Talking on the phone/ headaches

princesspaulap Community Member February 09, 2010
  • I have always hated talking on the phone.For one reason only....It is a huge trigger for me! Strange as it sounds, some voices on the other end make the headache happen instantly where other voices are not so quick....Yell Why is that? and does anyone else have that problem?  Thank goodness for texting!! 

     

                              Thanks, Paula :)

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  • Sandra Allen
    Feb. 11, 2010

    i have similar response to talking on the phone.  my response is dependent on my level of migraine predisposition that particular day (i.e. magnified by several combined triggers) and i also experience talking as a trigger in general (doesn't have to be via telephone) if i am feeling weak or otherwise experiencing other triggers at the same time.   ...

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    i have similar response to talking on the phone.  my response is dependent on my level of migraine predisposition that particular day (i.e. magnified by several combined triggers) and i also experience talking as a trigger in general (doesn't have to be via telephone) if i am feeling weak or otherwise experiencing other triggers at the same time.    chewing, talking, laughing, crying, any stimuli can be a trigger for me depending on my level of weakness or what i have come to call  'predisposition' on any given day.

    • Sandi
      Feb. 11, 2010

      Talking can definitely be a trigger for me.  I, too, can be triggered by simple things such as talking, chewing, laughing or crying.  My response is dependent on my level of migraine disposition on that particular day.  There are so many things I have to take into consideration.  Did I sleep well?  How is my neck feeling?  Is my...

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      Talking can definitely be a trigger for me.  I, too, can be triggered by simple things such as talking, chewing, laughing or crying.  My response is dependent on my level of migraine disposition on that particular day.  There are so many things I have to take into consideration.  Did I sleep well?  How is my neck feeling?  Is my tmj calm or not?  What time of the month is it?  It's so tricky.  The hardest part for me, as far as talking on the phone goes, is that my husband is an over-the-road truck driver.  We spend most of our time ON the phone since we only see each other every other weekend.  If I had my choice, we would spend less time talking on the phone.  It's hard for me to get that through to him since that's how he carries on most of his relationships and he wants to talk to me as often as possible. Cry

    • Sandra Allen
      Feb. 11, 2010

      Sandi,

       

      That must really be difficult.  Since my husband is retired and home most the time, I try to make it up to him on good days.  He knows that sometimes I simply MUST have quiet.

       

      I keep a chart (the montly one I printed from this website) that clearly shows where I am in the monthly cycle.   I add other triggers to it that...

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      Sandi,

       

      That must really be difficult.  Since my husband is retired and home most the time, I try to make it up to him on good days.  He knows that sometimes I simply MUST have quiet.

       

      I keep a chart (the montly one I printed from this website) that clearly shows where I am in the monthly cycle.   I add other triggers to it that may be contributing.  Having this chart to show him is a great aid and he can see that I am not making it up for my convenience.  To his credit, he is the eternal optimist and never takes much personally.   Perhaps the chart approach would be useful to you as well.  

       

      I don't need to tell you (another migraineur) that it is so hard to get people to understand the severity of your condition and the desperation you feel when you are simply trying to avoid ANOTHER trigger out of fear of the next attack.  Sharing with him some of the experiences I have found on this website of other migraineurs has been very helpful as well.

       

      And again,  I make a really big deal out of any good day that comes along even though sometimes few and far between.   I say, 'Honey, this is your day."  

       

      Wish you well.

    • Sandi
      Feb. 11, 2010

      Sandra:  Thanks for your encouragment.  The chart is a great idea.  I use a full out diary.  I leave it laying out and he can look at it any time.  I have migraines pretty much EVERY month before and during my period so we've pretty much learned to live with that.  I have other triggers such as stress and odors, and then there...

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      Sandra:  Thanks for your encouragment.  The chart is a great idea.  I use a full out diary.  I leave it laying out and he can look at it any time.  I have migraines pretty much EVERY month before and during my period so we've pretty much learned to live with that.  I have other triggers such as stress and odors, and then there are times when I get migraines for no known reason.  I've asked my husband to stop wearing colognes but he just doesn't get it.  He keeps thinking that he'll find one that doesn't bother me.  They don't always trigger a migriane so I guess he just doesn't take it seriously.  It's been especially hard for us since we don't see each other very often.  I wish I COULD make it up to him on good days, but my chances of having good days when he IS home are much smaller since he is only home every other weekend.  We make it work, and it's not always that bad.  I keep hoping that someday my migraines will decrease.  I'm sure they will.

       

      As for sharing what others have been through, with my husband, that doesn't really appeal to him.  He's just not that kind of a guy.  He says that we will just have to figure it out on our own as we go through it.  I wish it were different because there's no way he will ever know how it feels for me.  Maybe if he would connect with other spouses who through what he does, it might help us both.  I don't see that happening.  You never know, though.  Maybe some day.

       

      Thanks, again, for your encouragment.

       

      ~Sandi~

    • Sandra Allen
      Feb. 12, 2010

      I do feel bad for you, Sandi.

       

      I know I'm so fortunate to have an positive thinking husband. Actually it's one of the reasons I chose him.

       

      You do remind me so much of myself because my menstrual migraine is a given and is always the worst (affecting many days).  Ovulation creates another 3-day struggle, but as you know, a 3-day migraine can...

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      I do feel bad for you, Sandi.

       

      I know I'm so fortunate to have an positive thinking husband. Actually it's one of the reasons I chose him.

       

      You do remind me so much of myself because my menstrual migraine is a given and is always the worst (affecting many days).  Ovulation creates another 3-day struggle, but as you know, a 3-day migraine can often be more easily controlled and thus is not as much of an obstacle.  And I do get them at other times out of nowhere.   What I notice is that when triggers stack up on top of one another, my chances for controlling the 'M' (I dislike the word) become less.  And perfumes, colognes, yes, a trigger.  Fortunately, I don't like to go to the mall cause that's just not smart.

       

      I know you have very little control over whether you have a good day when your husband is around.   What a challenge.  Wish I had more to offer.  Like you say, perhaps with time, he'll come to see the light.  And you may find little suggestions that pop up on this website that add up to significant help.

       

      I am looking into the 'gluten' trigger for myself.  I found out by accident that I was gluten-intolerant.  I am hoping that the nutrient deficiency caused by lack of absorbtion during digestion may have been a factor in the increase in frequency and severity and duration of my 'M's.  I will know more in a month or two as I am only a few weeks into the experiment.

       

      And next month I am scheduled to see a migraine specialist, one that I located via this website as well.  By the way, I am just a fellow migraineur who has benefitted from this site.  I am not affiliated with it in any way.

       

      Wish you well and desire others to suffer less as I wish for myself.

    • Sandi
      Feb. 14, 2010

      Hi Again,

       

      My husband really is a good man.  He's just having a very hard time understanding.  He's had some of his own health issues and there have been people in his life who have told him things like, "Oh come on, be tough, just work through it."  He's trying.  He's a BIG talker.  That's just part of his personality and I knew...

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      Hi Again,

       

      My husband really is a good man.  He's just having a very hard time understanding.  He's had some of his own health issues and there have been people in his life who have told him things like, "Oh come on, be tough, just work through it."  He's trying.  He's a BIG talker.  That's just part of his personality and I knew that when I married him.  What I didn't know is that sounds would become more irritating to me as time went on, just like smells and visuals.  I also cannot stand to see bright lights or blinking lights (especially strobe lights).  The thing with the cologne is kind of strange.  My husband says that he wants to smell good for me.  I can understand because I use to be that way (until my migraines became scent unfriendly), and it's just that I have to remind him.  By the time I do "remind" him, sometimes it's too late.  When I ask him to wash off his cologne he gets his feelings hurt a little bit.  I DO understand that it's not just hard for me as the pain sufferer.  It's hard for the people in my life sometimes, as well.

       

      Stackable triggers... you and I can definitely relate on that topic.  I know exactly what that's all about and I'm still trying to master it and how it affects my pain threshold.  I, too, try to stay away from large public gathering spots.  Whether it be cologne or cigarette smoke, I just can't be too careful.  I go to church and it's always a gamble.  So far I've been very blessed on that front.  As for other places I go, like the grocery store, I really have to try NOT to get angry whenever I am inundated with smells.  I know that sounds crazy, but it's true.

       

      OK... so I've really gone off topic, and I apologize.  I guess this should be renamed, "Triggers".

       

      Thanks for your feedback, Sandra.  This site has been great.

       

      Sandi

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