. I use towels cut to the right size. They work great as diapers and are really absorbent. They are cheaper than real diapoers and work just as good and are cheaper and "greener" than disposables. I use four layers which makes for a really large thick diaper and then, of course plastic pants over them. If I don't use enough layers, I wet through the whole diaper and it gets the bed wet. I wear them because there are nights that I get up five or six times to use the bathroom and it, of course affects how well I sleep. I get so exhausted that I can't function. I don't wet the bed per se, but I use them so I don't have to get up to use the bathroom. It does result in a much better sleep, especially since I don't wake up and wetting them is automatic when I wear them which is pretty much on a nightly basis. I do likwe to wear them but sometimes it gets to be a hassle. Then I'll stop but then I have no choice but to wear them again to get a decent nights sleep. My wife is supportive because she knows that i need them. I sometimes wear them in the day under my pants and go out with them and plastic pants in a smaller size for "daytime use". Really it doesn't affect who I am and whether I wear them or not doesn't make a difference who I am as a person. It's not the end of the world and it's better than drugs, drinking and smoking and, really, a lot more people than you think use them. Don't worry about it. He will be fine.
I am now 67 and I wear "diapers" to bed because of diabetes and degenerative disk disease. I was on Lunesta and on two occasions I sleep through needing to go pee and wet the bed. My wife and I agreed that I should wear protection. It didn't take long to realize that disposables were expensive whether or not I had an accident. (Yes I stopped taking Lunesta). My wife made me cloth diapers - first like a pair of jockey shorts, then a rectangle. In the early stages of learning to wear a diaper - memories returned to me when I was younger. At 6 I had my tonsiles removed - I was brought to the hospital in the late afternoon - my parents stayed with me until it was time to get ready for bed. A nurse came in and from a draw pulled out two cloth diapers (this was 1950) and started to diaper me. I protested but my mother and father came behind the curtain and calmed me down. It was explained that it was the hospital wanting make sure I didn't get hurt at night trying to get out of bed - Yes I realized that my bed was a crib. In the morning I awoke with a wet diaper - changed I was then sedated for the surgery. For the next two days I was diapered 24/7. By the evening they let me play with the other children and guess what - they were diapered as well. I played with a girls who was proud that she was 7 - bottom line she said that she enjoyed wearing diapers - she was there for almost a week. On my release day the nurse suggested to my mom that she might get a few diapers just in case. I was sent home in a cloth diaper and plastic pants. I was fully continent in two days. My next memory was when I was 7 and I was bed wetting. Basically, my mother was in the hospital and I began wetting the bed. My dad had to return me to diapers for the evening - nothing worked except a diaper. A family friend came to our house for the three months my mother was in the hospital to watch me after school until my Dad came home from work. Dad diapered me at bedtime. In the morning I was generally wet. I would shower and get ready for school - my evening diaper in the diaper pail. Some times my Dad would diaper me a half to a whole hour before bed time. Soon I was diapered right after dinner. After a month of this I spent from 6 PM to the next morning in diapers - wet or dry. Dad on occasion traveled for his job and the next week he was going to be out of town and this lady was going to take care of me! I soon discovered as a young boy does later, she knew I wore diapers - she did the laundry stupid. Besides she said her son a few years ago had to wear diapers and he was 10! Well, in short order, she would diaper me as soon as I came home from school. When my mom came home I was out of diapers within a week and for got about it until my bed wetting problem later in my life. How wearing diapers now for 8 years mostly at night I will say that I feel secure and when I have an accident Warm and Wet.
Let your son experiment - I look back now and forward and I can say I enjoy wearing my diapers I have accepted them and accept the comfort I receive.
Im am way late in this conversation but I am a 17 year old boy who likes to wear diapers and have come clean to my mom. after a long prosses of tharapists and doctors and questions I was finnaly allowed to wear them.
but this is about your son and other like me and him, I hope to tell you what we as teenager might be thinking and this could be completly for every child but, I wanted to wear diapers because I felt that by wearing them I could be innosent again because at the ages of 12-16 and even 17 kids are told at school and other places that they need to grow up and become more and more like adults it frightens some of us I know it frightend me. By the pressure of trying to grow up I did not want to so my mind retreated back to a time when there was no expectations and demands of course that was the baby period and that was when I frist wanted to wear diapers.
Some other reason maybe because it feel right or more nice because I can say that I am more confortable in a diaper than I am ever in my boxers.
Another reason maybe and bear with me because this is not every teenager but at one point I felt that felt really good to the point of plesure and this is where most religous people say that "this child needs help" but I asure you that this is the one case where 90% of childern with this urge is that of "just a phase".
so I am no expert and sorry if I make me out to being someone like that, but I am a 17 year old boy who drives to church every sunday and drives to school every school day just like many 17 year old but I am a bit different in that I love to wear diapers because I make me feel more cofortable and I myself feel like I can take the world and be grown up about it.
P.S. I have something to say regarding those who say "we need to send that kid to a shrink" guess what I am in the army reserves and I go to shcool and church and I am nor so child who has lost my way or needs so help I like so many just need so comfort that can't get it from music or my mom not that any moms have done anything wrong and in fact, the vary idea that your kid are comming and talking to you means that you parent have done everything right becuase I would have never asked my mom had I not had a strong bond and could trust her.
I know I'm a year in following this, but nonetheless, I have to say this is probably one of the best comments I've read. You and I both, it seems, live the exact same way. I'm highly involved in my church (not to the point where people would point at me and label me "religious fanatic", but I volunteer there frequently as a sound/visual tech and know probably half of the 300 people that go there regularly). I'm going to college to be an Electrical Engineer. I pretty well knocked a year off of college by doing all the AP courses in High School that I could. I'm paying my own way through college, and before long, I'll probably have enough money to be out on my own. I work two jobs; one as a tutor at my local school district, and one as an Audio/Visual technician for my college's Student Union Building. I'm an 18 year old male, and this is where I'm at in life.
6 or 7 years ago, my mom died of Multiple Sclerosis. She'd been dying from it for the bulk of my life. It really takes a toll on a kid to watch his mother die for years, every day fading away a little more. It forces him to grow up fast, take responsibility, do anything he can to make his dying mom's and (obviously) stressed dad's lives easier. I was stripped of a lot of my childhood. Not that I didn't have one; I had a good childhood. But it wasn't as full of innocence and fun as most peoples' childhoods. I was aware of what was going on. I knew my mom was dying, and that there was nothing anyone could do to stop it.
This, I think, is the reason why I, personally, like to wear diapers, among a few other things associated with infantilism (primarily sleeping with a stuffed animal of some sort, being held (primarliy as in hug), being cuddled by someone close to me, et cetera; nothing so much as having a pacifier or sleeping in a onsie.) Probably the only thing that could be adverse in my life is that I don't like to lead; I'm not a leader, I've always been a follower. In marriage, I'm afraid I won't lead my wife/family as well as I'm supposed to. Sure, I'll be the bread-winner still, but I'm afraid I won't be the solid rock my family needs me to be. Yet at the same time, I'm sure I could be the solid rock; I already have been for my family when my mom passed away. My dad was unsteady for awhile, and I stood there and supported him until he was able to get back on his feet. It was at that point that I let myself deal with her passing - AFTER my dad got back up himself. I was strong for him first. Regardless, I doubt that my tendency to follow instead of lead stems from something else, not from this desire of mine. I've already lived a relatively hard life (or at least a strenuous one), and I'm 18. I've got a lot of life left in me. I'm a completely normal person; the desire to wear diapers is a part of my life, but it doesn't ruin my life. In the end, I do just as much as any other "normal" person does (depending on how we define normal; honestly, in my opinion, it is unhealthy to be "normal"; people need a little weird in their lives to make themselves individuals). In fact, in the end, I will probably do more than the average person does to benefit my country and the world. Engineering is all about that. My desire does not detract from my contribution to the world (as some people stated it does). The fact that I accept it and deal with it accordingly (in a proper fashion, of course) simply shows me that I have the strength to look at myself and deal with myself.
Sorry for the long-winded comment, but I felt it necessary to share a little of my life and my reasons. Good luck to everyone either dealing with this personally or dealing with someone close to them in this situation!
Whoops, I noticed a few typos. I need to do more proofreading!
First off, in the last paragraph, I meant to say "I doubt that my tendency to follow instead of lead stems from this desire of mine." or "I'm sure that my tendency to follow instead of lead stems from something else, not from this desire of mine." That makes a big difference in what that says.
Secondly, I guess you could say I'm not a completely normal person (seeing as what I said following that would contradict that statement. That, and the fact that I enjoy something that is relatively abnormal automatically makes me "not normal.") The point was that I'm just as much of a contributing member of society as the next guy, and that I do not have any sort of mental health problems that inhibit my ability to perform in any way.
Lastly, I apologize for the huge block of text. When I copied and pasted this (I had to do so to make my account here without losing the text), I lost the spacing for some reason, as well as some of the spots where I meant to have a new paragraph. Nonetheless, it still reads the same. Thank you for taking the time to read this, if you have!
Let him wear them, no matter what you say, he will probably go behind your back and wear them anyway... it's not like he's doing drugs or anything... it's only a diaper
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he could wear the diaper to hide the drugs O_O
in my eyes only people who are 5 or younger or have a medical problem should wear diapers, adult babys/diaper lovers are wrong this is why we have a bad econme because intead of people working at jobs their home shitting in their diapers and that is just wrong.
I am 20yrs. old going on 21 next month and into wanting to wear diapers or pullups and I have been into this since I was 16 or 17yrs. old when I saw some pullups at my grandmothers house and looked at them thinking about wanting to wear them and then decided to try them and I liked the comfort and the wearing of them. I decided a couple of months ago I decided to ask my aunt cause I felt comfortable enough to talk and ask her about this and she thought their was something wrong with me and btw my aunt is married to my uncle but I talked to her about this and she asked me about me wanting to do this and I told her I liked the comfort and the way it wears and it made me feel little and overall her and her husband(uncle) and they didnt approve cause she thought people would get the wrong idea cause I asked her if she could put a diaper/pullup on me and that she would give me baths when I am at my grandmothers house and when I needed to be changed to take me to a bathroom to change me. After awhile my dad found out about all of this and he was mad at me and thought their was something wrong with me and that I needed to talk with someone about it. Since I was 16 or 17 yrs. old and now being 20yrs. old I still feel the need of wanting to wear a diaper or pullup and being babied by a woman and someone to take care of me. I was wondering what I should do about all of this situation and how should I go by this?
my 12 year old son has asked to wear diapers idk what to do or how to respond
Just curious was your son incontinent or just lazy? Has he grown out of this?