Yes, Migraines and headaches are awful, but don't be a whiner or drama queen!

Teri Robert @trobert Health Guide
  • Now, before anyone jumps on me for the title of this SharePost and not being sympathetic toward my fellow Migraine and headache sufferers, hear me out, please.

    We all need to vent sometimes -- to complain about our headaches and Migraines and be heard by people who understand. If we didn't have that kind of outlet, we'd never be able to cope with our health issues. I fully understand and encourage healthy venting, and I'll gladly do anything I can to help someone who's venting and needs help and support.

    That begs the question of what's the difference between venting and whining. Here are some ways not to turn a vent into a whine...
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    • Seriously consider suggestions people make and information they share with you.
    • Take whatever action you can to make things better for yourself.
    • Don't misuse the 1 - 10 pain scale or exaggerate your level, even to make a point. A pain level of 10 should be reserved for pain beyond anything you've ever felt before. At a level 9, you should be at your doctor's office. Even at an 8, it's unlikely that you'd be able to be talking on the phone or using the computer. This can be especially important when talking to a doctor. If you try to make a point by telling your doctor your pain is or has been at a 12 out of 10, believe me, there's a lot of mental eye rolling going on in that doctor's head, and he or she may not take you seriously after that.
    • Be careful about saying things such as, "I want to die." Such statements must be taken seriously and they scare the bejeebers out of people. If that's how you feel, and you want to share it, be careful about what you say, and explain yourself.
    • Stay as positive as possible. It's fine to ask for help with staying positive, but don't always assume the worst is going to happen.
    The bottom line? "Venters" express their frustrations and fears, then pay attention to the help and information that's offered, trying to do something to make things better for themselves. "Whiners" and "drama queens" go to their doctors, call their friends, or post to forums with the same lament over and over, but don't take any action to make things better. They ask over and over for advice, but never take it. Venters tend to make more progress in their treatment. Which are you? Which do you want to be?

    This bit of insight is offered not to criticize anyone, but to help everyone.

    with gentle hugs,

Published On: July 06, 2007