Snuggling - A Migraine Patent's 30 Days of Gratitude
Migraine is a very isolating disease to live with, especially if you are chronic. When living with it for any length of time, it seems there are two ways patients deal with the isolation: getting emotional about our losses, or seeing more clearly and appreciating the good things that come our way.
People are designed to live in groups, and to share close contact with others. We know this is true for babies, but somehow we have been misled to believe that, as we grow, we no longer need these physical connections. The truth is that we are not emotionally or physically made to be alone. Our bodies react to the sensation of touch by producing chemicals such as oxytocin and endorphins that help chronic pain and make us feel loved, connected and happy. This is not a weakness. It is a strength we receive by our numbers together.
My children are grown, married and have moved away. I feel lucky if I have the opportunity to see them monthly, which, in our close knit family is not nearly enough. When my daughter came back home for a day so we could join forces as a family to help her get her therapeutic massage business launched, let's just say I was a happy mom.
She spent the night, and in the morning, she climbed into my big queen sized bed with me and snuggled a little before she had to leave. It was a few moments when I got to tell her how much it meant to me that I had gotten to see her, and to once again get us all together to do something fun. It reminded me of times long gone, when my kids would come and smoosh me in our bed on Saturday mornings before chores outside. It made me feel good, gushing with love for my family.
I'm lucky. I have a cat that loves to snuggle with me too. She runs into my bedroom each morning, meowing and purring her delight as she pushes her head against my face (this is known as bunting), licking my face, telling me how much she's missed me that night. She knows when I am Migraining, and buries herself under my arms, snuggles up close and purrs me to sleep. I drape myself over her soft fur. and although other sounds may bother me during a Migraine, her soft purring is the one thing that always makes me feel better.
My husband is not a natural snuggler, but when I am hurting, he too can always be counted on to make me a nice soft nest where I can lie next to him. Somehow just feeling him next to me comforts and relaxes me. Sleep comes so much more easily when I'm snuggling next to him.
For day #8 in our 30 Days of Gratitude, I am thankful for the times when I can physically connect with someone or something I love. I am thankful I have people around me who, in frustration haven't given up on me. They care enough to understand that something like a hug or a snuggle, can change my entire day.
Would you like to join us in sharing our thankfulness each day? It's easy to keep a gratitude journal, and you're always welcome to share any of it here in our community. Journals can be handwritten or kept on your computer. To share here, you can create a SharePost of your own, or you can post comments to our posts.
For a listing of all of our 30 Days of Gratitude posts, see A Migraine Patient's 30 Days of Gratitude - Introduction.
Live your best life,
© Ellen Schnakenberg, 2013.
Last updated November 10, 2013.