Not tonight, I've got a headache

This is a phrase joken about in our culture.  Little do so many know about what headaches can do to the intimate portions of a couple's relationship.  Tonight, while trying to cuddle I began to feel that pinching pain in my neck and shoulder.  Nothing would get rid of it.  I shifted posture several times to no avail.  Kisses are nice, but, when there is pain sometimes affection is irritating and the pain difficult to put out of your mind.  Then there are times when I have started new meds and am too groggy to think about anything.  I just want to sleep.  At those times being romantic is not enticing at all.  How about when I have a mind numbing headache and loads of muscle relaxing, sleep inducing medication is all that helps.  That also doesn't help out with intimacy.  Out of all of those the worst has been that the preventative meds often strip any desire out of me at all.  To the point that a hug seems like a foreign gesture that I plain do not understand the need for.  Some people might add that the frequent weight gain from preventative meds and the problems with taking oral contraceptives (they worsen headaches in some, preventative meds make contraceptives fail at higher rates) also impact their lives.  I never would have thought this to be so impacted from my migraine disease.  Especially as I do not get headaches from exertion or sexual activity.  What I do know is it does bring tears and frustrations.  It does make me curse the chronic headaches.  It also makes me want to fight them harder... for someday there just might be a cure.