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Intent to Sell, or a Bad Decision?

By Nancy Harris Bonk Monday, December 17, 2007

In October, Dominika Borsos, a sophomore high school student, who by all accounts was well respected by her peers and teachers, made a very bad decision. As an honor roll student, without discipline problems or any missed days of school, giving hydrocodone to a classmate didn't sound like something she would do. But she did.

 

Borsos was listening to this student tell her about the hydrocodone she takes for pain. Dominika mentioned that her mom takes hydrocodone for pain too. Within a few weeks, the student told Borsos she was running out of pain medication and asked her if she would bring her one of her mother's pills. Borsos refused.

 

A few weeks later, as Dominika was getting ready for school, her friend called saying she was in horrible pain and didn't have any more pain pills. "Would she please bring in two of her mother's pills?" At first Borsos refused, but her friend called again and again pleading with her. Unbeknownst to her mother, Borsos took two pills, a hydrocodone for pain, and a promethazine for nausea, put them in a baggie and brought them to school.

 

Of course, Dominika was caught on camera giving her fellow student the pills. Her school has a zero-tolerance policy on drugs. No drugs, anywhere, anytime. School officials claim she intended to sell and distribute hydrocodone. The next day, a county deputy handcuffed her, put her in his squad car, took her to a juvenile detention center and fingerprinted her. Her charges are possession of a narcotic with intent to sell and distribute.

 

This happened on a Friday, and as luck would have it, there was no available judge until Monday morning. That meant Borsos spent three nights in "juvie." Monday morning she was released to her parents' custody and ordered to wear a monitoring device on her ankle for thirty days. In addition, she is suspended from all school activities, on and off campus.

 

Ok, here's the thing. Yes, Dominika made some VERY bad decisions that morning. She took pills from her mother without her knowledge, brought them to school, and gave them to a fellow student. I really don't think she was going to sell them to her friend. Does charging and detaining a student, without a previous record, really make sense in this case? She certainly doesn't sound like the local drug dealer. A suspension from school absolutely; no school activities, certainly. But to be held for three nights in a detention center and charged with that kind of offense seems over the top to me.

 

What happens to my senior if she takes medication to school for her Migraines and one of her friends asks she for some? What if she knows that this friend also suffers from Migraine disease, also knows her doctor and mother give her the same medication for her Migraine pain? Does she get charged with intent to sell and placed in a detention center?

 

Are we kidding ourselves thinking that kids don't share medications for Migraine and headaches? Zero-tolerance, absolutely. But let's be realistic in how we treat each case. When the kid who sells and smokes marijuana every day gets caught should his charges be the same as the kid who helps her friend with Advil? I think not. Each case needs to be handled on a case by case basis. These are, after all, our children, whose brains are not fully developed yet and commonly make errors in judgement. They do deserve a second chance, don't they?

12/17/07 #5 - Severe anger - from amitriptyline for Migraine or from bipolar or ADD?
12/20/07 5:13pm

Nancy,

 

You may not think much of me after I say what I have to say. I would NOT want my daughter, son or any one else's family to have a day in court like Dominika just had. I am full aware of what the rules are clear back to not allowed to even carry a OTC med on person on school property. Society has changed to where we all are required to do things like that now.

 

I know I always told my daughter's they had a choice in carrying their on OTC meds with them. I would back them up all the way through the courts if need be on it. I did tell them though in NO WAY were they to hand it out to any of their school buddies. Now in high school that was going to be difficult because how many girls do not carry some type of otc pain med in their purse on their person? It is hard to remember to empty everything out before class every monday morn or before class every class day morn. Gosh, boys were always asking for an aspiren of some type. Anyway that is here nor there now.

 

I do not think Dominika had any intent to sell nor do I think she made a bad decision. She broke a school rule is what she did. You and I both know that if you and I were asked by someone we worked with or a neighbor that would be the first thing we would do. No way do we want some one suffering any longer than they would have to.

 

In this world of politically correct and illegally pushed drugs I still am going to take the chance depending on the situation to help someone out. That is how I am. It would all depend on the situation.

 

Marlene  

12/21/07 9:21am

Oh Marlene, I still think the world of you. That is what is so great about SharePosting.

 

I totally agree with you that I would absolutely flip a switch if my daughter went through that nightmare. I would go into mommy overdrive and take some heads off!

 

The part of the story that gets me is she took the pills from her mom without her mom's knowledge. I doubt she was going to sell them, but that could start a slippery slope some young people may not get out of.

 

Having said that, her punishment by local law enforcement was "beyond the pale" in my opinion. Suspension and whatever come with breaking those rules fine. But please, 3 nights in jail, I think that is overkill.

 

Are you ready for the holidays?  I'm getting there.....

Anonymous
Marlene
12/21/07 11:31am

Nancy,

 

You did catch me on that one. I reread your post. I thought I had reread it twice the first time but somehow managed to miss that part of taking the meds w/o her mother's knowledge.

Don't know if I got wrapped up in her dilemma or if it was because I, myself, had some headpain going on. Still do today.  I think it may be weather related because it is grey and damp out. Many times that is good fuel for headpain.

Appreciate you acknowledging that. Oh, I wish I were ready for Christmas. This year, and my children are grown, I have really procrastinated.  I do have a half sister that has required a great deal of my time. Anyway....

 

I do wish for you a holiday that you will very much enjoy. Hopefully you will be able to take some time away from all the reminder of your pain and keep healthy so you may share in a "Merry Christmas" with your family. 

 

Enjoy the day!

Marlene    

12/21/07 2:02pm
I think that it was a bad decision, but we as adults have done no less when a friend with a migraine lets us know they are suffering.  Most of us with migraines wouldn't want our worst enemies to suffer from one, let alone a friend.  I guess it is a lesson for all of us to think before our compassion takes over.  Somehow, that doesn't even sound right.  I hate it that she had to go to such an extent as spending 3 nights in juvie.  That was way over the top and there was no common sense involved in  that decision. I do agree, the one thing that I hope she learns is to not take someone else's meds, even moms, without their permission.  And I wouldn't even offer a Tylenol these days at school or work.  Things have gotten way out of hand.  Common sense does not abound these days.  I hope she knows she can still be compassionate.Blush
12/21/07 2:53pm

Exactly right.

     momto2

12/21/07 3:06pm

Exactly right She made a bad decision by taking her mother's medication AND not telling her BUT  her being in "juvie" over the weekend was way out of line. She was only trying to help someone in pain not attempting to sell.

 I only hope she has learned from this experience but remains intuned to helping others in the appropriate way.

  Ihope she and her family can enjoy the beauty of the holidays and have a happy, healthy, safe New Year!!

  Happy Holidays to all!!

     momto2

Anonymous
Sharon
12/21/07 11:19pm
I think the school made the right decision.First let me say that I am a migraine sufferer, as is my 12 year old son.  But, zero tolerance means zero tolerance.  Without that - where to we draw the line - should children - no matter what their disease - be permitted to carry addictive narcotics to school?  No.  Never.  Or any medication. Otherwise, children who don't have such great intentions could easily play the migraine card and attempt to get away with it.  In addition, children, even teens as this story demonstrates, don't yet possess the proper judgement on how to handle sensitive medications like this.  Should children who suffer from migraine have medication stored in the school nurse's office? Yes.  That is what we have done.  If my son gets sick he asks to be excused to the office and he is dispensed medication, and allowed to rest while it kicks in.  That is simply the only safe and legal way to handle medication for children while at school.  Parents who encourage their children to break the rules (ie, sneaking medication onto the school campus) are sending the wrong message to their children, in my opinion.  
12/22/07 12:24am

I'm Canadian and have had migraines for 13 years.

 

I realize that Dominika was trying to help her friend, but what disease did her friend have?

 

It's dangerous or risky to share medications especially if you don't know if this friend might be on medication that interacts with hydrocodone, has allergies to certain chemicals that may be found in these pills.

 

There is also the fact that hydrocodone has become popular on the drug scene.

 

I agree that Dominika's punishment and charges are excessive especially as she is a first time offender. Hopefully, she'll never make such a mistake again.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Anonymous
RaeDreams
12/22/07 10:26am
In this day and age, it's a bad decision to ask a friend to give you anything prescription of someone else's, much less giving someone else's prescription meds to someone, especially in school.  There is just too much publicity and zero tolerance information for either of those young ladies not to have known better.   I wish things were different, but they're not.  I wish the best for Dominika, I hate to see any young person in trouble.  May God be with you.
Anonymous
califmom
12/22/07 5:33pm

Did Domenika's friend have parents? Where were they in all this?  If the girl was "running out of her pain medication," it is the duty of the parent to provide it for her and get her medical attention, not Domenika's. Domenika or her mother should have spoken to this girl's parents and let them know she had asked for this medication. 

 

Adults are responsible for these minors-that's why the school has rules such as "zero tolerance."  The law requires that schools act "in loco parentis," which means as if the school is the parent, when the student is on campus. What if the girl had a reaction to the medication? What if she died as a result of taking the medication?  Then it's not just "bad judgment," it's manslaughter and Domenika spends a lot more time in "juvie."

 

Think things through before reacting emotionally.

Anonymous
KN
12/25/07 8:37am

Note: girl found out Domenika's mom used Vicodin. Note: within a couple of weeks was begging for her to bring her some.  Weeks.....This sounds to me like a drug-seeking individual who used this poor girl to get her fix.

With all of the publicity surrounding selling/sharing drugs at school, I believe the school responded responsibly. Ritalin is an amphetamine derivative which is notorious for being used on school campuses for sale and getting high. Vicodin is also. School nurses should and do hold those meds for students, but many still sneak them in.

We're experiencing a wave of addictions in the school age children, and this article is indicative of the gravity of the situation. I think the punishment may help other kids think twice before stealing their parent's drugs and giving/selling them to fellow students, whether mercy driven or not.

What else can be done do prevent this epidemic from becoming worse than it already is?

12/27/07 5:28am

As a high school teacher, I see no tolerance policies enforced all the time.  From within the system, I can tell you that pretty much no one but the political figures really likes this rule.  Administrators and teachers alike would like the right to give the student who has never caused any trouble before a break on most violations.  No tolerance is just a way for a school system to cover its rear.  It's easy; it requires no thought. Having just said that, however, without zero tolerance, in my district, it wasn't the kids who never caussed trouble getting the breaks, it was the kids with connections. No system is perfect, or even very good.

 

Now more directly addressing the issue, the hardest thing I do some days is to refuse to give medication to two of my students whom I know to have migraine.  I recognize their suffering.  Regarding parents' responsibilities, don't even get me started.  Some of my students have "parents" who barely provide room and board let alone anything else. What I do do, though, is suggest non-drug techniques that have helped me. I also take them to guidance so that they can be excused from classes when their parents can't or won't pick them up.

 

So as much as some, if not most, of us know about migraine, we are not allowed by law to share medication. I don't know if the friend in the story was drug-seeking or just had awful parents, but don't forget the school nurse's office in school. Not scharing medication with a fellow sufferer may be the hardest thing to do, but each one of us needs to find a doctor to treat the root of our migraine, not just the pain.

 

Tracey 

Anonymous
Jonathan Parham
1/23/09 3:10pm

Both my oldest brother and best friend are high school assistant principals.  The culture they have to deal with can be extremely tough at times.  They both really try to hear the opposing side.

 

Thanks

Jonathan Parham

Anonymous
DD30
9/24/11 5:27pm

I agree. Some in the position of authority take it to extreme. The baggy was a bad choice,but still. Do good 99% we love ya, make minor mistake 1% to the slammer with ya.

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By Nancy Harris Bonk— Last Modified: 06/18/12, First Published: 12/17/07