everyone I love is "done" with these headaches they think I do it to myself

My family has had it with me.  I have suffered with menstrual migraines since I was 11.  I take all the preventive measures we read about, drink water, watch diet triggers, get regular sleep and exercise.  I have been to countless numbers of doctors taken all different types of meds but have never been able to stop them.  I have always been told there is no cure only management.  My family thinks it is something I do to myself and I should be able to fix it.  This sets me up to try and hide when I have a headache, or plow through and try to keep up normal activities which often makes them worse.  On a good month I will lose 3 days on a bad month it can be 5 to 7.  My kids and husband do not want to listen when I try to educate them.  In their pain free world they seem to feel that there should be "a cure" or some type of answer.  My crazy busy existence often keeps me from thinking about myself or what my body is telling me. Something I think all adults can relate to.  I have made an appointment with a neurologist in the hopes that maybe something can be done.  Does anyone have any suggestions on how to deal with

skeptical, disbelieving family members who just think you like to suffer?  I am so tired of trying to defend myself.  No one wants to live with migraine  I hate missing my kids activities and bailing out at work as much as the next person.