All I wish that people who don't know about migraine should educate themselves on it and not be selfish towards the person who has it. It is hard enough to try telling the person that you can't go or do anything because you are having one of your migraines and seeing their eyes roll or making such a comment to you that it bothers you even more or make you feel guilty because you can't be with them.
It is hard enough when I get it. The symptoms I get from aura to nausea. My senses are out of whack and clumsy as a baby learning to walk. My mood swings are just as worse when I am PMSing or not. Things that I do or catch myself doing is justembarrassing , to some people they think its funny, which I do find it amusing when I remember. Plus its depressing, there is at times I find myself crying and wishing it to go away so I can do things. I have lost out of many things and it has put me through many changes, such as lifestyles to habits. Its difficult enough to find people to understand you and know where you are coming from. For my health, there is health risk that I need to be aware of and pay attention such as strokes. My father died from a stroke in 1989 he was 55 yrs old. As a child, growing up, what I remember he always told me "not today daddy(dad) has a headache," to my assumption he had to be having migraines as well.
<!--{PS..0}-->Fortunately I am lucky enough that some family, relatives and friend who know that I get migraines. Firstly my mom. She was with me when I first diagnose because she was wondering what in the world was wrong with me, so this was a big plus for me and finding out that my sister-in-law has migraine, so at least her and I can share ideas. So this a positive approach to me that I am thankful for this.
Then there is the rest of some family members, a sibling that just don't get it when you tell him/her that you can't/don't want to be bothered but he/she continue on bothering you, relative, whom think that you are their comic relief because of the weird things that you do/did and hope to see you do it again and friends, so called ones that complain to/about you. In my part to help each of these individuals to know about Migraines...I have left books, magazines and fliers around my house, where hoped they'll pick it up and read it. For some did read and the rest well they just looked at the book then put it back. I do see them doing this but for the ones that are not ready I don't question nor push because I know what's like to be pushed/question into something that they may not be ready yet although having these display around the household that hope is still there that may one day they'll pick it again and start to read.
These days when I make plans or do something, I usually pray that the migraine don't appear but if it does I have my ammunition's ready and take it slow. If I have no plans I don't make one at all and for anyone calls well I just tell them today and tomorrow won't be good and I just tell them straight out that I have a Migraine so they have the option to go with or without me. I don't broadcast when I am having a migraine too often but occasionally I will, when I haven't been around much or planning to rest for the next few days so no one gets to worried....like right now.
Just a better understanding is all I and the rest of the peeps who suffer.
Melissa
Hi, Mellie. I, too, feel that people who do not get migraines and/or severe headaches should educate themselves so they can better understand what we go through. I have had to cancel plans many times because I had a migraine. A couple of weeks ago, my husband and I were supposed to go camping with some friends, but had to cancel because I was in bed with a migraine. I haven't talked to that friend since. I can see it from her point that I have to cancel plans once in a while, but I think she should be more understanding. Fortunately, the people who count the most, my husband, parents, siblings, and other family members understand and are very helpful to me when I am unable to do things because of my headaches. Hang in there!!