In October, Dominika Borsos, a sophomore high school student, who by all accounts was well respected by her peers and teachers, made a very bad decision. As an honor roll student, without discipline problems or any missed days of school, giving hydrocodone to a classmate didn't sound like something she would do. But she did.
Borsos was listening to this student tell her about the hydrocodone she takes for pain. Dominika mentioned that her mom takes hydrocodone for pain too. Within a few weeks, the student told Borsos she was running out of pain medication and asked her if she would bring her one of her mother's pills. Borsos refused.
A few weeks later, as Dominika was getting ready for school, her friend called saying she was in horrible pain and didn't have any more pain pills. "Would she please bring in two of her mother's pills?" At first Borsos refused, but her friend called again and again pleading with her. Unbeknownst to her mother, Borsos took two pills, a hydrocodone for pain, and a promethazine for nausea, put them in a baggie and brought them to school.
Of course, Dominika was caught on camera giving her fellow student the pills. Her school has a zero-tolerance policy on drugs. No drugs, anywhere, anytime. School officials claim she intended to sell and distribute hydrocodone. The next day, a county deputy handcuffed her, put her in his squad car, took her to a juvenile detention center and fingerprinted her. Her charges are possession of a narcotic with intent to sell and distribute.
This happened on a Friday, and as luck would have it, there was no available judge until Monday morning. That meant Borsos spent three nights in "juvie." Monday morning she was released to her parents' custody and ordered to wear a monitoring device on her ankle for thirty days. In addition, she is suspended from all school activities, on and off campus.
Ok, here's the thing. Yes, Dominika made some VERY bad decisions that morning. She took pills from her mother without her knowledge, brought them to school, and gave them to a fellow student. I really don't think she was going to sell them to her friend. Does charging and detaining a student, without a previous record, really make sense in this case? She certainly doesn't sound like the local drug dealer. A suspension from school absolutely; no school activities, certainly. But to be held for three nights in a detention center and charged with that kind of offense seems over the top to me.
What happens to my senior if she takes medication to school for her Migraines and one of her friends asks she for some? What if she knows that this friend also suffers from Migraine disease, also knows her doctor and mother give her the same medication for her Migraine pain? Does she get charged with intent to sell and placed in a detention center?
Are we kidding ourselves thinking that kids don't share medications for Migraine and headaches? Zero-tolerance, absolutely. But let's be realistic in how we treat each case. When the kid who sells and smokes marijuana every day gets caught should his charges be the same as the kid who helps her friend with Advil? I think not. Each case needs to be handled on a case by case basis. These are, after all, our children, whose brains are not fully developed yet and commonly make errors in judgement. They do deserve a second chance, don't they?


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Nancy,
You may not think much of me after I say what I have to say. I would NOT want my daughter, son or any one else's family to have a day in court like Dominika just had. I am full aware of what the rules are clear back to not allowed to even carry a OTC med on person on school property. Society has changed to where we all are required to do things like that now.
I know I always told my daughter's they had a choice in carrying their on OTC meds with them. I would back them up all the way through the courts if need be on it. I did tell them though in NO WAY were they to hand it out to any of their school buddies. Now in high school that was going to be difficult because how many girls do not carry some type of otc pain med in their purse on their person? It is hard to remember to empty everything out before class every monday morn or before class every class day morn. Gosh, boys were always asking for an aspiren of some type. Anyway that is here nor there now.
I do not think Dominika had any intent to sell nor do I think she made a bad decision. She broke a school rule is what she did. You and I both know that if you and I were asked by someone we worked with or a neighbor that would be the first thing we would do. No way do we want some one suffering any longer than they would have to.
In this world of politically correct and illegally pushed drugs I still am going to take the chance depending on the situation to help someone out. That is how I am. It would all depend on the situation.
Marlene
Oh Marlene, I still think the world of you. That is what is so great about SharePosting.
I totally agree with you that I would absolutely flip a switch if my daughter went through that nightmare. I would go into mommy overdrive and take some heads off!
The part of the story that gets me is she took the pills from her mom without her mom's knowledge. I doubt she was going to sell them, but that could start a slippery slope some young people may not get out of.
Having said that, her punishment by local law enforcement was "beyond the pale" in my opinion. Suspension and whatever come with breaking those rules fine. But please, 3 nights in jail, I think that is overkill.
Are you ready for the holidays? I'm getting there.....
Nancy,
You did catch me on that one. I reread your post. I thought I had reread it twice the first time but somehow managed to miss that part of taking the meds w/o her mother's knowledge.
Don't know if I got wrapped up in her dilemma or if it was because I, myself, had some headpain going on. Still do today. I think it may be weather related because it is grey and damp out. Many times that is good fuel for headpain.
Appreciate you acknowledging that. Oh, I wish I were ready for Christmas. This year, and my children are grown, I have really procrastinated. I do have a half sister that has required a great deal of my time. Anyway....
I do wish for you a holiday that you will very much enjoy. Hopefully you will be able to take some time away from all the reminder of your pain and keep healthy so you may share in a "Merry Christmas" with your family.
Enjoy the day!
Marlene