Migraine family

I have read so many posts of DH's that don't understand or are unsympathetic. Your family seems very strong, and you are very fortunate to have so much support. Good luck with the new HA specialist =)
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Jenny,

Your family is a tribute to who you are and how you handle this disease.  You still do as much as you can for your DH and children.  Your children always know you love them and you are there for them.  You let them understand what is going on with you instead of hiding it from them.  You clearly show your love and appreciation to you husband.  You are a special woman and you have a wonder family.

Cindy

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Jenny,

 

I know I've told you before, I remember 20 or more years ago when I was just a little girl and my mom would have sick headaches.  I remember the ice packs, the lying in bed all day, etc.  But I also remember helping getting things she needed - ice, coke, washcloths - or just sitting there with her.  Since then, she has been ablet to return the favor countless times for me.  She has brought me medicine at 10:30 pm when I was at college throwing up from a migraine.  She has sat in bed with me and rubbed my back or head when I wasn't feeling well. 

 

I am also lucky now that I have a wonderful husband (who gets migraines about once every 6 months).  He does all the things my mom used to do to take care of me and I do the same for him when he gets sick.  We both know how bad it feels and how powerless we all are sometimes. 

 

Your children are going to grow up to be incredible people.  I can't tell you as a little kid how proud and helpful you feel when you get to help take care of Mommy.  It really makes you someone important.  Keep doing everything you can to get better for yourself and your migraine family.  That's all that any of us can do!

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Kelly, this is a wonderful post. Thank you so much for sharing about your family.

 

I am very fortunate in that DBF and I work at the same firm and live across the street from where we work. This makes it very easy for us to check in with each other when I'm having a bad head day. And if I do come home early it's easy for him to check in on me or come home early with me. Like your DH, my DBF has become a very good cook and wonderful about household chores. He takes excellent care of me.

 

I can only imagine how difficult it must be for our families and loved ones to see us suffer. You are right that migraine disease affects the whole family, and having people that are part of our support system really makes it much more manageable.

 

It sounds like your kids are going to grow up to be wonderful, compassionate people. At least one good thing will come out of this horrid disease.

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Hi Jenny,

 

I know exactly how you feel. I'm in the same boat..I'm with the migraine. I have a 7 year old son and a husband that works hard. But when a migraine hits...my son worries about me. He even makes me get well cards every time. One time when I was having a severe migraine, I couldn't pay too much attention so my husband did the bed time routine of reading a book and putting him to bed. My son came up to me and said he wanted to read me his "joke book" and make me laugh. He thought that would really make me feel better. So, I suffered through the pain and listened to his jokes....(kids jokes they are funny) everytime I laughed, he said " do you feel better now. Is your headache gone" Eventually I told him I felt much better, but I need to sleep too...anyway, kids have their own way of dealing with it. I feel very guilty when I get like that too. I hate laying in bed with pain and not to be able to function.

 

Anyway, thanks for sharing your story. It does help outher families with migraines.

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Your lucky to have a supportive family. God bless you and I hope you can find relief soon.

 

I was having migraines for a full week every month. I finally decided to cut all migraine triggers to see if I was having a "food allergy" or something.  

 

I found that pizza dough and banana's give me migraines almost immediately.

 

I haven't had a migraine in 5 months!!!! Thank GOD!!! I hope you can find your trigger. I recommend cutting out the pizza and fresh bread.

It can't hurt to try and it may actually help.

 

Good luck and God bless!

Jennifer

 

Good luck!

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Hi Jenny,

 

I enjoyed reading your sharepost. You are very lucky to have such a supportive family, especially your husband.

 

I have been married for 10 years, and we were together for 5 years before that. My migraines began as a child, stopped and then returned in my mid-twenties. They have been so bad the last 5 years that I have had to go on disability.

 

I was so scared when my migraines got to the point that I couldn't work. I was sure my husband would leave me. He surprised me and has stuck around. Some counselling helped, she asked the question I was afraid to -- are you leaving. He said no.

 

We've learned to work together. We try our best to be angry at the migraines rather than each other. We're not perfect but we're doing our best to live with this terrible disease.

 

I admire the fact that you have children. As I get older I want to have a baby but I don't know if we could do it financially and physically.

 

I've talked about myself a lot hoping that you will appreciate that you're not alone out there. You're doing an awesome job.

 

Happyarch

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