Borrowed Lives - A Migraine Patient's 30 Days of Gratutide
With two Migraine and headache conferences in November, we were unable to do our 30 Days of Gratitude posts for a few days. We're still committed to this project, so the last few are being added now.
When an iconic peacemaker is lost, the whole world grieves. We grieve for our own personal losses, and sometimes this makes us forget why that person was given to us as a gift in the first place.
Great peacemakers lend us their lives, so our lives can be better. They do this in a big way. The kind of big way that makes the whole world sit up and take notice. The whole world listens. The whole world begins to change their way of thinking. When we're lucky, the whole world begins to take action too.
The loss of Nelson Mandela this week stilled me. That's an old way of saying, it stopped me in my tracks. It didn't shock me, but it did make me instinctively stop, unconsciously suck in my breath, then close my eyes and pray for our world, which is now much less than it was. It made me pray for his friends and family, and those who knew him personally and would feel that sting which comes from losing someone who was an integral part of your life.
So, who will take his place in our world? There are many people who are taking his place today in our world. Our smaller, more personal world. I saw many of them at the American Headache and Migraine Association conference in Scottsdale. I interact with them each day through social media. They are doctors and nurses, and patients and family members and loved ones. Every day they do something that allows someone else to borrow a part of them for a moment. Their actions and devotion. Their words. Their backbone. Their stillness. Their love.
We don't always have big people in our lives who have devoted themselves to lending out pieces to this patient or that patient. Sometimes it is the small quiet husband who leaves early from work to get his wife to an appointment on time. Sometimes it is the neighbor who mows the lawn or shovels the snow when they notice it is in need.
These people too, are creating a revolution by showing the world, or sometimes a single hurting person, what they are worth. Sometimes great revolutions happen quietly, and one person at a time.
Our revolution here is not a big and sparkly, sexy disease. It's one marked with stigma, jokes, embarrassment and crushed spirits. But hidden among those who suffer are a few who are lending us their strength.
For day 25 in our 30 Days of Gratitude, I am thankful for those people I have been fortunate enough to have in my life who have led their own quiet revolution for the betterment of the lives of Migraine and chronically ill patients who can't do it themselves. They've made me a better person. Not just because of the help they've shown me, but because they remind me that every one of us is capable of making a difference. Each grain of sand is important to the beauty of a beach.
Keeping a gratitude journal is one of the ways I cope with being disabled by my Migraines. Teri and others find it helpful for them too, and they're sharing their thankfulness things with you here.
Would you like to join us? It's easy to keep a gratitude journal, and you're always welcome to share any of it here in our community. Journals can be handwritten or kept on your computer. To share here, you can create a SharePost of your own, or you can post comments to our posts.
For a listing of all of our 30 Days of Gratitude posts, see A Migraine Patient's 30 Days of Gratitude - Introduction.
Live your best life,
© Ellen Schnakenberg, 2013.
Last updated December 9, 2013.