Margaret, How long he will be incontinent is not known by any doctor. Most will tell you 3-6 months, but that is just a guide and can drive you crazy if it goes longer - you feel guilty that your not normal or that you must have done something wrong (exercises) if it goes longer. Some men are incontinent for a week (lucky guys) and some for life. The rest fit in the middle. It is not an answer that sits well but it is the truth. There are many options if it persists but more surgery sometimes is just too much for many to handle. If you can, be supportive. Always though tell the doctor what is going on! Papa