Hello Ron,
You're certainly not alone. Follow this link to the SharePost section of our site, where you can learn about and connect with others who share similar experiences and challenges:
IncontinenceNetwork.com's Community
http://www.healthcentral.com/incontinence/c/all/?ic=4027
Scroll through and read our SharePosts. There are many people here who can relate and offer support.
Welcome! - MG