Dianne,  following any surgery, you have to work to get muscles firing again.  It is the bodies protective mechanism to shut down these muscles when there is a major change or trauma occurring within our bodies.  Sometimes our neuromuscular communication comes back spontaneously, but sometimes we have to "jump start" those electrical connections again.  I would highly recommend that you visit www.apta.org site and go to "find a physical therapist" to locate a women's health physical therapist in your local area.  You would expect the therapist to do an internal evaluation and possibe some electric stim to the muscles of your pelvic floor to get them firing again.  The goal is to get you independent with contracting the correct muscles of your pelvic floor and surrounding musculature.  I would also recommend a home program that can supplement your clinical treatment and aide your recovery.  Read more at www.hab-it.com to see if this program is something you can commit to. Best of luck, Diane.  These are muscles and you can regain control!