I had a home intrusion on March 20th. I was in my cellar doing laundry . When I came up into the kitchen a stranger was standing inside my kitchen door.I live in the country and Ihaven't locked my doors in years. Before Icould react this man beat me unconscious and brutally raped me. In September I met a wonderful man, who is so kind, and understands my fears about being intimate with him. I do trust him and he has been so kind , gentle , and patient with me, but there is still this fear in my mind, and I can't get over it. I know he isn't going to hurt me, but what can I do/ I really care for him.
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Q: How do you become intimate with a man after you have been brutally raped?
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10/15/08 3:29pm
Dear country1955,
What a horrible experience you've been through and, of course, it is going to have an effect on your feelings now. I think the most important thing you can do is to find a therapist in your area who is experienced in working with women who have had this type of traumatic sexual experience. Therapy can be invaluable in helping you to get at your feelings and fears and to begin to move past them. You won't forget what happened, but it doesn't need to debilitate you as you want to move on with your life. The other thing I think can be so critical is talking to other women who have had similar experiences. See if you can find a support group in your area. If your area has a hot line for women or your health plan has a nurse call-line, they should be able to provide you with the resources, including therapist's names, that are available to you. Best of luck to you. May you find a supportive care network close by, Sandy
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