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my invisible illness

By mcmurraychick Monday, September 13, 2010

1. the illness i live with is chronic migraines, ulcers, and arthritis

2. i was diagnosed in 1991 at the age of 16

3. but i have had symptoms for as long as i can remember around age 8 or so

4. the biggest adjustment i've had to make is learning to put my needs first, if i'm in pain i go to bed, simple as that

5. most people assume that because i work and go to school i am in great health.... if they only knew

6. the hardest part about mornings is trying to get meds on board, and get to sleep before the pain makes sleep impossible.

7. my favorite medial show is mystery diagnosis.

8. a gadget i couldn't live without is my computer and my cell phone. they are my link to support and help when the pain hits.

9. the hardest part about nights are working through the pain, as some of the pain meds i take don't make me sleepy during the day, but at night it's a whole nother ball game.

10. i take 4 pills a day every day, but most days it's closer to 10 with the various prn meds i take as well. ( NO COMMENTS PLEASE)

11.reguarding alternative treatments, well let's just say i've told my primary care physician and my migraine doctor, that if it won't kill me or seriously injuse me i'm game. no matter how weird it may sound.

12. if i had to choose between an invisible illness and a visiable one i think i would choose the visable one. at least that way people would knw something is wrong.

13. when it comes to my job, i make every effort to be there, and they are a huge cause of my migraines, but good luck telling them that.

14. people would be surprised to know that despite it all i try to lead a normal life. and that i am going to get my nursing degree if it kills me!!!

15.the hardest thing to accept has been that sometimes, no matter how bad i want to do something, i have to give in to the pain. i've missed 2 close friends weddings because of this, and it sucks.

16. something i never thought i could do with my illness is go back to school and work at the same time, but so far i am doing pretty well. ( i have a 99 average in class, so i guess i'm doing alright)

17. the commericals about my illness leave me seeing red. it's not always as easy as taking a pill. and sometimes taking shots from the doctors office or emergency room don't even help. then i just have to wait it out.

18. something  reall miss doing since i was diagnosied is making and keeping plans with friends. seems like every time i plan something i have to cancel due to the pain.

19. it was really hard to have to give up eating whatever i want. i love hot dogs and onions, but both will have me in the corner of a dark room crying in pain.

20. since i was diagnosied i have started to learn more about my disease. no one else is going to stand up for me but me. i will also not hesitate to call someone out about the myths surrounding migraines, even doctors.

21. if i could have one day of feeling normal again i would call up my girlfriends and go to lunch and a day at the spa.

Anonymous
Mollie
9/13/10 8:18pm

mcmurraychick i can understand a little wat your going threw. I also have migraines but not chronic unless one comes on me during the night, than I'm well into the migraine before I can get something in me to help. I have got were I have them bout ever month. When they start to come on me its time to get something taken. I use to have Vascuclar Migraines & now i have wat they call Cluther Migraines. Before I would start goin numb in half of my mouth & then it would go in my hand & up my arm, just on one side. I better get something in me when it first start or I'm doomed. The first time I had that hit me I was in church & throught I was havin a stroke. That went on & one day my eyes started gettin dark & twriling. Later i read & found out I was havin cluster migraines so when I start havein the simptoms I better get me something in me or I will have a bad one. So my migraines has always been if I can get something in me then I likely not to have a very bad one. So in a small way I no a little wat u go threw but not in anyway a chronic one & I really fill for u havin like u do & I fill bless that I have mild ones so far. Food I eat & my nerves & a bright light & other things can trigger a migraine on me... God bless u with your & may he one day c that u have had enough & ease u of your............

9/14/10 5:40am

for years i would get one every now and then... amybe 2 or 3 a year. then 4 years ago they came back witha vengenance. at one time i would average 4 a week. now thankfully it's one or 2 a week, but sometimes they last for days.

 

the only bright spot is that i have a wonderful PCP, and a great migraine specialist ( who also does pain management)  and for the most part our local ER gets me in and out quicly when needed.

 

i try to keep a strict schedule, going to bed at the same time and getting up at the same time, which is hard when you work nights and have school 2 days a week.

9/16/10 1:02pm

Mcmurraychick

 

Loved your list!  Sending you lots of love.  Ditto on most of your list.  I hate having an invisible disease it.  I'd prefer no disease but its so invalidating always having to explain yourself to everyone even doctors as to your condition.  I'm like you and will try almost anything to abate them so I was in the holistc doctors office for a follow up yesterday and mind you I already told her I'm a chronic migraine sufferer with two to three migraines a week in the first visit and she starts telling me "oh I have a patient who can't see her migraines get so bad so she can't drive" and I'm like yep thats what I've been saying that I'm a chronic migraine sufferer that I had to quit working outside the home because I'd be throwing up in my lap as I was driving home and it was like a lite bulb went off with her like oh you were serious about how bad you have it.  Yugh!!

 

I too hate missing plans with friends so much so I get such anixety even making any.  I liked your motto. I too feel "the lord never gives us more than we can bear" I laughed at your followup that "I sometimes wonder why he thinks I'm so strong" as I've been telling him all summer he's got it all wrong with me I just can't take anymore as I've been dealing with some additional medical issues and perimenopause.  I'm so happy for your success in school and holding your own at work.  You will make such a great nurse.

 

What is it about summertime and hotdogs?  I sure could go for a corndog right now.  Well maybe in my dreams.  Take care and I hope you get to have a spa day soon.

Nancy Harris Bonk, Health Guide
9/17/10 8:59am

I love your meme, but not your chronic invisible illnesses.

9/17/10 10:19am

Hi McMurayChick,

    Wow... I agree with everything you typed up there and although mine are not daily chronic migraines, they are pretty morbid & and frequent. I have my follow up appointment the 30th of this month w/ my neuro and I'm going to have to get on Topamax I suppose. Like you, I hold down a job, activities and people would never know the pain and suffering I go through. I have oxygen, butalbital, phenegran, and demerol for the skull smushers... I've finally gotten myself in the habit of taking my meds when I first feel the aura i.e. numbness in my face, left part of body, and tingling in my scalp & pulsating in my brain. oh my gosh don't you just HATE it when someone ask you if you had a headache???? If it were ONLY a headache, we'd be in a good place! I enjoyed reading your post, good luck to you, hang in there and never give up! You sound like a strong person and there is great support on this website.

Have a good & migraine free weekend.

Teresa :-)

9/17/10 10:52am

teresa,

 

if i wasn't strong i'd have used a bullet a long time ago. and my doctor knows this.

 

i'm going later this afternoon for pain meds, and antibiotics for this lovely sinus infection. it's now been over 2 weeks since i was pain free. my doctor keeps a close watch on me, and is expecting me this afternoon. here's hoping it works so i can enjoy my birthday party tomorrow.

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