I'm almost 7 years incontinent after a prostatectomy. Mine got a little worse after about 5 years. I wear at least a pad a day or diaper a day if relatively inactive. If active I have worse stress incontinence. Currently I use a McGuire Urinal made by Coloplast or one made by Urocare, very similar. A good solution but each solution has inconveniences. Pads are soggy wet, as are diapers. Pads feel like a small mattress between you legs and diapers feel like a load in your pants! McGuire urinals are most comfortable while on. The trouble is getting it on properly and then at night cleaning it up for the next day's use. Incontinence is defined differently by patients and doctors. Patients say they are incontinent if pads, diapers, urinals are nescessary. Doctors don't like to admit that their patients are incontinent so they tend to define incontinence as having NO control and a constant leak. Good luck. Thst's just the way it is. Some are luckier than others. Deal with it and move on.