About one year ago, I posted a comment to the effect of: "I have urge incontinence and over active bladder.  I usually have from fifteen seconds to five minutes before the involuntary (incontinence) voiding occurs.  Even at home and readily accessable to toileting facilities, I find it much less stressful if I just wear diapers.  My question to the forum was this: do you think the constant wearing of diapers will make me become dependent upon diapers."

The comments I received were to the effect of: " No, we don't think the mere wearing of diapers will make the problem worse."  So I began to 'just wear diapers'.

One year later my experience is just the opposite to yours.  My incontinence has not changed one bit.  I still have a 'window' of from fifteen seconds to five minutes  before I void with no control. 

What has changed is this: my life is so much less stressful and thus so much better because I just wear the diapers and don't worry about it.  IF I can get to a toilet, fine, I do.  If I cannot, fine, I use the diapers for their intended purpose.

I guess acceptance on my part is the difference.  To me the wearing of diapers is just no big deal.  Good luck.  I hope you get a lot of feedback.