Ugh, why doesnt anyone believe me??

I went to a headache specialist on 4/9/08 associated with NY Presbyterian---it was the biggest waste of time. She sat on her PC a majority of the time documenting what I told her, criticized my allergies to medications, & didnt believe my food allergens (kind ofmocked them! saying '..how can u be allergic to fruit?') did a basic neurotest and when I asked her about my swollen lymph nodes she told me that wasnt her area of practice and to ask my PCP! Any other medical question I asked her she said 'ask your PCP'. She then asked me what I take for break through pain--i said im allergic to narcotics, and i get cardiac palps/chest pain from triptans--what does she give me?? a TRIPTAN. and then at the end o f the "visit" she gave me a print out of everything i told her and told me to make an appt with me PCP. Can we say waste of time?  

Today I go to the hospital with a SEVERE migraine to the point I couldnt stand it anymore I didnt know what to do. They gave me reglan & toradol, and the drs looked at me and basically didnt believe anything i said. i told them about my pain and they said well u dont look like ure in pain. i hate how ppl look at me and think im fine. i cant stand it! i feel like i should take drama classes and learn to cry on que so that ppl could believe my pain! they said 'well u dont look like you're...well you look fine to me'. ...has anyone else experienced this so the degree i have!?

and to make matters worse--i called out of work sick today. im already skating on thin ice because of it. and im still not feeling that much better what do i do!?!??! i cant get fired but i am getting the wrath from my supervisors which makes me so stressed which i think is inducing headaches also! is that legal to be yelled at for calling out sick for a diagnosed illness that you have had for years??? i feel like im being taken advantaged here and that they just want to get rid of me (aka they want me to quit). i dont call out that often...maybe 1x every 6 weeks which considering the fact im in constant pain and work 40 hours a week is a miracle....any advice? I need ALL the help I can get from you loves